Uncovered in the Sanctuary?

Did you have a big brother? Maybe you went to school with an older cousin who kept an eye out for you. Perhaps your father was active in your church. If you had these male influences, you felt protected at school, in the neighborhood and at church. But what happens when you’re an adult? Who’s protecting you?

In church circles, we often hear the term “covering.” What exactly is covering? It means a couple of things. First, there is a committed Christian who is consistently lifting you in prayer. It’s also someone who is your spiritual mentor. He is watching and guiding you. Being under this covering is a notice to those with evil intent to stay away. When you’re covered, it’s as if you’re in a cocoon. You’re protected.

What if you’re uncovered? No husband. No father. No male relative. Who is praying for you? Who is protecting you? In a small church, maybe your pastor will fill this role. What if he doesn’t or what if you attend a large church? Is your small group leader filling this role? My experience has been that single women are left to fend for themselves in most churches. What’s an uncovered sister to do?

First, we must look to Christ for acceptance and fulfillment. This is a good habit to develop while we’re single. No mortal man can meet all of our needs. I’m reading an excellent book that covers this topic, called The Power of Passion by Rob Eager.

Second, we have to slow down with major decisions. For single ladies without covering, there may not be anyone intimately aware of our circumstances who can give us good advice. Taking time to pray over major decisions for several days and writing out pros and cons is a good way to mull over our alternatives.

Befriend a mature Christian couple that is at least 10 years older than you are. It may take several months to develop mutual trust. Ask this couple for advice about men, spiritual matters and work.

The Lord designed us to be connected to each other. Being uncovered makes us more likely to enter into unhealthy relationships and leaves us vulnerable to making poor choices with money, work and lifestyle. If you’re uncovered, consider these steps to fill in the gap.