Do you have a voting plan for your child? Here’s Why It Matters!

As parents, we’re often in the driver’s seat—deciding what our kids eat, wear, and do. But have you ever considered handing them the wheel for a bit? Not entirely, of course, but in small ways that allow them to “vote” daily. 

Let me share what happens in my home. 

My son, who has ADHD, thrives on choices. I give him options daily: “Do you want to play soccer or paint?” “Shall we solve some math sums or play Snakes and Ladders?” These little decisions empower him, giving him a sense of control in a world that sometimes feels too structured. 

Each choice he makes is a vote—his way of expressing what he needs and wants at that moment. And let me tell you, these votes aren’t just about activities; they’re about growth, confidence, and connection. 

Why Small Choices Matter 

Kids, especially those with unique needs, often feel overwhelmed by rigid routines and constant instructions. Giving them a say—even in simple things—helps them feel valued. It teaches them that their voice matters and that they have a role in shaping their day. 

For my son, it’s not about grand, open-ended questions but manageable, concrete options. When I ask him, “Do you want bread butter or pancakes for breakfast?” or “Would you like to do math or play tag?” he feels empowered. These choices build his decision-making skills and make him feel capable. 

Confidence Through Choices 

Allowing kids to make choices boosts their self-confidence. They start seeing themselves as capable and independent. For my son, who sometimes struggles with reading, pairing choices works wonders. 

For example, he loves math but avoids reading because it takes more effort. When I say, “Let’s solve math problems together—do you want me to read them to you, or will you read them first?” he feels in control. His vote decides the flow, and he ends up engaging with both. 

Emotional Voting 

Choices aren’t just for activities—they’re for emotions, too. When my son feels overwhelmed, I ask, “Do you want to talk about it, or would you rather take some cool-off time?” Giving him options allows him to process his feelings in a way that feels natural to him. 

Sometimes, he picks up crayons and draws a flurry of colours. He often simply says, “Let’s talk while we play a game.” Either way, he’s expressing himself in his own way, and I’m there to support him. 

How You Can Start Offer Concrete Options: Provide two or three choices instead of open-ended questions. “Do you want to read a story or play a game?” or “Would you like a milkshake or juice with your snack?” Pair Strengths with Challenges: Balance something your child enjoys with something they find difficult. For example, mix math (a favourite) with a reading task. Encourage Emotional Choices: When your child is upset, let them choose how to process their feelings—through drawing, talking, or playing. Celebrate Their Decisions: Acknowledge their choices with positivity. “Great idea! I love that you chose soccer—it’s a fun way to move around!” The Big Picture 

Parenting is about balance. While we guide and nurture, giving our kids choices is a way to let them lead in small but significant ways. These every day “votes” teach independence, build confidence, and deepen our connection with them. 

So, what’s your voting plan today? How do you help your child make choices that celebrate their unique personality? 

If you’d like support in navigating your child’s needs, let’s chat. Book a 1:1 consultation with me here. Together, we can create a plan tailored for your family. 

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Remember, the small votes they cast today lead to big wins in confidence and self-expression tomorrow. Let’s raise decision-makers who shine!

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Recommended Products to Encourage Choice-Making and Creativity

Here are some great resources to support your child’s journey in making choices and expressing themselves creatively:

Brain Booster Activity Book for Kids (Ages 3+)

   A collection of 200+ activities designed to enhance your child’s cognitive skills while having fun. Great for promoting decision-making as they select activities to complete.

Interactive Activity Books for 5-7 Year Olds

   These activity books provide a variety of fun challenges—like mazes, puzzles, and word searches—that your child can choose from, helping them playfully build problem-solving and choice-making skills.

Creative Coloring and Drawing Books

   Let your child explore different emotions and thoughts through art. These books offer a wide range of illustrations encouraging free expression, allowing your child to decide how to colour and draw, and helping with emotional regulation and creativity.

Tactile Learning Kits

   These kits often include stickers, textured papers, and cut-outs, which let kids choose their preferred activities. They help improve fine motor skills, creativity, and decision-making in a hands-on environment.

You can explore these options to support your child’s growth through fun and engaging choices.