#hearLDSwomen: I Was Ignored; I Was Asked to Make My Voice Smaller

[image error]I give answers in Sunday school, and the teacher says “Okay… Next comment?” And a man paraphrases my answer as his own and gets lauded for his thinking.

– Jennifer

 

When I was in the Marriage and Family relations Sunday School class a few years ago, the teacher was fond of doing Powerpoints with a bajillion quotes. He said that he only wanted men to read them aloud to the class because “their voices carry better.” This same teacher also blamed the rise in crime in the US since WWII on working moms and talked about his male students at BYU who couldn’t find a wife because the women were too focused on their careers to get married.

– Anonymous

 

When I was 18 years old I was a Family Home Evening group “Mom.” I was in an off campus ward at BYU with all returned missionaries. My partner (the Family Home Evening group “Dad”) took me on a walk after a game night to tell me that I needed to be quieter, less jovial, more calm.

My wonderful roommates heard and called the bishop. He showed up at my door, listened, counseled with me, then went right over and censured that dude. Dude apologized.



The problem is, I never got it out of my head that being ME was too much. Bishop handled the whole thing perfectly. I just wish it had never happened at all.

– Morgan Hagey

 

Pro tip: When women share their thoughts in class, listen. If you’re not valuing women, the problem isn’t their voices, it’s your attitude.

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“If any man have ears to hear, let him hear.” (Mark 4:23)