When is Loving Too Much, Too Much?

Yes, we care with a full heart and go all out for those we love—but when does this cross over the line? Take a look at when we are doing ourselves a disservice.

1.        When you are “giving on empty.” You know that you need to replenish when every “ask” seems like you’re being “put upon.” You just don’t have it to give, right now, but you’re not admitting that to yourself.

2.        When you’re Angry and really don’t want to give. You have a hard time saying NO and because of that you fulfill a request reluctantly.

3.        When you fear that someone will leave. You are there for this person too much of the time, in fact, the relationship is very one-sided, but you are afraid to take a stand for what you really want and need.

The first step in changing these patterns is to admit that they’re happening. Look at the price you pay for not be true to yourself, and admit that it is too great. Acting outside your comfort zone and taking small steps to assert your needs is very courageous. You don’t need to do it alone, therapists, counselors and trusted friends can be a big help.