The Secret to Better Orgasms…

One word…interoception. What? Yup…that’s what I said…because how many of you know what the heck interoception means. Well…have no fear because I’m going to tell you all about it! I briefly entertained the idea of the title of this blog being, interoception. But then I figured it wasn’t nearly as sexy a title as the one I chose. So let’s delve into this.

Obviously, the article caught my attention as soon as I read the word orgasm. All of my preconceived notions about is behind more frequent and satisfying orgasms was blown out of the water because no it isn’t having female lovers! Instead the research suggests it has to do with this word I was unfamiliar with. So…what is interoception. A UK study by researchers, Emily Dixon, Giulia L. Poerio, Gerulf Rieger, and Megan Klanunde explored how interoceptive awareness was linked to frequency and satisfaction of orgasms. According to the study, “Interoception-the sense of the internal condition of the body-has been conceptualized as a sensory modality similar to other sensations such as hunger, nausea, and the sense of one’s heartbeat.” Apparently this is like another sense with similar pathways to the brain. There are like specific fibers (C-Fibres) associated with the transmission of interoception sensation. But here is where it gets interesting. Apparently interoception is no different from senses that are considered exteroceptive (connected to external stimuli). Interoception is biologically linked in several ways: anatomical sensory and touch related, cognitive and affective, and the vagus nerve. The bottom line is that the key to satisfying and frequent orgasms is a person’s interoception awareness or how much they notice their reactions. Interoception focuses on those senses within one’s body or a person’s skill in recognizing senses in their body like their increased heartbeat, hunger pains, rapid breathing, or even the need to use the bathroom. It was like a skill. If a person was more attune to their body, such as when they are feeling tense and even exactly where that tension resides, or noticing physical changes in their body when they are happy, they experience more frequent and satisfying orgasms. Lesson learned: focus on being attuned to your body and you’ll have better sex! There is a type of therapy called sensate focus therapy that helps couples notice their own sensations and build trust by sharing them. The goal isn’t orgasm, but to get in touch with the sensations and fully explore what each touch feels like. Of course open and honest communication is a big part of getting to know one’s body.

The more I read sapphic romance, the more I notice how those novels rarely talk about shitty sex. Instead, there is often a running monologue from the main characters categorizing their sensations and acute awareness of their body’s reaction to whatever the love interest is doing. Plus a lot of love scenes feature vocal lovers who are not afraid of telling their partners what they want and need. Maybe that is why the sex is described as satisfying and mind blowing. Does this always happen in real life…maybe not, but perhaps it should. We should follow the lessons taught to us in those novels, because the main characters are often self-aware and communicative (at least as a point of view narrative might suggest). Hopefully I do a good job of this in my sex scenes. Want to check out my books, feel free to click the links below.

Pleasure Workers – Audible