The Fault In Finding Fault

Seeing the faults of others doesn’t make you insightful. Seeing how you are part of what has created the issue and owning your participation without diminishing, invalidating, categorizing or blaming. Taking responsibility creates a space for honest open communication that allows for connection and a sense that something that had been seen as the truth was, in fact, a perception based on perceptions based on perceptions- that sometimes evolved even before you were born.

You have a right to express your pain. The key might be to find what the pain is really about and deal with that- and not by yourself. Your pain and anger is going to work hard to reassure your brain that you are justified. Having someone you trust to point out possible emotionally-charged blind spots and your willingness to be with the enormous well of sadness underneath it will, in a word, suck. It will, very possibly, also give you an emotional depth and appreciation for life that you had never imagined could be missing.

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@CoachMeDave