It's my page! I can write what I want!-- Can you really?
Yes, people, we are discussing good ole Facebook this morning! Now, I don't mean to try to sound like the newly appointed Goddess of wisdom or anything but let's consider for a moment what Facebook is. You log on to this website, you enter all of your information, you add friends who have also entered all of their information and added all of their friends, so, what do you do now? Well, you start posting. When you post where does this post go? It goes to what is called a wall. What does this wall do? Well, it allows your post to be seen by everyone in your friends and unless you've changed your settings it will also show it to anyone who looks up your page. So, basically, every single person on your friend list has one big shared wall and each individual has their own profile and wall page but everything they post goes automatically to the shared wall. We ALL know this right?
Ok, so when we post things that we know ahead of time are going to go directly to a shared or public wall what exactly are our intentions? Are we posting just for ourselves? As a diary or journal? Or are we posting to let our friends know what's going on with us?
Well, if we are posting as a diary or journal, we already know ahead of time that everybody is going to see it. So, obviously, we don't mind if everybody knows because we told them, correct? And the same goes if we are posting for our friends to know what's going on in our lives and obviously it must be ok to talk about it because we, ourselves, are telling literally everyone.... Right???
To me, all of this is a no-brainer. It's perfectly logically. Yet, I have seen countless occasions where Facebook members have become severely agitated/angry/sad/freaked, etc., over other people commenting to their "publically listed" thoughts, feelings, or actions. Thus leading to the statement, "It's my page! I can write whatever I want! And if you don't like it, I'll just delete you!"
Hmmmm...... Am I the only one who sits back and thinks, "Are you in fifth grade or what?"
Personally, if I don't want other people to comment on my thoughts/feelings/actions, ect., then I certainly would not post it for the world to see. This type of behavior leads me to believe that it's possible that these people who share publically like this are under the impression that all of the friends think exactly as they do and share their opinions on every level. It is also possible that these people only wish for those friends who do share their opinions to comment.
Either way, I can't find a single shred of intelligence in this line of thinking. People have become so conditioned to smile and nod when I friends voice their opinions whether we agree or not because if we don't then no one will be our friend. Believe me, I don't have many friends because I refuse to pretend. News flash for all of you who are living in a bubble! Everyone else is exactly like you. They WILL smile and nod whether they agree with you or not just like YOU do to them. They don't actually agree with you on everything.
What we desperately need is for everyone to get it through their thick egotistical skulls that we don't all have to agree on every subject to be friends! Get over yourself! Someone who's opinion differs from your own is not a monster out to get you! It means they are a human being. They've lived a different life, pondered different thoughts, viewed the world differently, and you know what... THAT'S OK!!!! It doesn't mean they hate you. It doesn't mean they want everybody to think you're a bad person. After all, the entire universe doesn't revolve around you. But if you choose to continue to believe that it does then the next time you post make sure that let everyone know that the only people allowed to comment are the people who completely agree with you. I also think that you owe it to your friends to let them know ahead of time that you will only be their friend if they agree with you on every subject or at least the subjects you think they should agree with you on. Because that tells them you are a friend of your own convenience and people need to know these things before they go off thinking they can trust you.
Simply disagreeing with one another is not a betrayal. It's a part of life. For God's sake people, please grasp that!
Ok, so when we post things that we know ahead of time are going to go directly to a shared or public wall what exactly are our intentions? Are we posting just for ourselves? As a diary or journal? Or are we posting to let our friends know what's going on with us?
Well, if we are posting as a diary or journal, we already know ahead of time that everybody is going to see it. So, obviously, we don't mind if everybody knows because we told them, correct? And the same goes if we are posting for our friends to know what's going on in our lives and obviously it must be ok to talk about it because we, ourselves, are telling literally everyone.... Right???
To me, all of this is a no-brainer. It's perfectly logically. Yet, I have seen countless occasions where Facebook members have become severely agitated/angry/sad/freaked, etc., over other people commenting to their "publically listed" thoughts, feelings, or actions. Thus leading to the statement, "It's my page! I can write whatever I want! And if you don't like it, I'll just delete you!"
Hmmmm...... Am I the only one who sits back and thinks, "Are you in fifth grade or what?"
Personally, if I don't want other people to comment on my thoughts/feelings/actions, ect., then I certainly would not post it for the world to see. This type of behavior leads me to believe that it's possible that these people who share publically like this are under the impression that all of the friends think exactly as they do and share their opinions on every level. It is also possible that these people only wish for those friends who do share their opinions to comment.
Either way, I can't find a single shred of intelligence in this line of thinking. People have become so conditioned to smile and nod when I friends voice their opinions whether we agree or not because if we don't then no one will be our friend. Believe me, I don't have many friends because I refuse to pretend. News flash for all of you who are living in a bubble! Everyone else is exactly like you. They WILL smile and nod whether they agree with you or not just like YOU do to them. They don't actually agree with you on everything.
What we desperately need is for everyone to get it through their thick egotistical skulls that we don't all have to agree on every subject to be friends! Get over yourself! Someone who's opinion differs from your own is not a monster out to get you! It means they are a human being. They've lived a different life, pondered different thoughts, viewed the world differently, and you know what... THAT'S OK!!!! It doesn't mean they hate you. It doesn't mean they want everybody to think you're a bad person. After all, the entire universe doesn't revolve around you. But if you choose to continue to believe that it does then the next time you post make sure that let everyone know that the only people allowed to comment are the people who completely agree with you. I also think that you owe it to your friends to let them know ahead of time that you will only be their friend if they agree with you on every subject or at least the subjects you think they should agree with you on. Because that tells them you are a friend of your own convenience and people need to know these things before they go off thinking they can trust you.
Simply disagreeing with one another is not a betrayal. It's a part of life. For God's sake people, please grasp that!
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