Breaking the Family Cycle
No family is perfect; every household has their own problems. It is common to see negative reinforcement as the main approach for discipline. However, what parents fail to see is the resentment a child builds against them and how they negatively influence a child’s character.
Man tends to create habits since it is natural to find comfort in some form of system. However, creating a routine or a pattern is good only if its effect is beneficial—not just to you, but also to others. Yes, punishments can be a good tool for instilling discipline to children, but if it is the only or dominant method being used, it will only create obedience out of fear.
Even bad vices parents make are being followed by their children. Smoking, drugs, gambling, fornicating—these become natural to the eyes of an innocent child if no measure of restriction is implemented. Breaking a habit can be tough, but dealing with a whole family influenced by negative habits is more of a handful.
The mind-set that it is okay to be hostile is passed down from generation to generation if the cycle of hostility is not broken. Not to mention, abuse is not only limited to physical abuse. Sometimes, mothers can be such nags, but they are who they are because of the way they were raised and because of the environment that they are in. What you can do though is be aware of how you speak and if you are setting a good example. What you are in the household becomes evident in the workplace as well, which is counterproductive to your development.
It may be stereotypical or racist to say that people living in the ghetto are uneducated or uncultured. The stigma and misinformation are barriers to what a person can possibly achieve in life. Just in October of this year, on a flight from Detroit to Minneapolis, an African American woman was repeatedly blocked by a flight attendant when she tried to help an unresponsive man. The flight attendant said they were looking for “actual physicians or nurses or some type of medical personnel.” Discrimination can be an obstacle to the improvement of one’s life, but you have the power to overcome stereotypes and call out the ones who dare oppress your basic human right. The thinking of someone being superior to another because of skin color has been passed down through civilizations; nonetheless, now is the perfect time to speak up and make a change. The modern world is no place for racial discrimination or marginalization.
It’s not bad to follow a career path that is aligned with your forefather’s professions. What’s bad is pursuing a career that you don’t love. Passion should be the reason why you pursue a career, and not forced obligation. A career in the police force is not so bad if that’s what you really want. Breaking a family cycle can be very good if it’s for your happiness and for the betterment of your family’s lives.
Reference
Levin, Sam. 2016. “Delta Accused of ‘Blatant Discrimination’ by Black Doctor after Incident on Flight.” The Guardian. October 13. Accessed November 7, 2016. Retrieved from https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2016/oct/13/delta-discrimination-black-doctor-incident.
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