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Hello,
Sorry this newsletter/blog is a bit late. I got a touch of the ���I Can���t Do It���s last week. It started for a good reason - I had a call on Thursday about something possibly exciting for my Zumba classes and was waiting to get more information, but then I just got really tired on Friday and had to take a really, really long nap (funnily enough I always seem to get extremely tired or a bit of a cold when my VAT return is due...)
These are the kind of excuses I���ve also been making about publishing my individual escape guides - I���d prepared 11 ready to go, but somehow I just couldn���t seem to upload them. So I sat down on Saturday morning and realised I was self-sabotaging - because, guess what, the first few very short guides I���ve published are BEING DOWNLOADED... yes, and more people are buying my books, which was the plan. I should have been ecstatic, following up with more... but I got scared and started to run away from that success. And I did a very good job of hiding it from myself.
I see it all the time in classes, people start to lose weight, start to get all the moves and then... excuses, problems, reasons to not come along. Because the fear of success is the same as the fear of failure, because our ego just wants us to stay exactly where we are doing what we���re doing, because great success is just as far out of our comfort zone as great failure. It���s... dan dan dan... CHANGE. And suddenly we desperately need a nap.
I also see it with a lot of instructors who say ���Oh, I really wish I had my own classes.��� At the Instructor Academy a lot of people were saying ���Oh, I���m not a proper instructor, I only teach one class a week.��� When I started I had kind of already burned my bridges, but probably the best thing for getting started was my attitude and something my brother in law said. ���You have to do 10,000 hours of something to become a master.��� So I wasn���t planning incredible success, I was just practising, one class, two classes, up to ridiculous (and far too many) classes per week and somewhere along the line as don Miguel Ruiz (���The Four Agreements���) says ���Practice makes the master.���
(The great thing about publishing the books is that once they���re published they���re there forever... whereas when you have twelve classes a week you have to teach them... every week.)
Which brings me back to the ���I Can���t Do It���. The problem when we say ���I Can���t Do It���, whether it���s doing a move, learning a choreography, setting up a class or writing or publishing a book, is that we���re telling ourselves ���I need to be able to walk before I can walk.��� Nobody can walk until they can walk. The baby picks itself up and tries over and over again and luckily it does this usually before it can talk, so it can���t tell itself ���I can���t walk���. Otherwise it might never get there.
So what do we do when we ���Can���t Do It?���
Here���s a few ideas.
Stop thinking. Going through the brain is like going through the big bouncer at the front of the club who���s judging everyone���s outfits and body fat. He���s great when you���ve been there half a dozen times and knows your name, but otherwise you might be hanging out there all night (and never get in). Sneak in. Don���t ask for permission from your brain, just do it anyway. Let your body do it. If my brain says I can���t publish a book I say, okay, I���ll just set up a project, download an ISBN, do a front cover, oh look, just one more button to press, and I can do it quickly before my brain can say ���Not tonight love, try again tomorrow.��� What���s a great way to distract the bouncer (the brain)? Guess what, according to ancient mystics it���s music, especially without lyrics you understand, so music in another language is PERFECT! (If I get stuck when I���m writing I just put a full opera on on loop - suddenly I look up and I���ve written a chapter or two without the bouncer part of my brain even seeing me!)
Physically following someone else is child���s play. Children do it before they can speak, animals do it, and they do it mirroring, facing, just like we do in Zumba - that���s what makes it such an easy game. It���s easy, all you have to do is STOP LISTENING to the bouncer. He can���t actually stop you, just intimidate you.
Just think of it as practice, don���t judge your efforts, don���t think about getting it right or wrong - sometimes you look better than me doing it your own way - sometimes I���ll steal your move. As I said to someone else this week about a teaching technique, ���You have to be prepared to get it wrong 50% of the time if you want to be able to only get it wrong 20% of the time.��� You have to swing the bat a lot of times and miss many times before you start to connect with the ball most of the time (wow, that���s a lot of times, like 10,000 yet?)
Use your brain... flip the switch and tell yourself ���I Can Do It.���
But whatever happens, whether you get it or not, whether you do the move or not, whether you come to class, or set up a class, or publish a book or just do whatever it is you dream of (get on a plane, have a massage, swim with manatees, drive alone through Mexico, swim on a moonlit beach, fall in love) even the practice is perfect. We focus on the one moment, (hey, how do you like it, I came back around to the Olympics) the race, the event, the gold medal or not, but every moment of practice is part of it, the travel, the training, the ���failures��� and every moment is a moment of your life. Muhammad Ali famously said ���I hated every moment of training.��� Well, I don���t want to hate my life, and every moment is a moment of my life, but there are moments of extreme frustration and fear and I���ve been there with that move that just foxed me and took me weeks to get... and then for weeks afterwards every time I did that move, oh the joy! ...the feeling of success and happiness to have arrived! Or other things that I didn���t get (like the ZJ or ZES jobs) and at first I thought, what a waste of time and effort, until I realised that the practice, the application was serving me or teaching me in another way.
So like I say, every moment of our practice is perfect, however long it takes us to finally see it (and make it easier on ourselves the next time!)
Book Launch Picnic - Wednesday 17th August
Don���t forget that next week I���ll be having a book launch party picnic on Wednesday 17th August 10-11am in Morden Hall Park Rose Garden. I���ll talk a little about the book and you can check it out (I won���t have additional copies, but if you want you can order yours in advance and bring your copy along to be signed - or ask me about ordering one for you). They take about a week as they���re made to order.
You can bring your own food and drink and picnic blanket, or there���s the National Trust cafe too - coffee���s pretty good and cheese scones are awesome. Oh and we���ll decamp there if it���s wet.
And if you can���t make it (or even if you can) I���ll be doing talks to promote the book so if you have an event, a group or just know another nice park we can hang out in - just give me a holler.
Pearl's Instagram Feed - Lots of Photos Now On My Homepage!
http://www.pearlescapes.co.uk/index.html
Congratulations!
Congratulations to everyone who completed reward cards recently!
Kay completed 5 classes, flamenco a go go!
Jenny completed 65 classes, so sexy!!
Chris completed 130 classes, wow, what a woman!
Cynthia completed 130 classes, wonderful, wonderful, wonderful.
Well done!
Much love, Pearl xx
Saturday 13th August 2016
Saturday
10 ��� 11am�� Zumba�� Fitness�� Vestry Hall ��7 ��
Monday
12 - 12:45pm�� Zumba Gold���� Wimbledon Park Hall�� ��6
1 - 1:45pm Zumba Gold�� chair class Wimbledon Park Hall�� ��3
8:15pm - 9:15pm �� Zumba�� Fitness�� Wimbledon Park Hall�� ��7 CLASS CANCELLED
Tuesday
1:00 - 1:45pm�� Zumba Gold���� Wimbledon Park Hall�� ��6
6 - 6:45pm�� Zumba Gold�� �� Vestry Hall, London Rd, Mitcham, CR4 3UD �� �����6
7:15 ��� 8:15pm�� Zumba�� Fitness�� Vestry Hall�� ��7
Thursday
12 ��� 12:45pm �� Zumba Gold�� �� Wimbledon Guild, Drake House,��44 St. George's Road, Wimbledon, SW19 4ED �� �� ��5
7:15 - 8pm�� Zumba�� Gold�� Wimbledon Park Hall�� ��6
All classes running as normal after this until August Bank Holiday weekend when there are no Saturday class and no Monday classes.
For up to minute news check out my Facebook
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Click to subscribe to my weekly class newsletter http://eepurl.com/U3C3T
For the timetable please see the bottom of the email
Hello,
Sorry this newsletter/blog is a bit late. I got a touch of the ���I Can���t Do It���s last week. It started for a good reason - I had a call on Thursday about something possibly exciting for my Zumba classes and was waiting to get more information, but then I just got really tired on Friday and had to take a really, really long nap (funnily enough I always seem to get extremely tired or a bit of a cold when my VAT return is due...)
These are the kind of excuses I���ve also been making about publishing my individual escape guides - I���d prepared 11 ready to go, but somehow I just couldn���t seem to upload them. So I sat down on Saturday morning and realised I was self-sabotaging - because, guess what, the first few very short guides I���ve published are BEING DOWNLOADED... yes, and more people are buying my books, which was the plan. I should have been ecstatic, following up with more... but I got scared and started to run away from that success. And I did a very good job of hiding it from myself.
I see it all the time in classes, people start to lose weight, start to get all the moves and then... excuses, problems, reasons to not come along. Because the fear of success is the same as the fear of failure, because our ego just wants us to stay exactly where we are doing what we���re doing, because great success is just as far out of our comfort zone as great failure. It���s... dan dan dan... CHANGE. And suddenly we desperately need a nap.
I also see it with a lot of instructors who say ���Oh, I really wish I had my own classes.��� At the Instructor Academy a lot of people were saying ���Oh, I���m not a proper instructor, I only teach one class a week.��� When I started I had kind of already burned my bridges, but probably the best thing for getting started was my attitude and something my brother in law said. ���You have to do 10,000 hours of something to become a master.��� So I wasn���t planning incredible success, I was just practising, one class, two classes, up to ridiculous (and far too many) classes per week and somewhere along the line as don Miguel Ruiz (���The Four Agreements���) says ���Practice makes the master.���
(The great thing about publishing the books is that once they���re published they���re there forever... whereas when you have twelve classes a week you have to teach them... every week.)
Which brings me back to the ���I Can���t Do It���. The problem when we say ���I Can���t Do It���, whether it���s doing a move, learning a choreography, setting up a class or writing or publishing a book, is that we���re telling ourselves ���I need to be able to walk before I can walk.��� Nobody can walk until they can walk. The baby picks itself up and tries over and over again and luckily it does this usually before it can talk, so it can���t tell itself ���I can���t walk���. Otherwise it might never get there.
So what do we do when we ���Can���t Do It?���
Here���s a few ideas.
Stop thinking. Going through the brain is like going through the big bouncer at the front of the club who���s judging everyone���s outfits and body fat. He���s great when you���ve been there half a dozen times and knows your name, but otherwise you might be hanging out there all night (and never get in). Sneak in. Don���t ask for permission from your brain, just do it anyway. Let your body do it. If my brain says I can���t publish a book I say, okay, I���ll just set up a project, download an ISBN, do a front cover, oh look, just one more button to press, and I can do it quickly before my brain can say ���Not tonight love, try again tomorrow.��� What���s a great way to distract the bouncer (the brain)? Guess what, according to ancient mystics it���s music, especially without lyrics you understand, so music in another language is PERFECT! (If I get stuck when I���m writing I just put a full opera on on loop - suddenly I look up and I���ve written a chapter or two without the bouncer part of my brain even seeing me!)
Physically following someone else is child���s play. Children do it before they can speak, animals do it, and they do it mirroring, facing, just like we do in Zumba - that���s what makes it such an easy game. It���s easy, all you have to do is STOP LISTENING to the bouncer. He can���t actually stop you, just intimidate you.
Just think of it as practice, don���t judge your efforts, don���t think about getting it right or wrong - sometimes you look better than me doing it your own way - sometimes I���ll steal your move. As I said to someone else this week about a teaching technique, ���You have to be prepared to get it wrong 50% of the time if you want to be able to only get it wrong 20% of the time.��� You have to swing the bat a lot of times and miss many times before you start to connect with the ball most of the time (wow, that���s a lot of times, like 10,000 yet?)
Use your brain... flip the switch and tell yourself ���I Can Do It.���
But whatever happens, whether you get it or not, whether you do the move or not, whether you come to class, or set up a class, or publish a book or just do whatever it is you dream of (get on a plane, have a massage, swim with manatees, drive alone through Mexico, swim on a moonlit beach, fall in love) even the practice is perfect. We focus on the one moment, (hey, how do you like it, I came back around to the Olympics) the race, the event, the gold medal or not, but every moment of practice is part of it, the travel, the training, the ���failures��� and every moment is a moment of your life. Muhammad Ali famously said ���I hated every moment of training.��� Well, I don���t want to hate my life, and every moment is a moment of my life, but there are moments of extreme frustration and fear and I���ve been there with that move that just foxed me and took me weeks to get... and then for weeks afterwards every time I did that move, oh the joy! ...the feeling of success and happiness to have arrived! Or other things that I didn���t get (like the ZJ or ZES jobs) and at first I thought, what a waste of time and effort, until I realised that the practice, the application was serving me or teaching me in another way.
So like I say, every moment of our practice is perfect, however long it takes us to finally see it (and make it easier on ourselves the next time!)
Book Launch Picnic - Wednesday 17th August
Don���t forget that next week I���ll be having a book launch party picnic on Wednesday 17th August 10-11am in Morden Hall Park Rose Garden. I���ll talk a little about the book and you can check it out (I won���t have additional copies, but if you want you can order yours in advance and bring your copy along to be signed - or ask me about ordering one for you). They take about a week as they���re made to order.
You can bring your own food and drink and picnic blanket, or there���s the National Trust cafe too - coffee���s pretty good and cheese scones are awesome. Oh and we���ll decamp there if it���s wet.
And if you can���t make it (or even if you can) I���ll be doing talks to promote the book so if you have an event, a group or just know another nice park we can hang out in - just give me a holler.
Pearl's Instagram Feed - Lots of Photos Now On My Homepage!
http://www.pearlescapes.co.uk/index.html
Congratulations!
Congratulations to everyone who completed reward cards recently!
Kay completed 5 classes, flamenco a go go!
Jenny completed 65 classes, so sexy!!
Chris completed 130 classes, wow, what a woman!
Cynthia completed 130 classes, wonderful, wonderful, wonderful.
Well done!
Much love, Pearl xx
Saturday 13th August 2016
Saturday
10 ��� 11am�� Zumba�� Fitness�� Vestry Hall ��7 ��
Monday
12 - 12:45pm�� Zumba Gold���� Wimbledon Park Hall�� ��6
1 - 1:45pm Zumba Gold�� chair class Wimbledon Park Hall�� ��3
8:15pm - 9:15pm �� Zumba�� Fitness�� Wimbledon Park Hall�� ��7 CLASS CANCELLED
Tuesday
1:00 - 1:45pm�� Zumba Gold���� Wimbledon Park Hall�� ��6
6 - 6:45pm�� Zumba Gold�� �� Vestry Hall, London Rd, Mitcham, CR4 3UD �� �����6
7:15 ��� 8:15pm�� Zumba�� Fitness�� Vestry Hall�� ��7
Thursday
12 ��� 12:45pm �� Zumba Gold�� �� Wimbledon Guild, Drake House,��44 St. George's Road, Wimbledon, SW19 4ED �� �� ��5
7:15 - 8pm�� Zumba�� Gold�� Wimbledon Park Hall�� ��6
All classes running as normal after this until August Bank Holiday weekend when there are no Saturday class and no Monday classes.
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