5 Ways to Stop Self-Sabotage

We often learn things early on from people who had difficulty loving themselves, but now as adults, we don't have to take on these behaviors.  Here's how to do it differently. 

1.Be aware
Self-sabotage in a strange way may feel comfortable--because for some of us, we get used to doing it. But it doesn't feel good. When you start to cringe or feel that pit in your stomach, you are probably doing something self-defeating.

2.Take action and change channels
Say you're given a compliment for a job well-done, and you start talking too much, saying something like, "it was nothing..," change channels. A better way of handling this, is just to say "thank you."

3.Don't procrastinate
Don't wait to try something new on for size. When you know what you're doing isn't working, the time for changing that is NOW. Not tomorrow.

4.Expect to feel uncomfortable
New behavior will not feel comfortable. Why should it? You are stepping out of your comfort zone. But that's okay, discomfort means that you are growing.

5.Help someone else
A sure way to integrate new behavior is to support others to do the same. Once you become aware of the ways you self-sabotage, you will probably see your behavior in others. It's your turn to help them along.