Check, Mate!

I'm a 28-year-old guy, and I read your column on how men and women are clueless about who's supposed to pay and when. I've had dates be insulted when I wouldn't take their money and others insulted when I did. Is there an optimal strategy for the first few dates?

--Lost

Meet the flexible feminist. She can do an hour and a half straight on why we need to "smash the patriarchy," but when the check comes, she reaches in her purse and pulls out a tube of lip gloss.

As I pointed out in that colu...