Logic vs. Heart

The human mind is amazing. When I think of all the journeys I’ve gone on based on my mind interpreting another person’s works, it is astounding. That being said, it’s not like our minds are without fault and even worse, they are susceptible to illness or even delusions. Being able to control our minds is a feat within itself—and I’m not necessarily referring to someone going crazy, I’m simply talking about the everyday self-doubt and illogical thoughts we all seem to have.

I was speaking with a friend earlier this week who was down about his job performance. This was after a conversation with his boss’ boss which confirmed he was doing well in the job. And yet my friend proceeded to read into other conversations and/or comments. I pushed him on why he was doing this and whether he would or could do anything differently assuming he was providing sub-par performance. He didn’t know the answer to my first question and in regards to the second question, he admitted he was doing all he could so if that wasn’t enough then he really couldn’t make changes.

My friend isn’t alone. I’ve done this, I’ve known others who do this. We are human and by default that statement seems to mean we are flawed. But as to why we do this to ourselves, I’ve never been able to answer that question. I guess a layman’s way of answering that question is that we think with our hearts at times and not with our minds. I happen to work in an industry that safe guards for this. I work in finance, a traditionally emotion filled subject, especially when it comes to our own money. This is why I have the job I have—emotions can make decision very complex.

So what do we do? Well, we don’t have the luxury of having someone make every single little decision for us (if you want to call that a luxury) so at times I think it is important to take a step back and digest the situation before tearing it to shreds. And if logic says we are wrong, than it may just be a matter of pushing through it until we reach the other side.

Happy writing this week!

Filed under: A writer's life, romance, Toni Kelly