Time to Admit Defeat

Years ago, when I was dating an ex, he came into my bedroom and looking at the schedule I'd posted on the back of my door, frowned.  "You scheduled spontaneous time," he said, "From 2:00-4:00 on Saturdays."

"Yes," I said, "It seems the perfect time to be spontaneous."

His frown deepened, he said nothing else…and of course we broke up.

I realized, later, that what threw him was the planning of spontaneous time, which I suppose still seems odd, but to me, still makes sense.  Why can't I...