Avoid him entirely?

Forum: Negotiation and Setting Boundaries

Am having an emotional meltdown at my relative’s holiday house, where my severe ADD partner and I have spent a lot of time as a family. The house and surroundings are a huge trigger now.

I feel this moment (crying my heart out) like shit for how he’s treated me and for what’s happened to other relations as a consequence. I don’t know how to live, I don’t know how to protect myself, but perhaps I should try to avoid him altogether, like never see him for children’s events or anything else?

I feel I need protection since I’ve run out of bravery. Not see him, not go to this holiday house. Is this a good idea? What does one do about betrayal trauma? I’ve tried everything I know of to rebuild life without him, but I’m an emotional wreck. I don’t know how to do anything anymore…

Would be grateful for your ideas.