709 How Manipulators + Narcissists Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Control You

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“Just let people reveal – Because they will reveal themselves in time. Let what you know about people be based in the reality of what they show you.” – Terri Cole

Intro

How manipulatable are you?

When someone is using fear, obligation, and guilt (FOG) to control you, do you recognize it, or not?

If not, or you’ve never heard of FOG, you’re in the right place. This episode is all about the FOG technique, commonly used by narcissists and others to manipulate people to do what they want at all costs. I’m breaking down what it is and sharing real-life examples from my therapy practice to help you become less susceptible. 

Note: the purpose of this episode is to educate you on how people will try to manipulate you, not to make diagnoses. People using one of these tactics in isolation (like guilt) does not automatically make them narcissists.

Highlights:4:30 What does it feel like for you to feel like you’re tolerating something?7:50 How putting up with things depletes our energy10:20 Tricks to de-clutter and stop holding on to things you don’t want12:00 How self-numbing and addiction can come from tolerating things16:00 Facing your fears to stop tolerating things that don’t serve youLinks Mentioned:

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