Random Thoughts on Strong Heroines, Multi-Author Stuff, Who To Write For

I notice that a lot of romance readers do not like strong heroines.


I think those of you who read my books are the exception.  Often, I hear over and over that people like my sweet heroes and the fact that my heroines aren’t afraid to stand up for themselves.  But when I look at comments I get on Wattpad, the majority of people there hate the fact that Sue Lewis (in An Inconvenient Marriage) is so strong.  There is one chapter in particular where they get especially upset with her.  I’m a lot like Sue Lewis, so when I see their comments, I often wonder, “Would these people like me if they were to meet me in real life?”


Sometimes the strong heroine can come across as a you-know-what.  She can be seen as bossy, temperamental, and rude.  They instinctively feel sorry for the hero, or they think the hero is a wimp for putting up with her.  If only they could see how my marriage is…  My husband is a beta hero.  I am an alpha heroine.  I don’t necessarily act alpha at all times, but when push comes to shove, I’m a Type A personality.  I lead because my husband tends to look to me to make the decisions.  He has a more relaxed and easy-going personality.  So I guess we do write what we know to some degree.


And before you think I became a Type A after marriage, the truth is, I was always a Type A.  My mom used to joke that I was like Lucy in the Charlie Brown TV shows and comics (except I wouldn’t pull the football away from the poor guy).  My mom and sister were both Type B’s.  My dad was a Type A.  I take after him in a lot of ways.  So I guess we can blame my dad for how I turned out.

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Published on June 20, 2017 18:03
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message 1: by Seon Ji (Dawn) (new)

Seon Ji (Dawn) Good topic Ruth!

Of course I'm gonna put in my 2 cents LOL

I personally like a strong heroine.. but I find some authors make them over the top too strong and even worse make the hero too weak.

A strong female does not mean she needs to be a bitch, cold, unfeminine..she can be strong in intelligence, wit, courage...yet still have a soft feminine side.

It seems to take great talent in creating a female who is strong yet feminie and likable IMO.

I think a great example is Eliza in "Loving Eliza."

I loved her character.. she was very strong yet feminine..perfectly crafted!


message 2: by Ruth (new)

Ruth All good points! Strong heroines should be paired up with strong heroes. I can't imagine a strong heroine having any respect for a hero who lets her walk all over him.

I try to balance the two out when I write because I'm always thinking, "If this was real life, would these two really have what it takes to stay together for the rest of their lives?"

Thank you! Eliza is my favorite female character of all time because I was able to get into her head right away. It didn't take any time at all to figure her out. She guided the story the entire way. Most of the time, I struggle at some point in the story in what to do next, but that never happened once in "Loving Eliza".


message 3: by Seon Ji (Dawn) (last edited Jun 29, 2017 01:57AM) (new)

Seon Ji (Dawn) Ruth wrote: "All good points! Strong heroines should be paired up with strong heroes. I can't imagine a strong heroine having any respect for a hero who lets her walk all over him.

I try to balance the two ou..."


Yes!! That's why I love your books!! The characters are everything!

I just Loved Eliza...In fact I need to re read that one again. It is one of my all time favorite books.

Have a great day!!

((HUGS))


message 4: by Ruth (new)

Ruth Thanks, Dawn! You always make my day!! :D

((HUGS BACK))


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