Online Dating from A to Z: When Weird is a GOOD Thing
Welcome to the Blogging from A to Z April Challenge. This month I’ll be working my way through the alphabet, one day at a time, on the subject of Online Dating. If you’ve never visited my blog before, I’m happy you’re here! Be sure to check out my previous A to Z Challenge posts and the books that were inspired by them for more alphabetical fun.
W is for Weirdos.
Online dating attracts plenty of weirdos. Sometimes this can be cute and quirky – a harmless weirdness perhaps better described as eccentricity or uniqueness. Other times, the weirdos can be downright disturbing.
Ultimately, that’s the topic of my latest book, No More F*ing Weirdos!, which aims to eliminate the wrong kinds of weirdos from your dating life through some practical, sanity-saving advice.
Since I’ve already shared the story of my Absolute Worst Date Ever, today I thought I would share the story of my Best Date Ever – the one that eventually led to my marriage!
This is just one example of finding a Good Weirdo when dating online, to help dispel the notion that all weird is bad weird.
The totally true story of my best first date
Although my Best First Date would ultimately be categorized as such, I was initially apprehensive about meeting up with my potential suitor, Brit. He first messaged me on Plenty Of Fish, saying that he thought would would have a lot of fun together, and that we should meet up.
It was a brief message, and although I normally ignored the men who messaged me with such short notes (especially the ones that only said “Hi!” or “Hey!” or “What’s up?”), I hopped over to check out his profile.
His profile picture was cute but artsy: an image of him posed on a chair, draped in a white button-down shirt, with a serious look on his face. He had a goatee, which I liked, but I wasn’t sure if he was right for me. His brief message, combined with the sexy photo, had me wondering if he was just another player like the dudes who said we’d have fun together, but only meant in bed.
I wasn’t looking for another one-night stand. I was looking for love. Was he?
I scrolled down his profile, where he mentioned that he was an artist and liked various abstract painters, including Picasso. Hmm.
And then I saw this picture of three tigers in a hot tub:
I had to laugh, as I’d seen this image online before with the caption “Hey, who turned off the bubbles?” It seemed to suggest he was down to chill, possibly in a homemade hot tub, and that he liked cats – all of which were pluses in my book.
He asked if I wanted to meet up for coffee after work. I think his first suggestion was at 9 PM on a Wednesday evening. I reluctantly agreed, unsure whether this was the best time to meet a total stranger for coffee, since it would certainly have to be a brief meeting. On the plus side, he had mentioned a job, which meant he wasn’t just a deadbeat would-be artist! So many variables…
When I told my girlfriend that I was thinking of meeting this dude for coffee late on a Wednesday night, her first response was “Hell no!”
The more I thought about it, the more I agreed with her. Why would he want to meet up so late for caffeine? Did he have an ulterior motive? Was he just going to pop in, take a look at me and run? It seemed a little weird.
To make a long story short… I stood him up!
Thankfully, he was persistent and asked to reschedule, this time for an afternoon coffee on a Friday.
I agreed to meet him at one of my favorite cafés, and the rest is history. We’ve been inseparable ever since, and our 10-year anniversary is coming up this June. I made this list of the Top 10 Reasons I (Still) Love My Husband for our 8th anniversary, in case you’re curious about more of his Best Date qualities.
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