WARNING SIGNS IN CHILDREN AND ADOLESCENTS OF POSSIBLE CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE

The issue of abuse on children and adolescents has become so pervasive in our society and it is showing no signs of slowing down. If you are concerned that your child is been abused or may be a victim of abuse, you may not be sure what to do or how to respond. Child sexual abuse is a crime that often goes undetected. No matter what your role is - parent or other family member, coach, teacher, religious leader, babysitter - you have the power to make a positive difference in this child’s life.


Children often show us rather than tell us that something is upsetting them. There may be many reasons for changes in their behaviour, but if we notice a combination of worrying signs it may be time to call for help or advice.


What to watch out for in children:

• Acting out in an inappropriate sexual way with toys or objects
• Nightmares, sleeping problems
• Becoming withdrawn or very clingy
• Becoming unusually secretive
• Sudden unexplained personality changes, mood swings and seeming insecure
• Regressing to younger behaviours, e.g. bedwetting
• Unaccountable fear of particular places or people
• Outburst of anger
• Changes in eating habits
• New adult words for body parts and no obvious source
• Talk of a new, older friend and unexplained money or gifts
• Self-harm (cutting, burning or other harmful activities)
• Physical signs, such as, unexplained soreness or bruises around genitals or mouth, sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancy
• Running away
• Not wanting to be alone with a particular child or young person


Any one sign doesn't mean that a child was or is being sexually abused, but the presence of several suggests that you should begin to ask questions and consider seeking help. Keep in mind that some of these signs can emerge at other times of stress such as:

• During a divorce
• Death of a family member or pet
• Problems at school or with friends
• Other anxiety-inducing or traumatic events


Physical warning signs:

Physical signs of sexual abuse are rare; however, if you see these signs, take your child to a doctor. Your doctor can help you understand what may be happening and test for sexually transmitted diseases.


• Pain, discoloration, bleeding or discharges in genitals, anus or mouth
• Persistent or recurring pain during urination and bowel movements
• Wetting and soiling accidents unrelated to toilet training


No matter whatever situation we find ourselves, it is our responsibility as parents to guide, nurture and protect our children. And we owe them that unconditionally! For more resources on how to protect and educate your child on issues of abuse, grab a copy of my book on “Cybersex - A Nightmare of the 21st Century” available on Amazon http://www.amazon.com/Cybersex-Nightm...