The power of playfulness
(Nimue)
It’s well established that play is critically important for how children learn and develop. Play is a key part of how a child learns about the world, explores, interacts, tests out ideas, consolidates learning, and connects socially. However, what we don’t talk about much is the role of play in adult life.
We need fun in our lives. We need laughter and joy, and things that enable us to let off steam and relax. For some reason, adult play tends to rely heavily on sport, alcohol and structured games that you pay to participate in or buy. However, all kinds of play are beneficial to our mental health and we all have things that work for us, and things that don’t.
Adults also benefit from being able to muck about in a relaxed way, try things, explore, and engage imaginatively with the world. Imaginations are a lot like muscles in that if you don’t use them, they get weak. Imaginations need regular workouts, challenges and opportunities. The person who is in the habit of thinking creatively is well placed to do that under pressure. Problem solving depends on imagination. So does innovation. If we’re going to make deliberate changes in any aspect of our lives then we need to imagine it first. Play has serious consequences in that it benefits our minds and makes us more able to take on challenges.
Fear of messing up and being judged paralyzes a lot of people. When you’re trying to look ‘normal’ and fit in, not draw attention or ridicule, not make a fool of yourself, then life has to be very narrow. Playfulness opens up possibilities. It keeps a person from taking themselves so seriously that they can’t enjoy life. Playfulness enables self-expression and joy in a way that trying not to look foolish never can. It means not having to get drunk before you feel able to get up and dance. Wearing the clothes you want to wear rather than what you think other people will approve of. Living a life that makes you happy rather than existing on other people’s terms.
Work is not the reason for human existence. We aren’t here to make money for other people. We don’t owe anyone solemnity or boredom. For life to be rich and happy, there has to be room for a bit of frivolity and nonsense and things that aren’t all about being productive. Sing loudly, dance with enthusiasm, write whatever entertains you, cook the foods you love, dress for your own pleasure, play games, be silly. Whatever kind of play delights you, make time for it and don’t let anyone shame you into not following your heart.
