Our choice & use of WORDS

In any given day of our lives, we have choices to make. We sometimes have to make big choices about major events and have to think long and hard about such matters, perhaps making a choice of whether to buy a home or not.
Where we are going to live, what are the schools like for our children or even what will we have for dinner ?
These kind of things we actually think about them. We have some thoughts about our choices and we make a decision. Pretty simple process really and we are thinking and making all day everyday in our life.
What to wear ? How to look? Who to phone up & at what time is a good time to call them?
These are a few examples of things we casually think about and some we think a little more about and we, well some might even say, "I have made a conscious decision to ....."

So my question or thought really today is about words. Yup WORDS!!
How come it is that we use words all day everyday, we speak like there is no tomorrow and yet we do not give them as much thought.
I was having a chat with somebody this past weekend and it was this point precisely I was trying to make, we use words in a way like there is no thought.
The process that happens, if we think about it for a moment, we may just say "oh yeah, we don't really do we?"
So we think a word, then say a word and then hear the word all at the same time. That is like 3 basic processes all around our choice of words that we speak and we put little thought in to them. We hear the words in our head just before we speak them and right as we speak them so the words we choose are ringing all around us right as we converse.
Do we think that perhaps if we have a little thought to those words we use, would it possibly to brain wash ourselves, well brainwash might be a bit strong but the concept of teaching ourselves to "be well"

Example, someone could say to me what did you think of x factor? I can answer, "I hate when they do this or that"
I have just heard myself say HATE
Someone can ask me "how are you doing today?"
I might answer "today is a bad day"
I have just heard myself say BAD
In conversation someone could ask "would you like an ice cream?"
I can answer " I don't like icecream"
I just heard myself say DONT

So for me I have used some words there without any real thought and they sound a little negative. My mind has thought them, I have spoken them and I have heard them.
The power these words can have in my day can be just that, negative.
So I do try everyday to give a little thought to my words and prefer to choose words that will help me remain positive and upbeat about how my own attitude will be.

What or why are these choices important to me ?
I have found that anyone can actually stay positive and gain some nice energy through keeping upbeat about life.
I use this practice because of severe loss that I have suffered in my life. Without getting too deep into it, I have had the fortune of having the love for my beautiful two sons, I have had the misfortune to have to experience their funerals.
So it is for these reasons that I do choose to know I am fortunate to have loved so much and to have had those very special moments with my children.

For me it is how I remember all the laughs and special moments that I choose to speak about everything in my life as for how wonderful it all actually is.
When I wake and hear the birds signing or even when I get caught in a rain shower. The pelting rain on my face helps me feel life, how alive it is and how I feel.
I miss my boys absolutely and through soul searching and some (a lot) of disbelief I searched back over my life and found many situations were just unbelievable, so I wrote it all down in my memoir, TWO sons TOO many.

This memoir is my statue to my boys, this is the project that keeps them near me everyday. The more I can spread the wonderful story that my life has been and the more that somebody somewhere reads their names, the happier I can be.

To summarize,
Choose your words to suit how you want to be, you can change your attitude with some simple thinking, just as you would not enter into buying a house without thinking a lot, well do not enter your day or evening without some thought for yourself. Allow yourself to feel the feelings and welcome them with open arms because for these feelings you are alive, alive is wonderful.

To my new friends from my past weekend, allow yourself the rest and spoil yourself a little bit too.
Choose the words you want to hear yourself speak and you will become this too.
Have a beautiful rest of the Summer everyone.
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