The App Purchases Cautionary Tale: A Lesson in Patience and Creative Thinking

I often find myself navigating the world of technology and screen time more cautiously than most. My son loves his games, especially the ones where he can solve math puzzles or go on exciting adventures in the car racing games. I get it—the games are fun and keep him engaged, which can be a lifesaver when I need a little break. But there’s one thing I didn’t expect to encounter: the dreaded in-app purchases.

It started innocently enough. My son would be playing his usual game, happily racing cars or collecting virtual stars, when suddenly, a message would pop up: “Unlock the next level for just $4.99!” It seemed harmless, right? Just another level. But as soon as he saw that, his eyes lit up excitedly. He wanted it. Badly. And suddenly, it wasn’t just about racing cars—it was about getting to the next shiny thing that would make the game even better.

Now, let’s talk about why this moment is tricky for us. In a world of instant gratification, it can be hard to explain to a child why they can’t just click that button and unlock something cool immediately. And while I could have simply said, “No, we’re not buying that,” I knew there was a more significant lesson here. Something that could help my son understand why we don’t make those purchases and teach him an important life skill: delayed gratification.

But how do you explain patience to a 7-year-old still figuring out how to manage his impulses? How do you make the idea of “waiting for something better” appealing when the “next shiny thing” feels so tempting?

Here’s what we did:

Instead of a simple “no,” we turned the situation into a story. We sat down, and I explained that while the shiny car looked fun, there were other exciting things we could save for, like a new toy he’d been eyeing or a memorable trip we could take together. I pulled out a stack of coloured markers, paper, and stickers, and we started brainstorming what “waiting” might look like in our world. We drew pictures of everything he could save for and made a fun ‘dream board’ of goals. His task? To save a little bit each time, he earned pocket money or completed a task, like cleaning up after playtime or helping with chores.

The art of it was something he could feel—he was drawing his dreams and goals and visualizing the reward at the end of the rainbow. We even added a few fun stickers for extra motivation. Slowly but surely, I saw the spark of excitement shift from the instant gratification of the game level to the excitement of saving up for something bigger.

One of the things that really resonated with him was the idea of having control over his savings. Instead of feeling like a victim of the “purchase trap,” he began to feel empowered. And the best part? He was able to take ownership of his choices. The money in his pocket wallet, earned from completing little tasks and chores, became a source of pride. It wasn’t just about getting something now but about what he could build for his future.

This approach gave him an understanding of money and opened up a conversation about patience. Rather than feeling deprived or upset, he began viewing waiting as a choice that could lead to something better than a quick game upgrade.

We also used our creative time to reflect on the nature of those in-app purchases. He understood that the temptation to buy more could quickly snowball once we buy one thing. I didn’t need to say, “It’s bad to buy in-app stuff,” because he felt the difference. He understood that waiting for something special, something he had worked for, made it all the more meaningful.

Ultimately, this wasn’t just about saying “no” to purchases—it was about teaching him a valuable life lesson through something as simple as a game. We talked about how waiting, saving, and working towards a goal builds patience and self-control—skills that will serve him in many areas of life. And even if he didn’t immediately love the idea of waiting, we both knew that through creativity and open conversation, we had turned a simple app purchase warning into a more profound lesson that would last far beyond the screen.

So, the next time your child encounters one of those in-app purchase traps, I encourage you to pause. Don’t just say “no” right away. Find a way to make the situation part of a more extensive conversation—one that’s full of creativity, imagination, and patience. Who knows? You might just turn a cautionary tale into a teaching moment they’ll carry with them for a lifetime.

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If you need help navigating these moments with your child, or you’re looking for strategies to build patience and self-regulation, feel free to contact me for a 1:1 consultation. I’m here to support you every step of the way.

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