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Are You Spiritual Enough?

Summer is sneaking into my room and tickling my feet.

I’m feeling all giddy and giggly about it.

 

I want to increase the amount of laughter in the world, and in my life. 

In that spirit, I’ve written something humorous (I hope.)

If you are easily offended, PLEASE do not take the quiz below. It pokes a bit of fun at some of the people I encounter on a daily basis (and at myself, of course).

If not, please enjoy the following lighthearted spoof.

With a belly-shaking chuckle,

 

 

P.S. Special thanks to my dear friend and rockin’ Transformational Coach Mary Shackelford. This idea was born during a hysterical conversation we recently had. Enjoy.

 

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Are you spiritual enough?

 

Are you wearing more than one set of mala beads?


When things go wrong, do you first check if mercury is in retrograde?


Are your friends shocked when you’re not wearing yoga pants?


Do you “send love and light” to everyone who pisses you off?


Is chakra misalignment easily recognizable?


Do you say namaste more than once a day?


Is your guru no longer in his/her body?


Have you spent more on crystals than on shoes in the past six months?


Is your ringtone a Hindu chant?


Have you been to a drum circle, kirtan, or trance dance in the past month?

 

If you answered ‘No’ to more than one question, you, in fact are NOT spiritual enough.

It saddens me to hear that, but I know all is at is supposed to be. I’ll pray for you, nonetheless.

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Love and Anger

I had a really bad experience recently. During a series of money hiccups, I called my bank’s customer service several times over the course of a week to straighten things out. An agent said to me, “Since Pascale is obviously a man’s name, I know you are committing fraud.” They put my accounts on a security hold.

 

I’m not making this up.

 

I’ve been banking there FOR THIRTY YEARS.

 

I flew into a rage I had not experienced for decades. I was like an atomic bomb, creating physical damage, and then destructive radiation for a wide perimeter around me. For days.

 

Every time I thought of the situation, the rage returned.

 

I dreamt of driving to the bank’s customer service center, locating this person, and giving her a talking to that would ensure she NEVER spoke to another customer that way again.

 

And worse.

 

I was also more aggressive on the road, short-tempered with my loved ones and strangers, and altogether unpleasant. I wore my upset like a full-body jumpsuit.

 

We often think of emotions as uni-directional – pointed only toward the person directly involved. Occasionally, emotions will be pointed at ourselves.

 

Here’s the truth:

 

Most (all) significant emotional states are disbursed non-specifically. Which means when you’re angry, everyone around you can feel your anger. Intense emotional states are projected out like a grenade, not a laser.

 

This was not good news to me the first time I realized it. If I’m mad at a highly rude and incompetent customer service agent, I don’t need my loved ones to receive any part of it. But they likely do.

 

This is the strongest argument I can think of for gaining a modicum of emotional control. (Which is NOT the same as emotional suppression.) And to become aware of the other people sharing your time and space.

 

We must recognize that WHO we are, and HOW we are, extends well past arm’s length.

 

The good news is that this principle also applies to our positive emotions. Our happiness can shine like a sunburst far into our extended communities.

 

Do you remember being freshly in love, when everything and everyone sparkled? I bet you were nicer to the cashier, colleagues and children who crossed your path.

 

Sharing love with another human being opens the door to sharing love with everyone. (Tweet that.) And that’s infinitely more pleasurable than shards of anger.

 

What’s to be done, you might ask?

Be mindful of the extent to which you affect and create what’s around you.
Choose your actions and reactions with the knowledge of the distance they radiate.
Fully and freely express the parts of you that add to the love, compassion and kindness in the world.

 

The point is to mind what you are transmitting out into the world – sunbeams or shrapnel.

 

Looking for some guidance in managing both your inner and outer experiences? I can help. Check out how to work with me here. 

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Silly Bird

For the past several days a bird has been flying into the windows of my house. It happens more than ten times a day, and startles me every time.

It’s confusing.

Hasn’t that bird figured it out by now? Doesn’t the sting of crashing into the window create enough negative reinforcement to prevent it from trying again and again? Why would it keep repeating an action that is totally useless, and likely painful?

I can’t help but think, “Dumb bird.”

And then I realize… I’ve done exactly the same thing.

In relationships: “Love me, love me, why won’t you love me??”

In business: “It works for everybody else!”

In health: “That doesn’t quite feel right, but let me just keep doing it.”

In parenting: “Don’t make me have to say it again!!”

In so many destructive patterns I couldn’t possibly list them all here. (And besides, it would be horribly embarrassing.)

 

How many times have you hurled yourself at the same wall, hoping it would somehow vanish?

How many times have you pretended that, “This time it’ll work… (despite the fact that it NEVER has).”

How many times have your actions left you bumped, bruised and possibly broken?

 

In between attempts to fly through solid glass, the bird sits in a tree about 10 feet away. We stare each other down. I try to psychically communicate…

“Whatever it is you want in here, you need to find it somewhere else.”

Attempting (over and over again) to obtain something that is causing you harm is a certain path to tragedy.

Persistence is one thing. Delusion is quite another.

Einstein had something to say about that too: “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

Perhaps it’s time to admit that your equivalent to flying into a window just isn’t working. From that point, it’s possible to heal the damage done, and then explore a different possibility.

Staying true to your vision sometimes means finding a different way of getting there. (Tweet that.)

It requires taking off the blinders, being honest about the results and then finding the courage to change the plan. Releasing attachment to what is not working, so that a better way can reveal itself, is the work of a master navigator.

The skill of effective navigation has been vital in so many areas of my life:

• Raising a free-spirited, strong-willed child

• Birthing a business that feeds my soul

• Creating the love relationship I’ve always dreamed of

• Recovering from deep loss

• Traveling the world

If you’d like to, once and for all, stop running into solid walls, and get some practice finding a more successful path, I’ve created something for you.

It’s called COURSE-CORRECTING: 30 Days to a Better Destination and we’re halfway through the first week.

This work is so important to me that I’m offering it at no cost to you, my wonderful community. And it’s not too late if you join us now.

Sign up here: https://coursecraft.net/courses/z9PC6

Make sure to use the promo code FYSFIRST.

This is almost certainly the only time this work will be offered for F*REE.

The adventures of life are much more fun with a great community around you. Your path, and your people, await.

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An Ode to June

June is my birthday month, and it’s right around the corner.

It also includes my father’s birthday, my honey’s birthday and my best friend’s anniversary.

It’s the summer solstice, the end of the school year, and month number 6 (my very favorite number).

That might seem like more than enough for one 30-day stretch, but I say, “No way!!”

I’d like to redefine June as…

the ideal time to discover your ability to make big changes with consistent, modest actions
perfect for Course-Correcting.

 

COURSE-CORRECTING: 30 Days to a Better Destination

Create freedom where there was restraint.

Create ease where there was struggle.

Create grace where there was suffering.

Create movement where there was inertia.

 

It can be incredibly easy to get stuck in patterns that keep you separated from your destination. You become like the car with an outdated GPS that can’t navigate around an obstacle. You can think of this course as a software upgrade for your navigation system.

 

It’s a full month of…

Tiny habit shifts that keep you dancing with whatever the Universe brings your way
Daily reminders to flex your awareness muscle
Audio meditations for complete immersion
Weekly calls to ask for help, share your experience, and connect with community
A comprehensive (and beautiful!) workbook to reinforce the teachings, capture your thoughts and track progress
Daily prizes (yay!) for engagement

 

The best part is…

THE LIFE YOU ENVISION IS AVAILABLE TO YOU. In one month, you can travel a significant distance away from what is keeping you stuck. Or grumpy. Or both. And towards a way of being that feels just right.

 

The second best part…

I am offering this entire program AT NO COST. Yup, F*REE to my community. (Make sure you use the promo code FYSFIRST when you register.)

 

Propelled by what came before.

Magnetized by what’s ahead.

Agile around whatever arises.

That’s the magic formula for COURSE-CORRECTING.

Begins June 1st. Complete information here.

 

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Bold Moves vs. Baby Steps

Bold moves are great. I’ve employed them in nearly every aspect of my life – career, relationships, health.

They are declarative, attention-getting, powerful statements of being and arriving.

I am reminded of the Star Trek episodes of my youth, where one could move from Point A to Point Z (without ever passing through B-Y) with just a single phrase: “Beam me up, Scotty!”

I am also reminded of the overnight success that was 10 years in the making.

These are baby steps disguised as a bold moves.

Time-space relocation might be sexy, but putting one foot in front of the other actually gets you there.

The way of the road warrior is not paved with golden bricks. It is fraught with blisters, fatigue and an ever-changing set of weather conditions. It requires patience, persistence, diligence and resilience. It is the journey of fully integrating what happens before moving on to what’s next. It is sustainable. (Try Googling how many lottery winners end up worse off than they started. It’s approximately 100%.)

The paparazzi almost never accompany us. In fact, it may be difficult to any acknowledgment at all for the small steps we take every day, every moment. It can feel disheartening, and that somehow our path was replaced by a treadmill and we are, in fact, standing still.

It takes only a glance up to realize the extent of our progress. (Looking down makes everything appear the same.)

Being in motion, even (especially) when the path ahead is uncertain, keeps delivering us the fuel we need to choose and create. Directed movement  provides the momentum to steer, turn and spin. Taking consistent action creates compound interest in our lives.

There is a Japanese philosophy called ‘Kaizen’, which was adopted by the US manufacturing industry during WWII. There was no capacity or money to make dramatic changes to the steel industry, yet a huge increase in output was required. What they did was implement small changes. Almost undetectably small. Which added up over time and changed everything about our organizational processes.

This philosophy and practice was not only the key to our victory, but also to Japan’s eventual domination in so many areas.

“Big results come from many small changes accumulated over time,” says the Kaizen Institute.

I couldn’t agree more. Adopting a Kaizen mindset can help us achieve big goals in every area of life.

Want to lose weight? Add one vegetable, or a 5-minute walk to your day.
Want to have a better relationship with your kids? Hold your tongue from an angry response once every day.
Want to feel more peaceful? Breathe deeply for three minutes every day.

It may seem impossible, or at least unlikely, but I have seen with my own eyes (and in my own life) the miraculous effects of these tiny adjustments.

What do they have in common? They happen regularly, and they don’t trigger a fear response. The changes are so small, and the expectations are so modest, that our natural reaction of, “I can’t do it!” stays dormant. Otherwise, it’s easy to believe that fitting into your skinny jeans, trusting your teenager or not feeling constantly overwhelmed is science fiction.

We all do it – take action in small pieces – but it’s hardly given the credit for our success. The flash and pop go to the actions that drop people’s jaws. What had been happening behind the scenes, sometimes for decades, drops away as inconsequential.

No more. Let’s give baby steps their full due, shall we?

Join me for a month of modest moves, graceful adjustments, and the liberal application of Kaizen to our grand adventures.

It all happens over the 30 days of June, during which we become:

Propelled by what came before.

Magnetized by what lies ahead.

Agile around whatever arises.

That’s the magic formula for

COURSE-CORRECTING: 30 Days to a Better Destination . 

 

It’s about staying strong and gentle, focused and flexible, steady and playful.

I am offering this program to you, my beloved community, AT NO COST. All the details, including how to get your fr**bie promo code, can be found right here. The journey begins June 1st. 

I deeply desire for you to know that every step counts. That your destination awaits you. And that I am honored to be on this expedition with you.

With love, excitement and some pretty snazzy walking shoes,

 

 

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The Pursuit of Unhappiness*

*No, that’s not a typo.

Who would ever pursue UNhappiness??

 

You would.

I would.

Everyone we’ve ever known would.

 

Perhaps that doesn’t make a stitch of sense. You’re right.

Happiness has a whole lot of caché. It’s the hot thing, the hip thing, the new black. Even His Holiness The Dalai Lama says happiness is where it’s at. (I paraphrase.)

Here is a highly incomplete list of how we pursue unhappiness:

Guilt

Shame

Pining for another person’s love/respect/approval

Jealousy/Envy

Avoidance

And my very favorite… worry.

Worry is choosing unhappy over happy. And it’s a poor stand-in for creation. (Tweet that.)

I think about worry a lot. (That sounds weird.)

I am constantly discovering and inventing new ways for my clients to shed that pesky habit once and for all. Nearly everyone begins incredulous that worry is optional. In this world, where so many bad things happen, or can happen, how can we not worry?

Easy. Or at least simple.

It’s nearly impossible to be taking action and worrying at the same time. So the universal antidote to hopping on the worry train is to do something.

Even doing the wrong thing keeps us in motion, as opposed to the paralysis of worry. When we are in motion, and making evaluations at each step, it is much more difficult to extrapolate to some worst-case scenario (the best breeding ground for the worry virus).

Taking steps, no matter how small, says to the Universe, “Hey!! Send some guidance.”

Personally, it feels like the Muse and the Fairy Guides (totally woo woo, I know) only pay attention to me when there’s something going on. When all the activity is merely happening in my head (stewing, brewing, stressing and fretting), no one comes to help.

 

When we focus on our best next step, while keeping the desired goal in mind,

there is no more room for worry.

 

I don’t want to make this simplistic, or neglect to take into account that most of us have really big stuff going on. Our lives are filled with uncertainty, complexity, and challenges. We can almost never foretell the future. To a greater or lesser extent, we are powerless over the events of our lives.

But we are not powerless over what truly rules us: our thoughts. (Tweet that.)

Courageously navigating through whatever lies on the road before us gives us a nonstick coating that prevents worry from sticking or staining.

Small steps, taken consistently over time, can be more than enough to accomplish big shifts in mindset and results. It is the humane way, AND the sustainable way, to create lasting positive change in your life.

To help you strengthen your immunity from worry, I’ve created a guided journey launching June 1st called:

COURSE-CORRECTING: 30 Days to a Better Destination 

It’s about tackling something big – a belief, a habit, a relationship, a project – by taking small, steady steps and course-correcting as you go.

Improve your clarity, confidence and overall contentment by putting yourself directly in the flow of life. No more feeling paralyzed, powerless, and unable to change direction. The only things between you and what your desire are a collection of consistent steps and a series of course corrections.

Complete information (as well as a video invitation from you-know-who) is just a few days away. Can’t wait until then? Just reply to pascale@feedyoursoul.com and I’ll make sure you get on the early-bird list.

I can’t wait to see you there.

 

P.S. Do you think that strange move where you stick your finger in your mouth and then wave it around really predicts the wind direction?

 

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Coffee and Course Correcting

I just recently started drinking coffee. You might find that unremarkable. Coffee is the most widely enjoyed beverage/drug/hobby in the world.

What’s remarkable, or maybe just interesting, is that my behavior change comes after a lifetime of finding the smell, taste and effects of coffee completely unappealing.

I grew up in a coffee household, a coffee culture, and with coffee as the implicitly adored beverage. (I used to joke that the only things holding my mother together were espresso and rage. Not that funny, I know.)

But for me, it was always “No, thank you,” and often, “No way!” I just couldn’t stomach any part of that dark brown liquid.

Then, in my recent quest to bring myself back to optimal health, and in my experimentation with some cutting-edge healing theories, I came across a horde of evidence about the health-enhancing qualities of this popular brew. I decided to give it another try.

Surprisingly, I liked it. I used toxin-free, organic, fair-trade coffee beans, freshly ground, and prepared like a chemistry experiment. My best friend, a long-time coffee aficionado, was horrified at my coffee paraphernalia, and I was forced to upgrade. I’m seriously legit now.

Anyhow, it’s become a part of most of my mornings. Usually with butter mixed in. (It’s called Bulletproof coffee, it’s all the rage, and you should try it. Trust me.)

Sometimes I come across some strongly negative opinion about coffee, and it makes me doubt my decision. Maybe it’s not good for me. Maybe it’s bankrupting my energy systems, which will lead to an unpleasant repayment in the future. Maybe I’m willingly creating an addiction.

It triggers my discomfort with uncertainty. Both sides, equally vehement in their stand (It’s the best! It’s the worst!), play tug-o-war with my mind and emotions.

I am flooded with questions:

How do I know it’s the right thing to do?

How do I know whether my choices are creating health or harm?

How do I know that I’ve taken the right path, and am heading in the right direction?

 

The Truth:

The only way to know is from inside the experience.

The ‘right’ way rarely reveals itself to the observer instead of the participant. (Tweet that.)

 

Life is a series of choices and decisions, often (ALWAYS) made with no guarantees. What is important is that we continue to choose and decide. That we continue to take steps, big or small.

I could spend an eternity contemplating what the best choice would be. OR I could take the riskier position and try something, knowing that I can always change direction once I’ve gotten going.

I can stew and study and ponder about the pros and cons of coffee. Or I can try and test and evaluate the real experience. If needed, once I’m in motion, I can shift. I can course correct.

You can only steer a moving vehicle. Take action. Choose. Begin.

Life isn’t about the perfect path or getting it right. It’s about the moment-to-moment choices we make, and how they add up over time.

 

You learn decisiveness by deciding.

You learn courage by risking.

You learn progress by doing.

You learn life by living.

Every step you take prepares you for the next. (Tweet that.)

 

Some questions for you:

How have you been exercising your ‘choosing’ muscle?

How do you keep yourself moving forward?

How graceful are your course corrections?

 

I’d love to hear your thoughts about it. Over a cup of coffee, perhaps?

 

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A Love Note… For You

My beloved reader,

I know that you’re here because something hurts. I’m here because I’ve also had that hurt. I don’t claim that mine is the same as yours, although it might be, but that in my own journey to heal I’ve discovered so many ways of feeling better that I am committed to sharing. I want to help.

I know it can often feel that life is too hard – we are blocked, tested, and forced down too often.

 

The powerful secret is this:

Those things that feel like punishment are actually your greatest gifts.

 

I know it’s hard to believe, but I can actually take you there. And being there is the key to transforming suffering to contentment.

I want to give you all I have, so that your light in the world shines a little brighter for everyone in your world. You see, I have an ulterior motive (insert diabolical laugh ;)). I’d like the world to be a nicer, kinder, more compassionate place. For myself, my daughter and all my loved ones.

When we unshackle ourselves from our own suffering, we have a much greater ability to be generous, brilliant and of service to humanity. (Tweet that.)

 

I believe…

that pain is our connection to compassion and reveals our humanity
that suffering holds within it the seed of healing, just like a dying flower spreads its pollen and fertilizes the ground for the next growth
that anything in life can be changed through perception
if we unravel the binds of our suffering, we become better people and better people make a better world

 

I see that you believe the same. The Universe is on your side. And so am I. Will you let me be your guide?

 

With deep devotion to all our healing,

 

 

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Art (And Life) At Arm’s Length

At Arm’s Length Figure Study by Brenda Pressnall

I’m currently reading (or listening to, more precisely) The Creative Habit by Twyla Tharp. I began the book while on a plane (of course), completely exhausted (uh-huh), so I kept nodding off. Falling into neck bending, drool-producing slumber.

 

Not that I don’t adore Twyla Tharp. I do. She’s been my favorite choreographer since I was a serious dancer. And a teenager.

 

I was startled into a wide-eyed, body-tingling awakeness by the following sentence: “Every artist has a focal length.”

 

I wasn’t sure why I woke up, but something got my attention. I listened intently as Twyla spoke about the sweeping vistas of Ansel Adams, the approachability of Jerome Robbins choreography (think West Side Story…) or the comprehensive detail of Raymond Chandler’s detective novels.

 

They each represent a particular relationship between artist and medium – broad scope, arm’s length, and microscopic. She lauded all three approaches equally.

 

I had always considered it a major fault of mine that I was unable (and unwilling) to write with great detail. All I could see were the writers around me who could describe the way the light landed on a coffee table with such exquisite detail that it could nearly make you cry. My interest in the thoughts and feelings of the person sitting on the couch, watching the sun go down, was never quite as good. In my eyes.

 

Twyla described an artist’s perspective, and their particular basis of expression, as a reflection of their interior workings, and as natural and variable as the numerous ways of making art. Neither way being better than any other.

 

This was a huge relief.

 

Because this belief that my art was lacking, or wrong, was not contained within my life as an artist, but bled into every aspect of my life as a human. As these things tend to do.

 

I realized that I lived the same way – at arm’s length. And I had defined that as wrong. Or at least not the best it could be. (Compounded, of course, by the many who felt free to share that opinion with me.)

 

To say I am an observer is an understatement. Arm’s length feels clear, objective and safe. It allows me to be close enough to connect, but far enough to not be entangled. The life I created allows very few in close, keeps most at arm’s length, and leaves the rest to blur into an indistinguishable mass. For some reason, I considered that approach not quite right. I believed I should be some other way.

 

What I see naturally is life on a human scale, not masses or collections of humans (aka sociology, anthropology), and not just their parts (modern medicine and most sciences). It’s neither about the 30,000-foot view nor the microscopic details. My lens focuses at the miraculous medley of body, mind, and soul expressed in a singular, spectacular being – the essence of life versus the details of living.

 

Twyla’s words were the perfect balm, the magnificent gift of perspective (which I wrote about here and here).

 

Behavior defined as detached could be re-branded as holistic. Being excited by the finest of details (which happens for my beloved) does not have to be picky or small-minded. Instead it can be appreciated as meticulous and complete.

 

[Frequent discussions with my darling involve my asking him to give me the big picture, and him asking me to fill in the details. It’s become a joke between us.]

 

Understanding the vista we seek, and the perspective we take, has great bearing on the art we create. (Tweet that.)

 

And yes, we are all creating art, whether it’s colors on a canvas, words on a page, ink on our bodies, or the carefully crafted way to brush away another’s tear. Our art is the legacy that we leave behind us – the way we treated people, the beauty, generosity, leadership, or insight we expressed.

 

Nothing beats knowing yourself. Except perhaps knowing that you are exactly as you are supposed to be. (Tweet that.)

 

Now, for your own inquiry.

From what distance is life in greatest focus?
What works well from this perspective?
What is missing or blurry?
What would you have to see or know to love who you are AND how you are?

 

Stand confidently in the space you hold.

 

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Love, Death and Hot Vampires

 

I’ve had nothing but disdain for the whole vampire craze. I just didn’t get it. What was all the fuss about??

I just found out.

 

Thanks to a brief viewing of my daughter’s newest obsession: a TV show called The Vampire Diaries.

What initially caught my attention was the cast. They’ve successfully assembled the most beautiful group of human beings I’ve ever seen. Call me late to the game. Apparently, every teenage girl in the world already knew this, but it was certainly news to me.

Reeled in by ultra-hot humans, I was then immobilized by the rapid flurry of hyper-dramatic events. Life and death, literally. (My abstinence from television might be revealing itself right about now.)

My daughter and I have, since that accidental glance, gone on several benders – watching episode after episode (Gosh, I love Netflix), until we had to pull ourselves away to eat, bathe or work. It felt excruciatingly difficult, like waking up after being drugged. (I’m guessing…)

The reactions to my big reveal are probably going in two directions:

A. OF COURSE YOU LOVE THIS SHOW! IT’S THE BEST EVER! WHAT TOOK YOU SO LONG??

**or**

B. Pascale, you may have officially lost your mind. For real, this time.

 

For those of you choosing option B, let me explain.

The show’s message aligns perfectly with my long-term practice of dis-identification with death.

[Brief side-note: I realize how weird that sounds. However, creating immunity around the fear of death is one of the most profound Buddhist practices, and creates a strikingly different perspective on life. Socrates taught that to practice dying was the highest form of wisdom. My favorite book about it: A Year to Live by Stephen Levine.]

Since the show is about vampires, there’s a lot of death. And a lot of re-birth. More than I’ve ever seen in any show. There’s a certain numbness that develops as characters die, come back and die again, etc.…

If you’ve encountered death in your life, perhaps you’ve realized how consuming it can be. The fear of death keeps many of us from living. Or living fully.

And the fear of another’s death can prevent us from being in true relationship. We end up clinging and grasping, instead of loving and honoring.

Yet… death is the only thing in life that is absolutely guaranteed. As one of my wise teachers likes to say, “No one gets out of here alive.”

Somehow, being witness to this medley of immortality and dying gives me perspective.

 

What’s worth dying for?

More importantly, what’s worth living for?

 

I vacillate between the understanding that forever is also an option for me (albeit not in an immortal, blood-drinking body) and the realization that this go-round is absolutely finite. It often makes choices more difficult.

It certainly creates a nearly endless stream of questions…

What role does forever play in our lives?


Does love trump death?


Can we honor our immortal souls, our temporary bodies, and the fragile nature of life itself, all at the same time? (It’s a brain teaser… I know.)

 

Aside from the all the steamy, passion-filled shenanigans, and the amazing eye candy, the themes in this teen-oriented sci-fi drama keep me thinking. And feeling.

And grateful I don’t currently have to sleep with a wooden stake under my pillow.

 

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