How To Find Peace In Chaos

Recently I had a pretty Chaotic day. But even though I was physically tired I was full of gratitude and felt very content.

I’m going to share the details of my chaotic day. And the intention for that is to just show you what I meant by a chaotic day. Then I’m going to share how I maintained a calm attitude. 

It all started when I checked the mail and realized that my book copies arrived at the wrong address. So 2 months ago I published my first book, I thought I ordered the copies on the address I lived in that moment. Turned out that the package has arrived in the UPS. We had our mailbox there in the past.

 Usually, UPS send packages back immediately. When I realized that package was delivered in the UPS I ran home from outside, called them. Thank god the woman told me that the package was still there and I could get it for an extra fee. Normally they send back packages immediately. 

So here’s the thing now. It happened on July 3rd.  The next day was the 4th of July plus my son’s birthday. I was leaving the Island for good on Monday, July 6. So there was no other time I could go accept that very moment. I needed my book copies because I had to leave them in the Local Crystal shop. 

I hang up my phone with the UPS agent at 12:48 pm on Friday. I had my nails appointment at 3:30 pm and I was meeting someone to sell something at 3 pm. The UPS store I’m talking about was in Kailua and I lived in Pupukea. I had to drive 1 hour and 12 minutes just one way to get there, pick up the package. Next, go to USPS send another package back home in Georgia, I had to drop off the copy of my book to my friend, go to Goodwill to buy a carry on bag, go in Wahiawa from Kailua to meet the woman and then do my nails. For someone that would sound impossible, but not for me.

Without giving too much thought I just took my bag, water, and 2 bananas and left home immediately. I had expectations of meeting my goals, but I wasn’t attached to them and I was ok with not meeting them. I was making sure that I was conscious and present for the most part of my day. I was monitoring and filtering my thoughts and I was letting myself feel tired. Because no matter how accepting you are of your chaotic moments or day you are going to get tired after running around and driving so much. 

I was reminding myself of how grateful I was for my ability to even drive, walk, breathe, see hear. When I was running to make it I was becoming aware of my breath. In the car, I tried to focus on the road and become present. I was letting go of the thoughts that weren’t serving me. I also wasn’t overly positive. I just was thinking that “I trust the universe and what’s for me comes to me”. I thought “I want to achieve all my goals today but it’s okay if I can’t”.

So what’s the secret here?

Surrendering, accepting, letting go, not attaching, monitoring your thoughts constantly, changing your self-talk, Gratitude, being present, and aware of your environment and aware of yourself in the environment. 

I know it sounds like a lot. I have been working on those skills for years now and slowly I formed those skills and transformed them into habits. And even after working on myself for so long, I have so many unconscious moments throughout my day. I surprise myself sometimes of how reactive I can get if I’m not monitoring my thoughts and actions. 

That day I managed to do almost everything, except I physically wasn’t able to meet the woman, to whom I was selling a handbag, and thank the Universe the woman itself canceled and I met her the next day and managed to sell the handbag anyways.

It’s all about letting the universe know what you want and then doing your own part and letting the universe do his own. You have to let go of the control for the part that isn’t under your power in the first place. You only have control over yourself, your thought, actions, and words. You can only change your response to a situation and outlook on the world.

Be aware and be in the moment. Do not listen to your thought and see things for what they truly are and don’t make up false stories and don’t make things worse than they are. Thinking is a great tool if you use it wisely. It’s not about being always positive it’s about seeing things as they are and being okay with them. It’s not about being overly positive. If you are sad you can be sad if you are tired you can be tired, but you don’t have to be a victim and make the situation tragic. it’s all about being okay with things not being okay.

For the Universe, everything is always okay. It’s only us humans who label things as good and bad. we call situations that we like good and situations that we don’t enjoy- bad. Something that is great for us might be a disaster for someone else. Keep in mind that the world is just a perception of a bunch of human beings. Avoid labeling and become an observer. Be responsive rather than reactive. Be okay when things are good and be okay when things are not okay. Remember good or bad it too shall pass.

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