How to Put Yourself Out There When You Are Feeling Shy

In an extraverted world, it can be hard for you as an introvert to put yourself out there and connect with friends and colleagues in a way that is intended to advance your career. Here are some ways to putting yourself out there that honor your introverted nature.

Be Great at Something Interesting
Everyone has the colleague who hiked Mt Everest or was a world champion chess player. Find out what makes you interesting and be willing to share it. You may even be interesting by association. Here is an example of interesting by association; I typically attend the Grammy Awards annually because I am married to a member of the Recording Academy. Be willing to embrace the interesting a unique things about you like being a gourmet chef or having cryptology as a hobby.  

Be a Game Changer
By this I mean change the game for your company by solving a mission critical problem. As an introvert, you may prefer to keep your head down and simply get your work done. By solving a mission critical issue or problem you create the opportunity for exposure without the need to brag about yourself or your accomplishments. One caveat: people in the organization need to know that you solved the problem so do take credit for your work. 

Build Your Network One Relationship at a Time
We all know relationships matter and when you are shy networking can be uncomfortable. Begin networking strategically. At your company’s next social gathering pick one person who you have an interest in getting to know and connect with that person only. Focus your energy and efforts on creating meaningful relationships instead of looking to meet everyone. Remember that people love to talk about themselves so focus your energy on the other person – ask them about their interests, likes, and accomplishments. They will come away feeling heard and interested in getting to know you better. 

Be an Influencer
Influencers’ impact is often felt and their identity not always known. This can be a great way to get noticed at work without being in the “limelight.”  You can begin to position yourself as an influencer by speaking up with a unique strategic voice (sharing amazing insights at just the right time) and having the “offline” conversation with key decision makers providing your perspective one-on-one in a setting where you are most comfortable and can thrive.  

Remember, putting yourself out there is about establishing meaningful relationships. Focus on the quality of your relationships and their reach, not the quantity.

 

 

 

 

Cornelia Shipley, April 2016 Career Coach