Harriet Lerner's Blog, page 5

Beware of Apologies That Won't Heal

Not all apologies clear the air or foster the growth of the relationship. Learn to spot the bad ones.

The 4 Signs That You Should Not Give Advice

Sometimes the most helpful thing you can do is to stop trying to be helpful.

Why Men and Women Dread Female Anger

The taboos against female anger are alive and well today.

The Surprising Key to a Happy Marriage

There is one simple thing that intimacy requires of us, and it's the greatest of all human challenges.

Should You Have Sex With Your Spouse When You Don't Want To?

Have you stopped having sex with your spouse or partner? This advice can go a long way.

The Secret to Connecting With a Distant or Difficult Dad

If you want to connect with a distant or difficult dad, don't make this common mistake!

5 Ways to Spot Advice-Giving Books That Hurt Women

6 do’s and don’ts to protect good women from bad books.

A Zen-ish Story About Stepping Aside From Suffering

We all get mired down in negative self-talk and low self-esteem. My experience in a doctor's waiting room taught me a lesson.

How to Stop Fighting with Your Spouse

If getting angry is getting nowhere, consider this advice.

Learn the Real Reason Why Marriages Fail

Here's why even the best marriages get stuck in too much distance, too much intensity, and too much pain.