Pity

If you had to give up one word that you use regularly, what would it be?

She could not have borne their pity, and their whispered remarks to one another upon her strange situation; though she would almost have faced a knowledge of her circumstances by every individual there, so long as her story had remained isolated in the mind of each. It was the interchange of ideas about her that made her sensitiveness wince.”

Author: Thomas Hardy

Book: Tess of the D’Urbervilles

The character they are talking about: Tess Durbeyfield.

It’s not a word I use often but more a word I hear. It’s such a pity… it’s a pity more is done about such and such … it’s a pity the government let such a thing happen. And on it goes. Pity is such a small word.

What does it mean?

According to the dictionary definition of the words pity

noun

1. the feeling of sorrow and compassion caused by the suffering and misfortune of others.2. a cause for regret or disappointment it’s a pity you didn’t contact us first”

verb

feel sorrow for the misfortune of- ‘I could see from their faces that they pitied me”

Instead of saying it’s a pity… why can’t we start doing more for ourselves. After all we have many more options at our disposal into days world.

You would think that people would want to be more self-sufficient than under the power of others. If you rely on your government to provide for you and your family they have more control over your life.

It’s the same when countries rely on other countries for food, energy, medicine and doctors, handouts etc you are becoming weaker instead of stronger.

Grow-your-own

Being self-reliant makes you stronger and able to overcome obstacles. You’re are less likely to suffer depression because you know you have the ability to find other options to solve problems.

Pity is an excuse in my book.

Tess was a strong woman. She learnt the hard way that life isn’t always easy and you can’t rely on others.

Be strong. Write down your options and remember you might have to make a few tough choices but with hard work you can build a better future for yourself without handouts from others.

Be at peace. Your life is yours to live.

Thank you for reading my post.