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Apr 15, 2016 09:54AM

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It got me thinking and I share this personal experience with you.
My husband Tim is slow to anger and doesn't lash out, remains pretty calm in almost all situations. However, when he is in great pain due to tripping, something falling, hitting his finger with a hammer, he lashes out physically. He has to hit something to get a release from the anger. As long as what he hits doesn't get damaged, I'm OK with it. He once hit our former refrigerator and put a small dent in the door...that wasn't OK.
I've never known anyone who really acts out physically in anger. It is always a shock when I read it, but I guess having seen it on TV and Movies, one is used to it?

I think you've nailed the problem here. We are all different. We come from different backgrounds, with different sets of morals, expectations, emotional patterns which inevitably leads to different interpretations of feelings and emotions, too.
Let's face it, it is often hard enough to figure out the emotions of another person in real life, why should it be different on paper? Thank you for your insights! Very interesting read!

It got me thinking and I share this personal experience with you.
My husband Tim is slow to anger and doesn't lash out, remains pretty calm in almost all situations. However, when ..."
Interesting - how there's a tipping point for him, even though he's normally a more mellow guy Everyone is different in how they react and one of the fun writing things is to create someone different from what I've personally experienced.

Yeah - that emotional connection seems to be so individual. But at least it means there's a reader for all books, and a book for all readers. So yay for the rainbow (even if we all have those moments of looking at reviews and wondering what book those people actually read ;)