HOW WOMEN UNKNOWINGLY KILL ATTRACTION IN THEIR OWN RELATIONSHIP?
Emasculating means depriving the man of his role as a masculine or making him lose his power and identity as a male. Many women do this unknowingly. This is a sure-shot way of killing attraction between you and your partner.
1) Trying to correct or teach your husband in public and in private.
Our husband is an individual with his own life experiences and understanding.
While we women have strong opinions about everything and a strong motherly instinct to teach and protect, we must learn to gracefully allow our husband to have his individual point of view and lessons. We must learn the art of disagreeing and keeping the respect of our partner intact both in public and private. Though they appear tough, the truth is men are sensitive and we must handle them with delicate hands.
2) Being disrespectful or being critical of your husband to others.
If we paint a bad picture of our husband to others, it is a total disrespect. If we are sorry about it later, what’s the point? Once I saw a friend insulting her husband about his beer belly in front of her family, it was so demeaning to watch her put him down. Clearly, the man felt so hurt and his woman thought she had cracked a joke. We don’t understand when we disrespect the other, we also lose respect.
3) Minimize his sacrifices for his family.
Whatever a man does to be successful is all for his family. And if his woman minimizes his efforts, he will feel he is not good enough. He will feel less and lose his confidence. And then stop doing whatever little he was doing.
4) Minimize his intelligence.
Some of the smartest people I know have only high school diplomas but talk more wisely than IITians or Ph.D.s. So we should not judge our partner basis his educational qualifications, his English speaking skills, his salary package, his designation etc. If he has chosen you, he must be wise.
4) Nagging.
God, I hate this about us women. Most women, including me, do this to no end only digging up the wells of hell for their own relationships. It is extremely exhausting for both parties and should be avoided at all costs. Whenever I catch myself doing this, I slap myself awake.
6) Withholding sex and using it to bargain your way around
Highly manipulative women withhold sex to get their way around. But little do we know that rejection in bed doesn’t go down well with a man. He might start believing there is something wrong with him and reciprocate withholding. Something pure should not be used to get your way around.
7) Shaming your man
Masculine energy craves freedom.
When a woman stifles that, it is control and criticism, and he shuts down. Showing him that he is incapable, not doing well enough for the family and character shaming him, will only shut him down.
When a woman criticizes a man excessively, it communicates:
“I don’t trust you.”
“I don’t respect your decisions.”
“I don’t believe you are capable”
8) Being over-controlling or bossy
If a woman speaks for her man, doesn’t let him take calls independently, or attempts to control or change him — she robs him of his autonomy and identity. When she micromanages him, in the name of being a partner, she is just controlling the situation for her personal advantage.
9) Mothering
Doing everything for him, giving him too much advice and throwing your own opinion on him is all mothering. He already doesn’t appreciate his mother when she does that. So when you do that, you just kill the attraction. You are basically saying you’re more capable than him, you know more than him. Please don’t try to protect him, it is his job.
10) Complain about his job or salary
Constantly telling him that he is not earning well and how he could do better is extremely hurting to the man’s identity. He has been conditioned to be a provider and our criticism doesn’t allow him to get that respect in his own eyes.
11) Ask him for help, then tell him he’s doing it wrong.
This is another common mistake we make. We first ask him for help and then nag him into doing it our way. We are too closed to try his way of doing things. We slap our techniques on him softly. The cunningness of a woman is often draped in a soft smile.
12) Treat him like he’s a robot with no feelings.
Just because he doesn’t communicate doesn’t mean he doesn’t feel bad.
When we don’t take accountability for our actions that might hurt him. We should express our gratitude from time to time and not take all that he does for us for granted.
13) Keep repeating how childish he is.
I repeat masculine energy is freedom-loving. They like to be spontaneous like a child. That is why we fell for them in the first place. If we don’t let them be childlike- playful, carefree, stress-free- it will definitely kill the attraction.
14) Criticising him in bed
Making fun of his family jewels or his unique ways to lure you into bed is a sure way to blow his ego. By comparing his physical attributes to others, we not only are killing his spirit, we are killing his attraction towards us too.
When I first got to know about emasculation, I was shocked. I understood how I was self-sabotaging my own relationships unknowingly. If only I had been taught all this before, so much hurt could have been saved. But then, we get there when we get there. [image error]HOW WOMEN UNKNOWINGLY KILL ATTRACTION IN THEIR OWN RELATIONSHIP? was originally published in Twin Flame on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.
