I notice that a lot of romance readers do not like strong heroines.
I think those of you who read my books are the exception. Often, I hear over and over that people like my sweet heroes and the fact that my heroines aren’t afraid to stand up for themselves. But when I look at comments I get on Wattpad, the majority of people there hate the fact that Sue Lewis (in An Inconvenient Marriage) is so strong. There is one chapter in particular where they get especially upset with her. I’m a lot like Sue Lewis, so when I see their comments, I often wonder, “Would these people like me if they were to meet me in real life?”
Sometimes the strong heroine can come across as a you-know-what. She can be seen as bossy, temperamental, and rude. They instinctively feel sorry for the hero, or they think the hero is a wimp for putting up with her. If only they could see how my marriage is… My husband is a beta hero. I am an alpha heroine. I don’t necessarily act alpha at all times, but when push comes to shove, I’m a Type A personality. I lead because my husband tends to look to me to make the decisions. He has a more relaxed and easy-going personality. So I guess we do write what we know to some degree.
And before you think I became a Type A after marriage, the truth is, I was always a Type A. My mom used to joke that I was like Lucy in the Charlie Brown TV shows and comics (except I wouldn’t pull the football away from the poor guy). My mom and sister were both Type B’s. My dad was a Type A. I take after him in a lot of ways. So I guess we can blame my dad for how I turned out. 
Published on June 20, 2017 18:03
Of course I'm gonna put in my 2 cents LOL
I personally like a strong heroine.. but I find some authors make them over the top too strong and even worse make the hero too weak.
A strong female does not mean she needs to be a bitch, cold, unfeminine..she can be strong in intelligence, wit, courage...yet still have a soft feminine side.
It seems to take great talent in creating a female who is strong yet feminie and likable IMO.
I think a great example is Eliza in "Loving Eliza."
I loved her character.. she was very strong yet feminine..perfectly crafted!