When was the last time you edited or updated yourself?

We update our computers, furniture, home, and people in our life. We constantly edit our lives consciously or unconsciously. We write the To-Do Lists and To buy Lists. We declutter our homes. What do we forget here?!

When is the time to edit, update, and declutter your own self?

We think who we are is fixed and we will be whoever we are today for the rest of our lives.

We say my parents made me like this, my life made me the person I am today. Which I believe is true. But what we all forget at times is that we can shape and reshape ourselves as much as we want, as often as we shall decide. 

We often use the I am the way I am because of as an excuse to stay unhealthy, not to improve our skills, our human nature, and characteristics as well. 

Everyone is foolishly wise. We all know how other’s should live their lives. We even know what steps they should take so they can be “better”. 

Truly wise people know thyself. They have mastered the habit of thought and habit of action. 

Foolishly wise people know everything in theory. Truly wise people apply their knowledge to their life, they take action according to their knowledge and knowing. 

Every day is a new day. And every day will be the day that will never repeat itself. Every day you wake up as a new, fresh person. You choose to live in the past.

Most people live in the past because they think in the past. The moment they wake up, they focus on what’s absent from their life; I feel sleepy, my neighbor is still singing, my dog didn’t let me sleep, my boss was unfair yesterday, that lady in the store was so annoying, my mother did this, my car needs repair… 

We wake up and start thinking about what was yesterday or even a week or a year ago. Most people live in past, some of them live in the past present reality, very few live in the present future reality.

Past is familiar, the present is all we truly have an impact on, the future is a beautiful mystery.

The self you knew yesterday, or a minute ago has passed, the person you can be right now at this very moment is your own decision and the person who you will be tomorrow is determined by the person who you decide to be today.

The actions you are taking today, the thoughts you are choosing, the words you are saying determines who you will be tomorrow. 

Your future starts now. What you really don’t want is to disappoint your future self. You are responsible for yourself and for your future self. 

Steps you can take towards updating yourself:

Have a vision of your future self. Have a clear vision of what kind of person you want to be. How does the best version of yourself look like? Journal about the personal skills you want to acquire. Do you want to have unspeakable patience or peace? Do you want to become a happier person in general? Do you want to become more loving or caring? Write it down. Remember you can create and recreate yourself. Imagine yourself like a canvas and you being an artist. You can paint anything you want, literally anything. So you can become anyone you want, by consistently making choices towards your vision. Everything is already inside of you. Imagine you want to become a more patient person. You will most likely think that you need to learn how to be patient, that patience is outside of you. That’s the mistake most of us make. You are already patient. Patience is within you, the only thing you need to do is to reconnect to it. Find it in yourself and reconnect to it. To make patience your new habit, your blueprint. You adopt a habit through consistent effort.Consistency is key. We hear it all the time, but it is true. Every single day when you wake up imagine yourself as already being a patient person. Our subconscious mind only operates in the present time. It can only believe in the present time. Every single day as often as possible imagine yourself already being the most patient person in the world. Say things like; I am unshakable patience. Patience is my blueprint, I am the most patient person in the world. Do it consistently until your mind believes it. Tell yourself better lies. We all lie to ourselves. You know you can be patient, if you try you can recall many situations when you remained patient. So you already know how to do it, you just don’t do it most of the time. Because either you are being lazy, or negative people surround you. Working on ourselves requires a tremendous amount of willpower and then actually living the comfort zone and taking action. It requires constant effort. So when you are saying you aren’t a patient person you are lying. Let’s tell yourself a way better lie which is that you are the most patient person. Say it to yourself until it becomes your reality. Our minds are our servants, it eats whatever we feed to it. It believes whatever we tell. It operates according to what it consumes. Consume the information you want to become. You are what you consume. If you listen to the news all the time you become it, if you consume Tony Robbins all the time, you become him. What I mean by you become it, is that you will constantly think about what you consume. The body is a servant of a mind and it reacts to a thought. If you have negative thoughts, they manifest themselves in your body, if you have better positive thoughts it manifests in your body as well. In the first case, your body will become poisoned, in the second case, your body will flourish. Know thyself. Know your strength and know your weakness. Oftentimes people think something is their weakness when in reality it’s the opposite. 

If you are a people pleaser, you might think it’s a weakness, you might try to change yourself and not succeed in it. Instead of changing yourself just learn to also please yourself. There is nothing bad about enjoying to please people. We all love it. We all feel wonderful after pleasing others. It only will be a problem if we only feel enough if other’s are pleased by us. So in that case you just need to learn how to love yourself and please yourself first before you please others. You don’t need to remove the people-pleasing nature from yourself, you just need to add the self-pleasing aspect to it. You don’t have to live off of other people’s satisfaction. You should love your own self so profoundly and be so pleased with your life, that’s the only thing that is left to do is to share it with loved ones. But before you can achieve that state of self-love, be in trying mode. Try to please your own self while you please others. Naturally, you will become so full of love that you’ll start to overflow. 

This was just a drop in the Ocean of how you can become the best version of yourself. Most of us can’t change in a second, but we can change in many seconds. Have compassion throughout the journey for yourself. Don’t have the false expectations that you will be a new person in one day and don’t attach to those false expectations. Try to be the best version of yourself moment to moment basis. When your head hits the pillow make sure you let whatever you did and whoever you were that day to be enough.

The only thing you can do is to try and to try consistently. To think the thoughts and to take the actions that will set you up for success. To be the person who you love and like. To always do the right things no matter how hard it is. To be the best version of yourself moment to moment basis.

At times you are going to be a master when other moments you’ll be a student. Life is a dance between you being the master and you being the student.

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