What to do When Love Turns Sour

Ouch that hurts...it's really painful when love turns sour. It's hard to cope for many of us. What can we do during these times to make life a little easier? Here some things that may work for you.

1. Be extra kind to yourself. Most of us are too hard on ourselves, and when something goes wrong, we may take it out on ourselves, rather than place it on the other person. Like everyone says, when a relationship doesn't work it is rarely because of the behavior of one person, but rather a combination of traits that clash between two people.

2. Take inventory. You may notice that the same things keep coming up for you in relationships. Time to work these through, they will not go away magically. Counselors and therapists, even for a short period of time, may prove useful.

3. No back-burner. Now's the time to do something wonderful that you have been putting on the back-burner--like a short trip; spending time with your best friend who now lives in another state. 

4. Acknowledge the good stuff. Remember the magic, the good times. You can build on those with another person. Now there is a space in your life to do so.