What Men Most Hate About Women - 7 Deadly Relational Sins
What men most hate about women must be prefaced with the inescapable truth that men deeply love and cherish women. Hence the emotional bond that so torments men (and sometimes seemingly prevents them from confronting and correcting character flaws) when the object of their affection do things that annoy, irritate and anger them. Also as there are things about men that women hate (ladies being usually more forthright about saying so), it is also worth noting what men most hate about women.
Here is my top 5 list as to what men most hate about women:
1. Complaining - rather than being a part of the solution, complaining women rather exhaust their mental and emotional energy to complain.
2. Drama - excessive emotion, verbosity and rambling incessantly over trivial things ...an emotionally exhausting experience for men.
3. Blaming - pointing the finger and casting blame rather than being woman and lady enough to take responsibility for her own actions, contributory negligence, neglect, unwillingness to address the problem and inactivity preferring to cast blame elsewhere instead of taking responsibility.
4. Yelling - as if hieghtening the volume helps you be heard... on the contrary it erects emotional walls, relational resistance and shuts men off from you entirely.
5. Playing weak and incapable - in an attempt to arouse male compassion and pity ...sometimes to intervene when in actuality the woman is being pure lazy, a diva and not really a damsel in distress but a manipulating and calculating person who is unwilling to lift a finger and attend to her own problems herself.
6. Inability and unwillingness to listen - Most men know (as it has also been statistically proven in many studies) that women say more words than men daily. But that doesn't mean when we men talk, we don't want you to listen. Women (not all, but some) sometimes have a hard to listening as they are so used to doing the majority of the talking.
7. Uncompassionate - I know this doesn't come to mind when we think of women, but consider this. Women are accustomed to receiving sympathy and compassion from men, females being the weaker sex physically (and arguably emotionally, although I also would say women are more emotionally intelligent). Yet that doesn't mean or remove the reality of the fact that men too need a bit of compassion, tenderness and sympathy once in a while.
I was amazed to see how the women in my life over the years have treated me the odd time I got sick, had surgery, or needed some sympathy. The compassion never came (and if it did, I had to have someone first feel my head to affirm I had a high fever and felt like a wreck until she'd finally lay off and show some compassion and drop the drama).
This tells me women (some, not all :o) like to receive compassion and sympathy, but aren't always so good at giving it.
I believe in relationships - professionally and relationally - there needs to be a level playing field. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Ladies, if you want to have a successful relationship and not have your man come to hate you, just remember it's not all about you.
In conclusion, as a love and relational coach, these are the things I hear frequently as to what men most hate about women. The good news is most of them are intangible, communication oriented, and personal attitudes we an all adjust, improve upon and correct to thereby improve our relationships.
Obviously for every man the list of what men most hate about women will vary and differ in order of importance. However instinctively I think these 5 things about what men most hate about women will find some level of agreement among men. If not, please correct me if I'm wrong gentlemen.
Insecure and offended ladies may request life coaching to resolve inner and relational conflict to become more likeable to men and your man in particular (if desirable).
I love everybody unconditionally, but after traveling to 68 countries and living overseas... I've dated women of all races, backgrounds and personalities ...and felt this post about what men most hate about women would help men feel normal and women become more self-aware.
Of course in due time, when inspiration affords and provokes me, I shall do a similar post in the future about what women most hate about men. Undoubtedly the women will likely not hesitate to inform and help me for this task.
Blessings for peace and happiness to you all.
http://www.PaulFDavis.com love and life coach, worldwide motivational speaker, author and minister helping people throughout the world be better and live their dreams!
(info@PaulFDavis.com)
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Here is my top 5 list as to what men most hate about women:
1. Complaining - rather than being a part of the solution, complaining women rather exhaust their mental and emotional energy to complain.
2. Drama - excessive emotion, verbosity and rambling incessantly over trivial things ...an emotionally exhausting experience for men.
3. Blaming - pointing the finger and casting blame rather than being woman and lady enough to take responsibility for her own actions, contributory negligence, neglect, unwillingness to address the problem and inactivity preferring to cast blame elsewhere instead of taking responsibility.
4. Yelling - as if hieghtening the volume helps you be heard... on the contrary it erects emotional walls, relational resistance and shuts men off from you entirely.
5. Playing weak and incapable - in an attempt to arouse male compassion and pity ...sometimes to intervene when in actuality the woman is being pure lazy, a diva and not really a damsel in distress but a manipulating and calculating person who is unwilling to lift a finger and attend to her own problems herself.
6. Inability and unwillingness to listen - Most men know (as it has also been statistically proven in many studies) that women say more words than men daily. But that doesn't mean when we men talk, we don't want you to listen. Women (not all, but some) sometimes have a hard to listening as they are so used to doing the majority of the talking.
7. Uncompassionate - I know this doesn't come to mind when we think of women, but consider this. Women are accustomed to receiving sympathy and compassion from men, females being the weaker sex physically (and arguably emotionally, although I also would say women are more emotionally intelligent). Yet that doesn't mean or remove the reality of the fact that men too need a bit of compassion, tenderness and sympathy once in a while.
I was amazed to see how the women in my life over the years have treated me the odd time I got sick, had surgery, or needed some sympathy. The compassion never came (and if it did, I had to have someone first feel my head to affirm I had a high fever and felt like a wreck until she'd finally lay off and show some compassion and drop the drama).
This tells me women (some, not all :o) like to receive compassion and sympathy, but aren't always so good at giving it.
I believe in relationships - professionally and relationally - there needs to be a level playing field. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Ladies, if you want to have a successful relationship and not have your man come to hate you, just remember it's not all about you.
In conclusion, as a love and relational coach, these are the things I hear frequently as to what men most hate about women. The good news is most of them are intangible, communication oriented, and personal attitudes we an all adjust, improve upon and correct to thereby improve our relationships.
Obviously for every man the list of what men most hate about women will vary and differ in order of importance. However instinctively I think these 5 things about what men most hate about women will find some level of agreement among men. If not, please correct me if I'm wrong gentlemen.
Insecure and offended ladies may request life coaching to resolve inner and relational conflict to become more likeable to men and your man in particular (if desirable).
I love everybody unconditionally, but after traveling to 68 countries and living overseas... I've dated women of all races, backgrounds and personalities ...and felt this post about what men most hate about women would help men feel normal and women become more self-aware.
Of course in due time, when inspiration affords and provokes me, I shall do a similar post in the future about what women most hate about men. Undoubtedly the women will likely not hesitate to inform and help me for this task.
Blessings for peace and happiness to you all.
http://www.PaulFDavis.com love and life coach, worldwide motivational speaker, author and minister helping people throughout the world be better and live their dreams!
(info@PaulFDavis.com)
http://www.Facebook.com/speakers4insp...
http://www.Linkedin.com/in/worldprope...
http://www.Twitter.com/PaulFDavis
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