Perpetual Cycle of Hurt

Forum: Communication with ADHD

I am the ADHD partner. I have been with my partner for 10 years. With increasing frequency, it feels as though that I become distracted when she's speaking, or she feels I am not paying attention to her. This recently reached a head last week, where she feels that yet again I chose to not pay attention to her. She has responded with anger, as I've tried to apologize. She even said to me that she doesn't think I'm sorry, but she will make me feel sorry. How do I weather this? How do I get her to see that I do truly care about her, how do I take care of myself as she seems more out to deliver punishment than seeking a path forward?