Elizabeth Miceli's Blog, page 4
February 26, 2015
Boys, Boys, Boys
In between my classes at URI, I spend my time catching up on homework, writing, reading, editing my novels, and of course, scoping out guys in the library... A pastime that my friends and I refer to as "grocery shopping." (LOL I'm sorry. Yes, we're immature.) But, the reality of it is- yes, these boys are reading a book and just 10 feet away from us but no way in hell are we going to get up from our seats and seek these guys out.
So, sitting here, literally three seats over from a very attractive gentlemen, I wondered- Why is it that women wait for guys to come to us?
Well, let's take a step back and think about things for a second. Our role models for dating are people in books, and movies. In those movies there are men that are actual gentlemen- who go for what they want. They didn't swipe right on Tinder or OKCupid, they didn't text you "good morning beautiful" and never actually ask you out, and they definitely didn't expect you to sleep with them on the first date...
Noah in the Notebook walked right up to Allie and got exactly what he wanted. Augustus Waters had the decency to make things happen with Hazel Grace. And the boys in my novels always seem to really care about the main character. And NONE of those guys were just looking for sex. (I know, shocker!)
So, my question is- why can't that happen now? Why are women putting aside our goals of finding a guy that really get us, and just settling for guys who just want to "express themselves physically" (LMAO we all know what that means). Why is being on Tinder "all the rage right now?" Is it because women are settling for what men want? Or is it because we're afraid of finding something real?
Everyone tells me to lower my expectations of the male population and then I won't be upset when guys don't work out or are only looking for something casual. But, I refuse to do that. I still have hope that there is a great guy out there, like the guys in my novels, who step up and treat their girls with love and respect.
I'll continue to read my sappy love stories, write my love stories, watch A Walk To Remember and The Last Song, and listen to Taylor Swift- because one day my own love story will resemble those tales. I am positive about that.
But until then I'll be waiting, probably in the library, for the guys at URI (and any college for that matter) to get off Tinder and step up. Treat girls the way they deserve to be treated.
So, sitting here, literally three seats over from a very attractive gentlemen, I wondered- Why is it that women wait for guys to come to us?
Well, let's take a step back and think about things for a second. Our role models for dating are people in books, and movies. In those movies there are men that are actual gentlemen- who go for what they want. They didn't swipe right on Tinder or OKCupid, they didn't text you "good morning beautiful" and never actually ask you out, and they definitely didn't expect you to sleep with them on the first date...
Noah in the Notebook walked right up to Allie and got exactly what he wanted. Augustus Waters had the decency to make things happen with Hazel Grace. And the boys in my novels always seem to really care about the main character. And NONE of those guys were just looking for sex. (I know, shocker!)
So, my question is- why can't that happen now? Why are women putting aside our goals of finding a guy that really get us, and just settling for guys who just want to "express themselves physically" (LMAO we all know what that means). Why is being on Tinder "all the rage right now?" Is it because women are settling for what men want? Or is it because we're afraid of finding something real?
Everyone tells me to lower my expectations of the male population and then I won't be upset when guys don't work out or are only looking for something casual. But, I refuse to do that. I still have hope that there is a great guy out there, like the guys in my novels, who step up and treat their girls with love and respect.
I'll continue to read my sappy love stories, write my love stories, watch A Walk To Remember and The Last Song, and listen to Taylor Swift- because one day my own love story will resemble those tales. I am positive about that.
But until then I'll be waiting, probably in the library, for the guys at URI (and any college for that matter) to get off Tinder and step up. Treat girls the way they deserve to be treated.
February 23, 2015
Is This Real Life?
Hey!
First of all, I want to introduce myself to all of you. I'm Lizzi, and soon enough I will be a published author. And honestly it is the weirdest feeling. At this point I'm not sure if I should laugh, cry or throw up in response to all of this craziness.
Barren is and will forever be "my baby." Although I wrote a few novels, short stories, and poems before writing Barren, it was the first piece I really felt connected to. I wanted to tell Stacey's story more than anything, and when I had finished writing, I felt like I could finally breathe again.
As of right now, I am waiting ever so patiently for my cover to be released to you all. Once that happens, we'll be in business, because the release date for Barren will be right around the corner. (Excuse me while I freak out... LOL)
Honestly, I still can't believe that in a few short months Barren will be out. I never thought that a 19 year old from RI could do this- but apparently anything is possible. I'm excited about this opportunity, and more than anything I'm ready to see if Stacey affects you guys like she has affected me.
Love,
Lizzi
First of all, I want to introduce myself to all of you. I'm Lizzi, and soon enough I will be a published author. And honestly it is the weirdest feeling. At this point I'm not sure if I should laugh, cry or throw up in response to all of this craziness.
Barren is and will forever be "my baby." Although I wrote a few novels, short stories, and poems before writing Barren, it was the first piece I really felt connected to. I wanted to tell Stacey's story more than anything, and when I had finished writing, I felt like I could finally breathe again.
As of right now, I am waiting ever so patiently for my cover to be released to you all. Once that happens, we'll be in business, because the release date for Barren will be right around the corner. (Excuse me while I freak out... LOL)
Honestly, I still can't believe that in a few short months Barren will be out. I never thought that a 19 year old from RI could do this- but apparently anything is possible. I'm excited about this opportunity, and more than anything I'm ready to see if Stacey affects you guys like she has affected me.
Love,
Lizzi
