Abusive Spouse, Unhappy House - Yet I'm Wiser and Stronger

An abusive spouse
Living with a monster
A preposterous impostor
Societally proper and polished
But privately ugly and demolished
Perpetuating childhood pain
Manifesting anger and disdain
When anything out of the ordinary
When anything suddenly unexpected
Something beyond one's control
When anything like this occurs
"Oh no! Oh shit! Damn it! Oh my!"
Let's shout, scream and cry!
Up the volume! Increase the intensity!
Point the finger and ridicule immediately
Cast blame and project aggressively
Our uncontrollable emotions violently
Hemorrhage profusely and deliberately
In an attempt to right all wrongs
Point the finger and assign blame
Focus all the toxicity of one's life
Release all pent up emotions and strife
Tell your beloved they are the cause
Of all your life's struggles and troubles
Oh yes, so easy to not take responsibility
Deny any negligence, culpability or accountability
Just point, curse, scream and demean
Be foul, cast blame and name call
Belittle your beloved and you stand tall
Oh don't you feel better about yourself now?
Uh, look in the mirror and fake a smile
Answer the phone with a friendly hello
Act like the quarrel never occurred you know
Fake it til you make it, or you crack inside
Reach functional obsolescence in stride
Deteriorate, decay and dissolve from within
Yet hurry and pull yourself together to spin
To project the princess and lovely persona
Your public image and majestic madonna
"Oh, how lovely!" They all will say.
If only they came home with you at the end of the day!
There they could see a different person
A different woman, lady, diva and darling
Then the one they publicly uphold and know
Because you my dear are a false, phony show.
When will you awake to your inner issues?
Not just awake, but deal with them in full?
Because the longer you delay the more they dull
Take away from the true tenderness and essence within
Because indeed you possess good qualities
However they are driven below the surface
Beneath the layers of vile dross and dust
The toxic emotions and learned behaviors
That make you ball, squall, squirm and cuss
"Oh come on! I'm not that bad! Why all the fuss?"
We all have dreadful blind spots my dearest.
Yet they need not overtake and possess us
We can overcome them when we honestly identify and address them
Yet living in denial and pointing the finger elsewhere
These subtle denial tactics will not serve you well
In fact my darling, this is the path to demon possession, abuse, divorce and hell.
Enduring such abuse regardless of gender
Makes for a sad, somber and unhappy house
Yet living and learning I'm wiser and stronger
The control freak, belittling, belligerent abusive spouse
I am acquainted with and personally know
Swift and fleeting apologies without fruit bearing repentance come and go
Yet walking on egg shelves and living in fear
This emotional state that makes an unhappy man and unhappy house ...
These I shall not embrace, nor hold dear
For I've overcome these before and shut the door
Wiser and stronger, these I shall endure no more!
So wake up my darling for your time is short
These toxic emotions and tendencies in you - I no more shall tolerate, nor court.

http://www.PaulFDavis.com - author of 'Poems That Propel The Planet', 'Healthy Relationships' and 'Breakthrough For a Broken Heart'

(info@PaulFDavis.com) - life and love coach teaching men and women alike how to deal with an abusive spouse, an unhappy house and to regain their personal power and joy for living, while growing wiser and stronger