Weeping cat owners require segregation

After my third visit to the veterinarian this month and the millionth visit in the lifetime of my dog, I would like to offer the following suggestion:

There needs to be two areas for pet owners to check out. 

One for owners who have brought their pet in for a standard check-up or a similar non-life-threatening visit and a separate area for people whose pets have died or are dying. 

This morning I was standing behind a weeping woman and her confused son as they paid the bill for their dying cat.  Huddled in a small box on the counter, the cat apparently has days to live (as the owner just learned), and I was forced to watch her spill tears onto the cat while she waited for the employee behind the counter to prepare her medications and calculate her bill.

And this isn't the first time this has happened.  I have watched people collapse to the floor and weep upon learning that their pet has died, and while I might do the same, it would be nice if these displays of sorrow could be done in a more private setting. 

Perhaps bring the bill to the examination room rather than asking these poor souls to check out like the rest of us.   

This poor woman (and her befuddled boy) didn't need me or the lady and her three kids waiting behind me staring at her during this moment of sadness, and more important, I did not need to bear witness to this grief.

Adding to my displeasure was a bulletin board to my right, full of cards thanking the veterinarians for helping to ease various pets into a painless death.

I was surrounded by sorrow, and frankly, I didn't like it one bit.

And when the weeping cat owner was forced to contest her bill in between sobs, it all became too much for me, and for a moment, I considered exiting without paying.

The dine-and-dash equivalent of the veterinary world. 

Had I not required a follow-up visit and some medication, I might have done just that. 

So please, a separate area for grieving pet owners. 

One far away from us less tortured souls.

Oh, and to the woman who was standing behind me with her three children:

If your daughter is so frightened of dogs that she literally screams whenever one approaches, perhaps it would be best to not bring her to the veterinarian's office. 

Every time my dog even looked in her direction, she screamed. 

I wanted to tell the little girl to grow up, but we already had one person crying in line and I did not want to add another.

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Published on August 11, 2011 02:52
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message 1: by Katy (new)

Katy I agree with you - having had to spend too many times in the vet's office with a rat who I had to put to sleep, it is really difficult to pull yourself together after the loss and face the front desk. Fortunately I discovered the vet's office that refuses to charge for putting your pet to sleep ... and also fortunately, despite how much I enjoyed having rats as pets, I don't have any more. Their life span is so short, but you get so attached to them with their joie de vivre and charming personality, and it is very hard to have to constantly be letting go.

I have cats now. Which will probably be worse, 'cause they are with you so much longer. *sigh* But I love my babies ...


message 2: by Matthew (new)

Matthew Dicks It sounds unkind, and it probably is, but it's just so hard to imagine an emotional attachment to a rat.


message 3: by Katy (new)

Katy Matthew wrote: "It sounds unkind, and it probably is, but it's just so hard to imagine an emotional attachment to a rat."

That's a pretty common response from people who have never had any interactions with these amazing creatures. They not only have a personality sort of like a small dog (loving attention, loyal, wanting to be with you) but they have strong attachments to, and take care of, one another. I have literally dozens of stories from my time as a rat hobby breeder and rescuer - over the course of about 5 years we had literally hundreds of them - and they never ceased to amaze me with their capacity for kindness and love of life. They are highly intelligent creatures - up there with dolphins and pigs - but most people just see them as vermin. It's too bad more people don't realize what sort of a bond you can make with one ... but, then there is the problem of their short life span and the constant heart-break of losing them every few years ...


message 4: by Matthew (new)

Matthew Dicks The fact that they helped to carry the Black Plague probably didn't help their reputations, either.


message 5: by Katy (new)

Katy Matthew wrote: "The fact that they helped to carry the Black Plague probably didn't help their reputations, either."

Wasn't their fault - they were as much victims as the people who caught it. It was the fleas that caused the problem, and much of it could have been alleviated with the simple expedient of sleeping a couple feet above the floor, where the fleas couldn't have easily reached. In fact, dogs and cats carried the same fleas and caused just as many deaths, but they didn't get blamed! Squirrels and chipmunks carry the same fleas, but they aren't exterminated as pests, because they're "cute." Prairie dogs carry the bubonic plague to this day, but ranchers who try to exterminate them on their land are often fined for killing a "protected" species - even though, in addition to the plague, the 'dogs make holes in the ground that can injure or kill livestock. *shrug* it's all perception and propaganda.


message 6: by Matthew (new)

Matthew Dicks I understand. But it was indeed a reputation killer, as unjust as it might have been.

I can honestly say that I have never met someone so impassioned about rats.


message 7: by Katy (new)

Katy Matthew wrote: "I understand. But it was indeed a reputation killer, as unjust as it might have been.

I can honestly say that I have never met someone so impassioned about rats."


Oh, I'm pretty laid-back, as far as that goes ... now hard-core rat lovers, they're pretty extreme :-) We used to get together once a month or so (I'm talking about local rat people) and have coffee, talk, etc. There were a couple of us who would bring our rats, although most people in this country are so paranoid about SDA (a nasty disease that rats can become quite ill with) that they don't like to let their rats meet other rats ... personally I think the folks in Britain are more sensible about that sort of thing, and their rats are much less likely to get sick as a result. It's like with kids - if they aren't ever exposed to anything, they can't build immunity.


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