6 BIG Mistakes We Make During Tough Conversations

1. Focusing on the other person. (Using “you” too much)
It’s not beneficial to point the finger at the other person. Use “I” sentences i.e, “I feel like I’m not important to you”. Is much better than “you don’t care about me”.

2. Giving unwarranted advice
Your intentions may be good, but they will not be well received if the other person is not ready to hear them. Sometimes remaining silent is what’s needed. 

3. Talking it out before you’re ready
If you’re emotions are at a high point. It’s probably not the best time to sit down and talk. Wait until you calm down and get a little distance. 

4. Hoping the tension will dissolve with time
Often if you don’t confront the situation. It will probably repeat itself. So if the issue is important to you, have the courage to tackle it now. Rather than let things pile up. 

5. Assuming they know what you’re thinking
No one is a mind reader, so make your life easier and verbalize what you’re feeling. It will benefit you in the long run. 

6.  Not having a solution in mind
If you both come together with an idea of what you want it will be easier to meet in the middle. 

- Bre Glynn