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Let's Talk About Sex, Baby (but not you and me, cause that would be weird …)
(WARNING: I DO TALK ABOUT SUBJECT MATTER THAT'S IN THE BOOK. NO SPOILERS, BUT I KNOW SOME PEOPLE LIKE TO GO INTO A BOOK COMPLETELY BLIND)
Okay, I'm gonna keep it 110% real with y'all, I've decided. So let's do it. Let's talk about SEX.
I have talked about this in posts on Facebook, but I'll repeat some stuff. 98% of the world is going have, has had, and will continue to have, sex. The big nasty. So basically, EVERYONE is doing it, but most people act like it's the biggest, dirtiest secret ever. Um, most people breathe, too, but we don't treat that like it's a dirty little secret. Should we? For god's sake, we also pee and poop, and even those aren't treated as taboo as sex, which is just weird, in my opinion.
I like sex. I'm going to assume most of you do, too. Feels pretty awesome, is usually a lot of fun. I'm gonna hope most of you have the same feelings about it, and if you don't …, I am very, very sorry.
I don't care what people are into – I, myself, to be completely honest, am pretty vanilla. I do not own a sex swing or any ball-gags. Not that I am against those things, they just don't hold too much appeal for me, personally. However, if my husband were to show up at home with a riding crop and handcuffs, I wouldn't say no thank you, either.
So now that you have an idea of the way my tastes run, I hope it shows my thinking regarding my own story. I do not do the things Tate and Jameson do, though I do find them kind of sexy. What's really strange, though, coming from such a vanilla person – I didn't find it dark. I didn't realize that's what it was, when I was writing it. I didn't realize it till I started reading the reviews.
Abusive? Dark? It's all consensual – Tate literally begs for half the stuff Jameson does to her; she MAKES him do some of the things, almost against his will. Several times, throughout the story, he checks with her, asks her if what they're doing is okay. Asks if she thinks there is something wrong with him. I actually worried that would take away from his Alpha-“cred”.
Is it abuse, if one person is asking for it (literally, not figuratively) and the other person is hesitant to deliver?
What does it say about me, that I didn't find these things dark? I thought I was writing about two people who liked kinky, aggressive, “different” sex. I didn't even start using the word “sadomasochistic” till I saw the reviews. I just knew I didn't want to write ANOTHER bondage story. I wanted to write about a different kind of sex-story. The sex never bothered me, never scared me or made me uncomfortable.
I'm very glad I wrote it this way, though, for a lot of different reasons. One of my beta readers, after reading it, told me: “it was creepy, some of the sex scenes were almost verbatim what goes on in bed between my husband and I, it's so nice to see it out there. Nice to know other people are like us.” See? It's all a fantasy, and I'm glad I could represent that for some people. Another reader told me she read parts of the story to her fiancee and then asked him if they could try some of those things out. WOW! I asked her if they had, and was told “ooohhh, yeah. It was AWESOME.” I was flattered beyond words.
I don't want anyone to EVER pee on me, but hey, some people are into it. You go, guys. Good for you. Some people like to have needles inserted into various body parts. Wow. Very brave. And some people like it with the lights off, laying down, nice and quiet. Whatever works for you!
I have just been feeling …, torn? Wondering what is wrong with me, that I didn't find the story dark and/or abusive. I mean, hey, I've read The Dark Duet, and this book ain't that (love those stories, BTW). The way Jameson treats her isn't right, that's for sure – but as a person. That's when he truly turns into Satan. I never associated that with the sex they had; that was something different.
Ultimately, I am very thankful for the positive responses I have gotten, and I am glad that for a small group of people, I could represent them – though I almost don't feel worthy, considering I'm representing something I don't necessarily take part in.
And I hope if you're reading this, if you've read the book, you'll also read the second one and see all the different sides Jameson has to offer. Hard, soft, abusive, giving, generous, jealous …, who knows, maybe even loving?
Oh god, sweetness. Now THAT makes me ill. Give me filthy language and heavy hands any day …
(sounds an awful lot like the devil talking, doesn't it?)
Okay, I'm gonna keep it 110% real with y'all, I've decided. So let's do it. Let's talk about SEX.
I have talked about this in posts on Facebook, but I'll repeat some stuff. 98% of the world is going have, has had, and will continue to have, sex. The big nasty. So basically, EVERYONE is doing it, but most people act like it's the biggest, dirtiest secret ever. Um, most people breathe, too, but we don't treat that like it's a dirty little secret. Should we? For god's sake, we also pee and poop, and even those aren't treated as taboo as sex, which is just weird, in my opinion.
I like sex. I'm going to assume most of you do, too. Feels pretty awesome, is usually a lot of fun. I'm gonna hope most of you have the same feelings about it, and if you don't …, I am very, very sorry.
I don't care what people are into – I, myself, to be completely honest, am pretty vanilla. I do not own a sex swing or any ball-gags. Not that I am against those things, they just don't hold too much appeal for me, personally. However, if my husband were to show up at home with a riding crop and handcuffs, I wouldn't say no thank you, either.
So now that you have an idea of the way my tastes run, I hope it shows my thinking regarding my own story. I do not do the things Tate and Jameson do, though I do find them kind of sexy. What's really strange, though, coming from such a vanilla person – I didn't find it dark. I didn't realize that's what it was, when I was writing it. I didn't realize it till I started reading the reviews.
Abusive? Dark? It's all consensual – Tate literally begs for half the stuff Jameson does to her; she MAKES him do some of the things, almost against his will. Several times, throughout the story, he checks with her, asks her if what they're doing is okay. Asks if she thinks there is something wrong with him. I actually worried that would take away from his Alpha-“cred”.
Is it abuse, if one person is asking for it (literally, not figuratively) and the other person is hesitant to deliver?
What does it say about me, that I didn't find these things dark? I thought I was writing about two people who liked kinky, aggressive, “different” sex. I didn't even start using the word “sadomasochistic” till I saw the reviews. I just knew I didn't want to write ANOTHER bondage story. I wanted to write about a different kind of sex-story. The sex never bothered me, never scared me or made me uncomfortable.
I'm very glad I wrote it this way, though, for a lot of different reasons. One of my beta readers, after reading it, told me: “it was creepy, some of the sex scenes were almost verbatim what goes on in bed between my husband and I, it's so nice to see it out there. Nice to know other people are like us.” See? It's all a fantasy, and I'm glad I could represent that for some people. Another reader told me she read parts of the story to her fiancee and then asked him if they could try some of those things out. WOW! I asked her if they had, and was told “ooohhh, yeah. It was AWESOME.” I was flattered beyond words.
I don't want anyone to EVER pee on me, but hey, some people are into it. You go, guys. Good for you. Some people like to have needles inserted into various body parts. Wow. Very brave. And some people like it with the lights off, laying down, nice and quiet. Whatever works for you!
I have just been feeling …, torn? Wondering what is wrong with me, that I didn't find the story dark and/or abusive. I mean, hey, I've read The Dark Duet, and this book ain't that (love those stories, BTW). The way Jameson treats her isn't right, that's for sure – but as a person. That's when he truly turns into Satan. I never associated that with the sex they had; that was something different.
Ultimately, I am very thankful for the positive responses I have gotten, and I am glad that for a small group of people, I could represent them – though I almost don't feel worthy, considering I'm representing something I don't necessarily take part in.
And I hope if you're reading this, if you've read the book, you'll also read the second one and see all the different sides Jameson has to offer. Hard, soft, abusive, giving, generous, jealous …, who knows, maybe even loving?
Oh god, sweetness. Now THAT makes me ill. Give me filthy language and heavy hands any day …
(sounds an awful lot like the devil talking, doesn't it?)
Never Judge a Book by Its Cover ..., Unless It's Mine, In Which Case, You Better Judge It To Be Awesome!
Drum Roll, Please ....
I finally have a cover! YAY!
Actually, I've had the cover for quite some time, but I signed up for a “cover reveal” with a blog, and they set the reveal date, so there ya have it! It was very hard keeping it a secret.
My cover was designed by the AMAZING Najla Qamber at http://www.najlaqamberdesigns.com/. If you haven't seen her work, GO CHECK IT OUT RIGHT NOW! The only part I had in it was the font for the title, and the woman. Everything else, including the tag-line, was all Najla. Genius. I feel unworthy of such a nice cover. I think it fits the book PERFECTLY, down to the little “S” on his cufflink. S-for-Satan, of course.
I go to shutterstock.com a lot for inspiration. It's amazing how much a picture can inspire me. Sometime while I was writing the book, I can't remember when, I came across the picture of the girl. I liked it because it's interesting and she is pretty, but I didn't think much about it at the time. She wasn't Tate – her face was too round, and her eyes are blue. I imagine Tate to have a more narrow face, and she has dark brown eyes.
But as I sent off my ideas for the cover, I kept going back to that picture of the girl. I began to associate it with the book. Whenever I thought of the cover, I thought of that girl. So I sent it to Najla, and told her that picture captured how I felt about the book, but I didn't know if it would work.
Naj's response? “Oh, I'll make it work.”
The picture of the girl was a head shot, only down to the neck. Not a problem! Najla reduced the image's size, gave her some shoulders, and then layered her on top of the man. Can't even tell! It looks like one picture.
Magic.
I am absolutely hopeless when it comes to picture manipulation. I can barely edit in Paint on Microsoft. I can barely draw a stick figure. It's vair sad. Thank god graphic designers exist, or else I'd be lost!
So thank you to Najla, to the amazing cover.
Thank you to Forever Me Romance book blog, http://forevermeromance.blogspot.com.au/, for setting up my cover reveal and all my other promo stuff. Awesome job with all the html. Another thing I'm helpless at!
And thank you to all the blogs who signed up for the reveal, it means a lot. Being an indie author is hard work. Being a new, unknown indie author? Even harder. It's like chucking pebbles into the ocean – only 80 million other people have the same idea.
I just hope some of my waves make it to shore!
To keep up to date on this stuff, head to my facebook page:
facebook.com/stylofantomeauthor
And hey, someone awesome even started a street team for me! For reals! If interested in following or joing, go to my page and hit me up!
I finally have a cover! YAY!
Actually, I've had the cover for quite some time, but I signed up for a “cover reveal” with a blog, and they set the reveal date, so there ya have it! It was very hard keeping it a secret.
My cover was designed by the AMAZING Najla Qamber at http://www.najlaqamberdesigns.com/. If you haven't seen her work, GO CHECK IT OUT RIGHT NOW! The only part I had in it was the font for the title, and the woman. Everything else, including the tag-line, was all Najla. Genius. I feel unworthy of such a nice cover. I think it fits the book PERFECTLY, down to the little “S” on his cufflink. S-for-Satan, of course.
I go to shutterstock.com a lot for inspiration. It's amazing how much a picture can inspire me. Sometime while I was writing the book, I can't remember when, I came across the picture of the girl. I liked it because it's interesting and she is pretty, but I didn't think much about it at the time. She wasn't Tate – her face was too round, and her eyes are blue. I imagine Tate to have a more narrow face, and she has dark brown eyes.
But as I sent off my ideas for the cover, I kept going back to that picture of the girl. I began to associate it with the book. Whenever I thought of the cover, I thought of that girl. So I sent it to Najla, and told her that picture captured how I felt about the book, but I didn't know if it would work.
Naj's response? “Oh, I'll make it work.”
The picture of the girl was a head shot, only down to the neck. Not a problem! Najla reduced the image's size, gave her some shoulders, and then layered her on top of the man. Can't even tell! It looks like one picture.
Magic.
I am absolutely hopeless when it comes to picture manipulation. I can barely edit in Paint on Microsoft. I can barely draw a stick figure. It's vair sad. Thank god graphic designers exist, or else I'd be lost!
So thank you to Najla, to the amazing cover.
Thank you to Forever Me Romance book blog, http://forevermeromance.blogspot.com.au/, for setting up my cover reveal and all my other promo stuff. Awesome job with all the html. Another thing I'm helpless at!
And thank you to all the blogs who signed up for the reveal, it means a lot. Being an indie author is hard work. Being a new, unknown indie author? Even harder. It's like chucking pebbles into the ocean – only 80 million other people have the same idea.
I just hope some of my waves make it to shore!
To keep up to date on this stuff, head to my facebook page:
facebook.com/stylofantomeauthor
And hey, someone awesome even started a street team for me! For reals! If interested in following or joing, go to my page and hit me up!
Oh Sanders, My Sanders
You all think you love Sanders?
No, no, no, no, no - I love Sanders. I love him so much, and I am still so shocked - beyond shocked - at the reception he has received. At the fan base HE has built. No me - him. All him. It's amazing.
I never imagined when I wrote him that he would steal as many hearts as he has; that he would steal the show as much as he has. I have said it many times, and I'll say it again here - I receive more questions and comments about Sanders than I do about Jameson, Tate, or Ang, combined. Out of three books, a quarter of a million words, there are only two times we see Sanders' POV - the prologue for Separation, and ONCE in Reparation. That's it. Yet he is hands-down the favorite.
And people are repeatedly, over and over, asking for his story.
er ...., what story?
Not that I haven't thought about it - I virtually never stop thinking about all of them. It is becoming somewhat of a problem.
But the issue that I don't think anyone realizes is this -
A lot of what makes Sanders so captivating are his interactions with Jameson and Tate. The way he plays off of them and with them. But in Sanders' story, there most likely wouldn't be a whole lot of Jameson and Tate, cause let's face it, Jameson has trouble not being the center of attention.
And even then, another thing I think people forget -
Sanders isn't entirely "normal", he doesn't think like you or I. Re-read the prologue to Separation, and then try to imagine reading an entire novel - 80,000 words, at least - like that.
Sanders isn't really a big fan of contractions.
It doesn't flow particularly well, it reads ..., well, like Sanders. A little uptight. A little nervous. A little technical. Reading in Sanders-speak is a little like reading a textbook. Very intelligent, and very dry, and very unemotional.
A whole book like that?
And I can't change him, I can't change what makes him him, I just can't. And I would hate to put out a book that people might not like, because it's not just a book, it's Sanders' book.
Frankly, I'd rather never release one than risk people not liking it - he is that special to me.
I may or may not write his story. If I do decide to write it, I probably won't say anything until it's completely finished to my satisfaction.
So I am very sorry, for everyone who wants more Sanders. But my desire to bring you the best that he has to give, outweighs the overwhelming urge to deliver his story to everyone asking for it.
But y'all will be the first to know if I ever have a finished product, I promise.
No, no, no, no, no - I love Sanders. I love him so much, and I am still so shocked - beyond shocked - at the reception he has received. At the fan base HE has built. No me - him. All him. It's amazing.
I never imagined when I wrote him that he would steal as many hearts as he has; that he would steal the show as much as he has. I have said it many times, and I'll say it again here - I receive more questions and comments about Sanders than I do about Jameson, Tate, or Ang, combined. Out of three books, a quarter of a million words, there are only two times we see Sanders' POV - the prologue for Separation, and ONCE in Reparation. That's it. Yet he is hands-down the favorite.
And people are repeatedly, over and over, asking for his story.
er ...., what story?
Not that I haven't thought about it - I virtually never stop thinking about all of them. It is becoming somewhat of a problem.
But the issue that I don't think anyone realizes is this -
A lot of what makes Sanders so captivating are his interactions with Jameson and Tate. The way he plays off of them and with them. But in Sanders' story, there most likely wouldn't be a whole lot of Jameson and Tate, cause let's face it, Jameson has trouble not being the center of attention.
And even then, another thing I think people forget -
Sanders isn't entirely "normal", he doesn't think like you or I. Re-read the prologue to Separation, and then try to imagine reading an entire novel - 80,000 words, at least - like that.
Sanders isn't really a big fan of contractions.
It doesn't flow particularly well, it reads ..., well, like Sanders. A little uptight. A little nervous. A little technical. Reading in Sanders-speak is a little like reading a textbook. Very intelligent, and very dry, and very unemotional.
A whole book like that?
And I can't change him, I can't change what makes him him, I just can't. And I would hate to put out a book that people might not like, because it's not just a book, it's Sanders' book.
Frankly, I'd rather never release one than risk people not liking it - he is that special to me.
I may or may not write his story. If I do decide to write it, I probably won't say anything until it's completely finished to my satisfaction.
So I am very sorry, for everyone who wants more Sanders. But my desire to bring you the best that he has to give, outweighs the overwhelming urge to deliver his story to everyone asking for it.
But y'all will be the first to know if I ever have a finished product, I promise.
