Multiple Orgasms

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Multiple Orgasms

This past week, a reader/friend contacted me wondering if I’d ever written about women’s advantages of having multiple orgasms. I’m pretty sure I haven’t. That got me thinking about a conversation I had with a close friend many years ago, where she insisted that all women are capable of multiple orgasms. I argued that I didn’t believe that was actually true. As the week progressed and I continued to revisit my two conversations, I decided that I needed to conduct further research on this topic. My first question was: How do people define multiple orgasms? How does the refractory period come into play? Are there ways to up the odds of having multiple orgasms? Some of the answers were a little disappointing, but here’s what I learned….

The definition was a little loosey-goosey for me: “Multiple orgasms occur when a person climaxes more than once during a period of sexual activity.” See, for me, the “period of sexual activity” was kind of vague because we all know that could be ten minutes or ten hours. The article went on to clarify that there were varying definitions of multiple orgasms. “Some experts believe that multiple orgasms occur one right after the other, with little ‘down time’ in between.” The thought is that women remain in a state of arousal between each orgasm. But other individuals believe that “Multiple orgasms can occur with more time in between. With this definition, a woman might climax once, rest a bit, then climax again minutes later.” It’s that time between that’s the mystery for me. “The refractory period refers to the time after having an orgasm during which a person is not sexually responsive.” For some, it may mean the person is too sensitive after orgasm. For others, it might mean that the arousal evaporates like the air completely released from a balloon. It can last anywhere from a few minutes to a day. For this reason, most individuals acknowledge that multiple orgasms are more common in women because, on average, men have longer refractory periods. However, some men can have a very short refractory period, which is why they claim they can have multiple orgasms.Of course, most studies on multiple orgasms are on men, so the data is very scant on this topic for women. Go figure! Much of the information on multiple orgasms in women is anecdotal evidence, where there are claims that women can have as many as twenty orgasms, one right after the other.There is also something slightly different from multiple orgasms called stacked orgasms, where the aim is to prevent a person from fully climaxing so they experience a wave of orgasms, remaining in an orgasmic state for much longer.Now…here is the fun stuff that I learned. There are a number of suggestions on how to increase your chance of experiencing multiple orgasms: Focus on clitoral stimulations because according to research, most women require that to achieve orgasm; Slow down and have sex longer because it helps to accommodate different refractory periods (a 2016 study suggested that sex lasting longer than 15 minutes increased the chances of multiple orgasms); Incorporate different types of sexual stimulation (of course we all know that intercourse is not the only way to have sex!); Maturbate and learn what works for you; Slow or change the kind of stimulation; Use sex toys (another study found that about half the women who incorporated toys in their sexy time had multiple orgasms.

Well, there you have it. One thing I will say is that I believe it’s the quality, not the quantity, that matters. So, if you have a longer refractory period and don’t believe you are capable of multiple orgasms, don’t sweat it. I know I’ve read a lot of sapphic romance that incorporates multiple orgasms in their sex scenes. I can’t remember specifically if I’ve ever gone into detail with sex scenes where my characters both had multiple orgasms, but feel free to click the links below to check it out! Also, don’t forget to check out the I Heart Sapphic sale…loads of books available for 99 cents! https://iheartsapphfic.com/books-on-sale/

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