Emotional Cognition Theory (pt 5) A New Psychoanalytic Therapy
What is the key to this psychoanalytic theory -- or philosophy if you will?
Be calm and take the time to express oneself !
We now believe in the concept of "Emotional Intelligence". We can see that not only do we have intelligence -- but that emotions are real and as a 'higher functioning' organism we have to channel the feelings and emotions effectively and appropriately. We need to be less like alligators and more like canines. Less like llamas and more like monkeys -- less like possums and more like great blue whales.
By building better interpersonal relations throughout all parts of our lives -- we use diffuse borders to pass information between individuals, families, and groups in order to reduce stress and energize all constituents to helpful states. This can happen whether one is in a single parent family, a school classroom, or at the international conference table. Better communication leads to better overall health. I will need to "bark less and wag more!" We admit to the use of "Emotional Intelligence" in a human way.
What do therapists 'feel' in 'Emotional Cognition' Therapy?
Certain metaphors help us look at this definition of 'Emotional Intelligence'. We have to remember that roller coasters have a strong track -- unlike bi-planes or 'crop dusters' which can circle in the skies. If we have done all we can -- wear the seat-belt -- we can trust in the safety of the ride and enjoy the twists and turns of emotions and feelings while knowing that the sensation of falling will not be a reality.
This is for the therapist when giving therapy. The therapist should not be afraid of his or her emotions. Therapists need to know how strong emotions feel. Once the therapist has dealt with his emotions effectively, then the clients may 'model' or 'pattern' after the therapist. This is one form of 'Emotional Intelligence': the ability to express a point of view both intellectually and with the combining of emotion matching in a keenly tandem manner.
The drive which occurs as we play the entire time allotted in a game of football, hockey, soccer or basketball (et al) serves as an example. In particular, we need to take all the time necessary to make our plays -- to listen and accept all feelings -- and to not cut short out of frustration or fear. We see the action -- the 'expressing' -- to the end. While the game is on -- one must not become burdened with concern to rush or 'hurry-up'. Take the time to let others know how you feel -- both in word and in action.
What happens when emotions are stuffed?
Still, it is important to know just how much time one does have when in a session. We must see the session to the end -- however long that takes and have to stop trying to control the direction of the therapy to the point that we are controlling because we fear we are losing something. Most times a 'good sport' plays to the end of the game whether he seemingly is winning or losing. To paraphrase -- "You never know what you are going to get in the end," said Forrest Gump with his box of chocolates. Even losers can gain something -- sometimes quite a lot just by paying attention. As therapists we cannot determine the outcome of a session sometimes not until much time has passed from it's endpoint. Endings do not have to be perfect.
A therapy session may take twenty minutes or yet, as an entire afternoon of golf. Do not dictate the end just by the clock -- let the natural flow. Too many times congresspersons walk off the voting floor in a huff -- before considering statesmanlike deliberation which would have prevented them from acting like grade school kids on a bullying playground. To accept feelings means not to be afraid to follow through, perhaps by letting the resultant emotions show towards others. Please know that in every conversation -- one listens then one talks -- one talks and then one listens -- we give and we take; maybe even at the same time!
Eventually a balance arises in the therapeutic relationship where the participants -- therapist and client -- learn how to pass information without either exaggerated excitement or ennui, so that healthy beating hearts can beat, blood pressures are regulated, there are no spikes of adrenaline, and metabolic rates are fairly regulated. People are able to talk with each other not with the overly 'star' worship that a middle school girl would have when meeting her pop singer crush idol; but more as when having the respect when one is introduced to your child's school principal at her 'Open House'.
As practitioners of this therapy we need to search out ways we can pass information and receive it so that emotion will complement the intellect and not detract from the message. Through acceptance, patience, and tolerance, with ourselves and others, we can take the ups and downs of life. Although there should be no "shoulds", "oughts", and "musts" -- if there be a "should" it would need to be said that: "Let's just take it easier on ourselves".
Without getting overly alarmed we say: "'Easy does it' -- but nonetheless do it! Please just learn how to 'go with the flow'."
Part 6 of Emotional Cognition Therapy will deal with the unit -- or "part" which becomes the subject of concentration. Thank you for your attention.
Sincerely written and
Respectfully submitted,
Robert N. Franz
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Be calm and take the time to express oneself !
We now believe in the concept of "Emotional Intelligence". We can see that not only do we have intelligence -- but that emotions are real and as a 'higher functioning' organism we have to channel the feelings and emotions effectively and appropriately. We need to be less like alligators and more like canines. Less like llamas and more like monkeys -- less like possums and more like great blue whales.
By building better interpersonal relations throughout all parts of our lives -- we use diffuse borders to pass information between individuals, families, and groups in order to reduce stress and energize all constituents to helpful states. This can happen whether one is in a single parent family, a school classroom, or at the international conference table. Better communication leads to better overall health. I will need to "bark less and wag more!" We admit to the use of "Emotional Intelligence" in a human way.
What do therapists 'feel' in 'Emotional Cognition' Therapy?
Certain metaphors help us look at this definition of 'Emotional Intelligence'. We have to remember that roller coasters have a strong track -- unlike bi-planes or 'crop dusters' which can circle in the skies. If we have done all we can -- wear the seat-belt -- we can trust in the safety of the ride and enjoy the twists and turns of emotions and feelings while knowing that the sensation of falling will not be a reality.
This is for the therapist when giving therapy. The therapist should not be afraid of his or her emotions. Therapists need to know how strong emotions feel. Once the therapist has dealt with his emotions effectively, then the clients may 'model' or 'pattern' after the therapist. This is one form of 'Emotional Intelligence': the ability to express a point of view both intellectually and with the combining of emotion matching in a keenly tandem manner.
The drive which occurs as we play the entire time allotted in a game of football, hockey, soccer or basketball (et al) serves as an example. In particular, we need to take all the time necessary to make our plays -- to listen and accept all feelings -- and to not cut short out of frustration or fear. We see the action -- the 'expressing' -- to the end. While the game is on -- one must not become burdened with concern to rush or 'hurry-up'. Take the time to let others know how you feel -- both in word and in action.
What happens when emotions are stuffed?
Still, it is important to know just how much time one does have when in a session. We must see the session to the end -- however long that takes and have to stop trying to control the direction of the therapy to the point that we are controlling because we fear we are losing something. Most times a 'good sport' plays to the end of the game whether he seemingly is winning or losing. To paraphrase -- "You never know what you are going to get in the end," said Forrest Gump with his box of chocolates. Even losers can gain something -- sometimes quite a lot just by paying attention. As therapists we cannot determine the outcome of a session sometimes not until much time has passed from it's endpoint. Endings do not have to be perfect.
A therapy session may take twenty minutes or yet, as an entire afternoon of golf. Do not dictate the end just by the clock -- let the natural flow. Too many times congresspersons walk off the voting floor in a huff -- before considering statesmanlike deliberation which would have prevented them from acting like grade school kids on a bullying playground. To accept feelings means not to be afraid to follow through, perhaps by letting the resultant emotions show towards others. Please know that in every conversation -- one listens then one talks -- one talks and then one listens -- we give and we take; maybe even at the same time!
Eventually a balance arises in the therapeutic relationship where the participants -- therapist and client -- learn how to pass information without either exaggerated excitement or ennui, so that healthy beating hearts can beat, blood pressures are regulated, there are no spikes of adrenaline, and metabolic rates are fairly regulated. People are able to talk with each other not with the overly 'star' worship that a middle school girl would have when meeting her pop singer crush idol; but more as when having the respect when one is introduced to your child's school principal at her 'Open House'.
As practitioners of this therapy we need to search out ways we can pass information and receive it so that emotion will complement the intellect and not detract from the message. Through acceptance, patience, and tolerance, with ourselves and others, we can take the ups and downs of life. Although there should be no "shoulds", "oughts", and "musts" -- if there be a "should" it would need to be said that: "Let's just take it easier on ourselves".
Without getting overly alarmed we say: "'Easy does it' -- but nonetheless do it! Please just learn how to 'go with the flow'."
Part 6 of Emotional Cognition Therapy will deal with the unit -- or "part" which becomes the subject of concentration. Thank you for your attention.
Sincerely written and
Respectfully submitted,
Robert N. Franz
See: amzn.to/1R1Oayq
Or check linkage: amazon.com/author/rf3rd
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