I Want Somebody to Love but I Can't Find a Good Date!

The most frequently asked question that I get from frustrated singles is, "Where can I meet Mr. /Ms. Right?" I appreciate and understand the feeling of anguish and exhaustion that can accompany a series of bad dating experiences or dating fatigue. Unfortunately for many my quick answer, "Between your ears" usually adds to the frustration.   However, upon closer examination, no truer words have ever been spoken.  A dry spell in dating is almost always tied to our own subconscious projections versus the quality and quantity of potential partners in the local dating pool.  Although difficult to admit, we project our fear of yet another dating failure and our frustration with the process from our subconscious mind.  No matter how hard we try to hide these feelings they are reflected in our face, gestures and body language like a neon warning sign that directs good date traffic to a detour around us. That same sign can also invite in the desperate, unconnected or pathological members of the dating pool.   The worse part is that we are not even aware of the underlying cause only the discouraging results.  In a seemingly endless cycle these frustrating results can reinforce our subconscious signals and keep us on the path of dating despair.

Allow me to lend a machete to your overgrown subconscious negative neural pathways. Two minutes and a mirror is all you need. While looking into the mirror think about the frustration and anguish that you are currently feeling over the dating process.  Take a long look at your face and body language.  This is what you are projecting.  Not good!  Now recall the best date you ever had.  It probably led to a love relationship and infatuation.  Remember the sights, sounds, smells and tastes of that time as if you are experiencing them right now.  Consider how good it felt to be in the moment. I'll bet that you couldn't help but project a warm, inviting smile and  image of emotional balance and fun into the mirror.  That's it, it really is that simple.  Your subconscious warning sign has been replaced with Madison Avenue quality positive advertising.  This is who you are in your natural love state, not that other person.  Take this person with you everywhere and wear your new face with pride and confidence.

We release good brain and body chemicals when we are balanced and comfortable in our own skin.  Sane, sober, engaged members of the opposite sex receive our subconscious instinctual and emotional communications loud and clear, they can't help it!  Now to answer the frequently asked question, "Where can I meet Mr. / Ms. Right"?   Armed with your new subconscious projections, anywhere and everywhere.