Queefing

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Queefing

Oh yeah…I am so going there. I know it’s been two weeks since I did my weekly blog, but every time I thought I was turning a corner, my bad cold or whatever it was, came roaring back. I finally feel like myself again, and what better way to come back than to write about queefing. So…what is queefing, some of you might ask? I say some of you because I know there are some who know a queef is a vaginal fart (there is really no indelicate way to say it…so I prefer direct and to the point). Now let’s talk about the other interesting things I learned about queefing.

Queefing can happen at many inopportune times, including during sex, in the middle of yoga class or during a visit to the gynecologist.Queefing is not the same as passing gas, even if they produce a similar toot-like sound.The technical explanation for a queef is that it is an involuntary body function caused when air is pushed into the vagina, gets trapped in the folds of the vaginal canal (rugae), and is then released.How does the air gets inside the canal…well…when fingers or sex toys go in and out of the vagina, they bring in additional air. Basically, this can apply to other things like putting in a tampon or menstrual cap, or the gynecologist inserting a speculum.Because your pelvis is tilted upward in the “doggy style” position, this creates more opportunity for a queef to occur. Another chance for a queef to slip out is when abruptly changing from one position to another. This probably explains how why it happens in yoga sometimes.No need to be embarrassed about an accidental queef, because according to OB-GYNs, almost every woman has experienced this at least once in her life. But if this does embarrass you, keeping those fingers or toy inside while changing positions can lessen the chance you will queef.Queefs are odorless, unlike their counterparts from that other hole! Sorry, unlike a regular fart, you can’t hold in a queef!Women who have given birth or women who have weakened pelvic floor muscles may be prone to more queefing. This is because when the pelvic floor sags, there is a greater likelihood of air entering the vaginal canal.So when it happens, embrace the noise. It’s a lot less awkward to acknowledge, joke about, and laugh, versus making it awkward by pretending it didn’t happen.The only time to be worried about queefing is if you notice a smell or feel pain because that could be an indication of a vaginal infection or possible fistula (a connection between the lower part of the large intestine and the vagina).

So…queef away and laugh about it with your partner. Sex should always be fun and never embarrassing! I am quite sure I’ve never written about a queefing incident, nor do I remember ever reading about one in any of the sapphic novels I devour. Perhaps I should, so that we all feel better about this very natural phenomenon. However, I have included playfulness and joking about sex in a few of my novels, so if you want to check out my work, you know the drill…click the links below. I’m super excited about my latest release, The Love Demand. I have an easier time writing light-hearted sex scenes versus super hot and sensual. I may have attempted both in this book, so I hope you’ll check it out! Plus… Unconventional Lovers and Heart Strings Attached will soon be available in audible!

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