Sparks And Recreation

I am a 32-year-old woman who has never been in a relationship with a man I'm actually attracted to. The men I've ended up with really pursued me, and they were all smart, funny, and kind, so I thought it was shallow not to date them because I wasn't that into their looks. Depressingly, each time, I eventually found myself repulsed by the guy and eyeing other men. Of course, that brought things to an end. How important is physical attraction in a relationship?

--Lukewarmed

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