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March 20, 2017
March 17, 2017
Weekly Web (W)roundup
Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.
Brad Hambrick | Manipulative Repentance: 8 Red Flag Phrases
“In this post, I hope to accomplish two things. First, I will attempt to clarify two common misperceptions about manipulation. Second, I will discuss a series of phrases commonly used in repentance which can be red flags that the remorse being expressed will not lead to healthy relational restoration.”
Preston Sprinkle | What Is A Christian Sexual Ethic?
“Most people today view marriage as a contract between two consenting people, who commit to loving each other until they fall out of love with each other, in which case they can break the contract and go about their way. When consent is the only rule, two adults can pretty much use marriage anyway they see fit.”
Michael Kelley | Kids, Asparagus, and the Command of Jesus
“In the end, though, our kids are compliant. They will eat it. Sure, it will be with plenty of drama as they force feed it to themselves one bite at a time, washed down with gallons of whatever drink they have, but after a couple of hours they will get it down. Because they are compliant, they will obey my command and go through the mechanics of eating what I tell them to eat.”
Key Life | Radical Grace… is Radical
“I mean exactly what I teach and, no matter how shocking, heretical and radical it sounds, it’s exactly what the Bible teaches about grace. In fact, it is the essence of the Christian faith. In our efforts to be religious, right and righteous, we sometimes forget how shocking and counterintuitive the message really is. Telling Christians that God will never be angry at them no matter what they do, where they go or how badly they screw up can be disconcerting.”
Living Out | Peter’s Story
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March 16, 2017
March 14, 2017
An Announcement, a New Book, and a Giveaway!
Hey friends,
It’s been awhile, hasn’t it? There are a few reasons for why I haven’t been very active around here, and perhaps those will warrant a more detailed explanation in the near future, but for now, I’ve logged back in to give you some exciting news:
I’ve got a new book coming out in less than a month!
And the best part is, you can read this book in public without having to hide the cover (I’m looking at you, 10 Lies Men Believe about Porn).
52 Amazing Things That Became True of You the Moment You Trusted Christ will be available April 4th pretty much everywhere (Amazon, iBook Store, Barnes & Noble, from the trunk of my car on the street corner… you get the idea).
This awesome little book unpacks many of the verses in Scripture describing who you are “In Christ” to help you understand more fully who God says you are, and what these truths mean for you personally—all of which can be deeply transformational and life-changing.
If this all sounds familiar to those of you who have been around for a while, you’re not having a case of deja vu. This book is a re-release of my old, self-published book, Done. Now that FaithWords has published it though, it will be available to a much greater audience (not to mention it has a snazzy new hard-cover as well).
Anyways, on to the giveaway!
We’ve got a couple of great prizes you can win by pre-ordering 52 Things prior to the launch on April 4th:
Prize #1: Pre-order 1 or more copies and you’ll be entered to win 1 of 5 hour-long Skype calls with me to chat about anything you want (the content of 52 Things, topics related to 10 Lies Men Believe about Porn, Star Wars, Legos, politics, etc.). Not only that, I’ll send each winner a Starbucks gift card so we can both have fancy coffee on our call (just as if we were meeting up in person!).
Prize #2: Pre-order 5 or more copies and I will send you a signed hard copy of 52 Things as well as entering you into the drawing for the Skype call.
IMPORTANT: For either option, all you need to do is email me a screen shot or photo of your amazon receipt showing a purchase date prior to April 4th to be entered. Easy peasy.
And just in case you missed all the previous links:
PRE-ORDER 52 THINGS HERE!
Thanks again friends. I always appreciate the gift that it is to share these truths with such a wonderful group.
Good luck! I look forward to talking with some of you soon.
—Stephen
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March 10, 2017
Weekly Web (W)roundup
Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.
Wm. Paul Young | Lie #25: God is Disappointed in Me
“God knows you, completely, fully, and with unrelenting affection. You don’t surprise God. God delights in you, as you delight in your own children; God also grieves for and with you when you act inside your lies and darkness—but not because God expected more of you.”
Benjamin Corey | There’s Only Two Types Of “Christian” (And You Should Be Able To Tell The Difference)
“It doesn’t matter what kind (denomination) of Christian you are; there are still only two types: one is the member of a Christian religion, and the other is someone who is actively living like Jesus.”
Relevant | 5 Misconceptions About Waiting for Marriage
“The Bible speaks a lot about renewal and restoration, and if you have had sex in the past, don’t let that fact, and the shame that may accompany it, determine your future.”
CovenantEyes | 6 Ways to Raise a Sex Addict
“A child who doesn’t feel unconditional love usually doesn’t experience a lot of affection and non-sexual touch. Having never developed a strong attachment to a caregiver, sex addicts do not have the skills to have an intimate relationship as an adult. Healthy touch and intimacy can actually be uncomfortable.”
AndSons | What to do When You Find Yourself Hating Your Life
“I can honestly say now that looking back over the 30 years since I was 26, I am so profoundly grateful God did not tell me everything that was going to go down. It would have been overwhelming; I wouldn’t have been able to take the next step or the one after that. What he gave me was the next step, each step of the way. What you get is a conversation; what is offered is simply the next step.”
The Bible Project | 1-3 John
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March 3, 2017
Weekly Web (W)roundup
Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.
Gospel Coalition | Three Lies We Might Easily Believe
“It is very much in the Devil’s interests that we despair. If he can get us to believe any of these three demoralizing lies that he loves to whisper into our thoughts, our powers for Jesus are greatly diminished. And each one seems to us quite plausible.”
Paul Robinson | Living with Trolls as a Codependent Addict
“As a former addict, an addict who is a Christian at that, anytime my addiction took a hold of me it evoked strong feelings of shame and guilt. These feelings similarly didn’t exist in a vacuum but in the middle of relationships and how I responded to everyday life. So you know, everything. It produced a strong co dependency in me where I needed others to be cool with me, since I was definitely not cool with myself.”
Experimental Theology | Lovin’ On the Freakshow Sitting Next to You: The Church According to Twenty One Pilots
“Both Jesus and TØP have friendships with ‘heathens,’ relationships with the criminal, the immoral, the broken and the insane. They bring these ‘heathens’ to the church. And the request is for the church to welcome these “heathens” with gentleness and compassion. Take it slow, church, don’t make sudden moves. People are fragile and weak. What you see on the outside will tempt you toward judgment and harshness. But you don’t know half of the abuse.”
Twenty One Pilots | Heathens
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February 17, 2017
Weekly Web (W)roundup
Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.
CovenantEyes | How to React the First Time Your Child Admits Watching Porn
“A parent’s first reaction is so critical. The first words out of our mouth, the first body language we express, has an enormous impact on any future success we may have helping our child. It’s worth thinking about and trying to plan for.”
Relevant | Feelings Don’t Rule Our Lives
“What do you do when your emotions are so out of alignment that you can’t see straight? When your thoughts betray you, accuse you and confuse you? When both the world around you and the world within you are equally devoid of hope and happiness? What do you do when your soul hurts?”
Gospel Coalition | I Am Not Disgusting. I Am Not Alone. I Am Redeemed.
“I realized I didn’t have some kind of unusual disease; I was just human. I didn’t have to try to be straight in order follow God’s will for my life. I knew my sexuality described so much of me, but I discovered it didn’t define me. As a Christian, Jesus defined me, and he looked at me with love.”
TrueFace | Shedding Masks
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February 3, 2017
Weekly Web (W)roundup
Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.
Gospel Coalition | Proofs That If God Is for Us, Nothing Can Be Against Us
“No one can condemn us to hell on judgment day because Jesus himself died for us, was raised for us, and is now at the right hand of God interceding for us. We are eternally secure in Christ.”
Relevant | No One Ever Came to Jesus Because a Christian Scolded Them
“This is what happens in a group of people who have sound theology but are lacking in love. A Colosseum culture develops. Everyone rallies around a common enemy—the sinner. Robbers, evildoers, tax collectors, adulterers and adulteresses. And then the pouncing and the piling on. The shaming.”
CovenantEyes | 5 Habits to Rebuild Trust in Your Marriage
“Trust is the pure and powerful binding agent that holds our marital relationships together. Porn is trust’s greatest enemy. Its effects are relentless and destructive. And when that foundation of trust gives out and the structure of marriage sitting on top of it begins to crumble and fall, people get hurt leaving wounds and deep scars. And then what?”
KeyLife | Three Uses of the Law
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January 27, 2017
Weekly Web (W)roundup
Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.
AndSons | Men Need Romance, Not Just Sex
“This is the story of a lot things. He finally got the girl. A coming-of-age vignette. Maybe just funny, awkward, or cute. But how about an act of foreplay? Yes, I mean the stuff that makes for good sex.”
XXXchurch | 4 Unexpected Things That Happen When You Quit Porn
“Many people are too scared to leave behind porn, because quitting any supposed ‘pleasure’ in our culture feels like an amputation, or some kind of offense against our autonomy. ‘You can’t tell me what to do’ is the leading logic.”
Desiring God | Never Harmless, Never Private, Never Safe
“At different times during that next decade of battling my sin, experiencing small victories and often as many defeats, I had the thought that marriage might cure me. In the back of my head, I thought I just needed a wife to satisfy all my sexual desire and impatience. So I allowed myself to dive into relationship after relationship, knowing I hadn’t dealt with the impurity that plagued me.”
Lifeway Men | Getting Into The Shoes of Millennial Men [PART 4]
“Millennial men have grown up in a world where many educators and marketers assaulted their maleness with neutral gender psycho-babble. They confused brash machismo (bad), with real acts of justice, protection, and courageous sacrifice (masculine).”
Steve McVey | Why You Should Be Optimistic in 2017
“Do you expect things to become better or worse? Make no mistake about it – what we believe about God’s working in our lives in this arena has an inestimable effect on how we move ahead and what we will experience and enjoy in the coming days.”
Trueface | The Path
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January 20, 2017
Weekly Web (W)roundup
Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.
CovenantEyes | Changing How We See Beauty
“We must begin to look at women and people that we would objectify, not according to the flesh such as to arouse our own lusts; but understand that each individual represents a treasured person.”
XXXchurch | 4 Things to Look for to Determine If You Can Trust Your Sex-Addicted Spouse
“Ask any sexually-betrayed partner and they will tell you that while the infidelity itself is like a punch in the gut, worse still are dishonesty and lying. While they hate the betrayal, they detest the lack of integrity displayed in attempting to cover the tracks. At some point, the focus on rebuilding trust is as critical as helping the sex-addicted partner manage the addiction itself.”
Gospel Coalition | How to Encourage Honesty About Sin without Excusing It
“Life together in the body of Christ requires a healthy degree of openness and honesty about sin and temptation. ‘Confess your sins to one another,’ the apostle James writes (5:16). But how do we be vulnerable about our sin without simply excusing it?”
Pete Wilson | The Questions that Haunt Us
“So to all of my friends with broken or discouraged hearts. Let’s choose today (yes, in the midst of our difficulties) to believe that one day light will win over the darkness, love will win over hate, and all things will be redeemed and exist the way they were intended… and until that day, HE IS CLOSE. Closer than you ever imagined. Loving deeper than you’ve ever felt.”
Scott Slayton | How Can I Know that I am a Christian?
“The thrill of my early Christian assurance soon ran into the brutal reality that I was still a sinner. This led to my lack of assurance returning with fury. Wanting to turn to the Bible to find assurance, I misread the tests in 1 John and only found assurance based on how well I was obeying God. This led to an unhealthy roller coaster.”
LeyLife | Assurance (In 90 Seconds)
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