Do you really mean that?

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Do you really mean that?

In a world where rudeness is ever more present and almost encouraged as a result of the terrible role model in the White House, I came across this article with a quick phrase to use when someone is being rude. That got me to thinking of ways to respectfully address individuals who are mean, rude or toxic. It’s so easy to think of acerbic responses to assholes, but what if we challenged people in a manner that completely takes the wind from their mean sails? One thing I had learned over the years and something the article also highlighted was the effectiveness of holding a mirror up to an individual excercising bad behavior. It requires subtle skill to basically shame them into behaving more respectfully. Now, of course this does not always work because once again, some individuals have no shame (like Trump). But, I did want to look at ways to take the high road and make an impact on those who are still redeemable. So…of course I did a little research. Here are some additional suggestions.

Apparently the subtle challenge with the five words, “Did you really mean that?” or it’s cousin, “Did I hear you correctly?” works if you say it sarcastically, with a raised eyebrow or dead calm. It’s a perfect tool for disarming the person.”I don’t think you meant it that way, but it sounded a bit harsh.””Perhaps there is a better way to say that?””I’m sure I must have misheard you, can you repeat what you just said?””I’m here to have a conversation, not an argument.””I guess I see the situation different than you.””Perhaps you could explain what you just said.”

In this world we are now in, I think it is increasingly important to try to be civil, even though every single bone in my body sometimes wants to respond like some of my more badass characters in my books. Everyone who has read any of my books in the universe of The Organization knows that those characters aren’t used to being nice and respectful when dealing with assholes. As cathartic as it is for me to write those characters, and maybe even act a little like them in real life, I’m pretty sure it isn’t effective in changing hearts and minds. Of course that does not stop me from loving books with characters that can effectively shred the assholes with a few choice words. I have books with characters who are tactful and others who are not…click the links below to check out my books with a wide variety or responses to assholes!

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