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What Makes a Person Successful

What Makes a Person Successful

Success will only come to those who try. It will never come to those who give up. Success is the overall result of effort one puts in. The person who has the largest amount of hard work, skill and dedication, will be the person with the best success. The problem with success is that most people quit once they receive it, and they lose it. Once you have reached your level of success you must keep working hard, advance your skill level, and dedicate yourself more. You never give up and you never stop growing.

Positive attitude is a great starting point. Psychology specialist Rebecca Mere has proven that people who think positive and work harder to see the positive in things have a far better outcome then those who don’t. That by thinking positive actually helps you reach your full potential, because you are pushing yourself harder to reach a higher success. Her point wasn’t to say that you will be the best at everything that you do, but you will defiantly be the best you can be if you have a positive attitude about everything.

Hard work pays off. The effort and time that you put into your work will get the job done better than any other way. A writer names Skip Peterson was told that he would never write anything significant because he had dyslexia. He went on to write sixteen best sellers, and many other books. When asked how he became a successful writing he states, “I found every positive loop hole in every negative situation and powered through the difficult issues.” Being dedicated plays an important role in reaching success.

Short term goals will help you stay focused so you know what you are working so hard towards. Make an outline. Write down all your long term goals and what you want to succeed, then write down some short term goals that can get you from point A to point B. Dedicate your time and strengths to one short term goal at a time. When you are done with one short term goal start on the next one right away, do not stop in between when there is a long term goal ahead. You have to remember that the short term goal is only a small victory. It is in fact just a stepping stone to reaching your long term goal, to reaching success.

Hard work, skill and dedication leads to an extremely successful person. Being successful will make you a happier person in the long haul. Learning to find the positive in everything will help you find your balance and keep your stress levels down. Just keep this in mind when you find yourself wanting to give up. Keep makings goals, work hard, and success will come.

It took me a long time to try and follow these steps. It was hard when nothing in my life made since. Nothing motivated me. Staying positive was almost impossible. I just followed the steps though. I made plans. I made long term and short term goals. I never gave up when I wanted to. If I saw myself looking at my writing career in any negative way, I set it aside and left it. I found something positive about my writing. Why I started in the first place, and then I moved forward. One small goal at a time, I’m making my way. I’m becoming successful.

 

I would love to hear any thoughts that you have on what has made you successful in your life. How can you add to this and help others be more motivated to becoming a successful person?

Miracles Happen

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Picture Perfect...

These boys have been a HUGE inspiration for Ben & Ryder!!

Time to Shine

 “Nothing defies who you are until you’ve lost who you were.” ~Carl Jung

I never really thought much about this quote until this week.

It was one year ago today that I woke up and realized that everything I loved about my life was a lie. Everything I thought I knew, I didn’t know anything about. The one person I thought loved me more than anyone else in the world, didn’t love me at all.

One year ago today, I woke up and realized that I didn’t even know who I was.

For fourteen years of my life I was sculpted, sanded, and polished to be the perfect mother and wife. Do I regret that? No! I’m actually proud of the mother that I am, and honestly I was a pretty damn good wife.

I thought that at some point my perfectly molded impression of a mother and wife started to crack and I wasn’t seeing it. I’m honestly not sure when it started, or how, but along the way I became flawed. In his mind that is.

See, I didn’t know anything was wrong.

How do you fix something that isn’t broken? Simple. You can’t.

A year later, I see that I was in fact still perfect. He was flawed. He was looking for something that I simply didn’t have to give him.

Youth.

The problem wasn’t me. The problem was… I’m perfect. I wasn’t broken anymore. I was molded, I was polished, and I was perfect. He was just simply done with me and got bored with me.

I’m still a good mother, and I’m still good wife material. The only difference is….I’m too good for him.

He doesn’t want perfect, he wants damaged and broken. Someone to rebuild, reform, sculpt, and polish into the perfect mother and wife.

I wonder sometimes if he will discard her as well. If he will get bored with her, then find a younger one to play with. I wonder if he ever misses just having a good wife and companion. I wonder if he will discard me like he did his first wife, perhaps not, because he wasn’t able to mold her.

Either way, I’m fine with it. I actually find it kind of amusing sometimes.

Because, while he was busy “forming me” I was busy being a mother and a good wife.

Now, when you read this, you might think I’m sad, or mad, or even scared. However, I’m quite the opposite. I’m relieved. I’m free. I’m perfect. I can’t look back on it as anything negative because while he was feeling empty and looking for completion in something that I obviously didn’t give him…. he gave me four of the most beautiful children in the world.

Don’t get me wrong, I am human, and I make mistakes. I’m flawed as a human, just like everyone else.

But I was molded and polished.

There is no more damage and nothing to fix.

There is no more youth to construct.

I just turned thirty-two and I couldn’t be happier. So no I’m not sad, or mad, I’m not even hurt anymore because I know that I’m done shining for him.

This past year I’ve been up and down about dating.

 At first it sucked, I was confused; I had no clue what I wanted. I just wanted to void the memory of him. Then when I stopped looking and starting living God gave me the wonderful man that I have today. We are engaged and getting married in February of next year.

I get to see my daughter graduate high school this year, I get to see the birth of my second grand-baby, I get to send my baby off to middle school this year, and I get to watch my two middle ones blossom into wonderful young ladies.

He can keep searching for youth. He can mold and polish all he wants. I’ll keep on enjoying what wasn’t broken.

The past year has been nothing but an eye opener for me, but for the first time in fourteen years, I’m ready to close that book.

2015 is the beginning of a not only a new chapter, but a new book. While he’s searching for the broken and looking for youth, I’m going to move forward with my love, our children, and our families.

Oh yeah, and write a best seller. ***laughs hysterically***

Hey, one can dream, right?

The moral of the story….

This is pretty much where I’ve been the past year. Stuck between feeling broken and realizing I was perfect all along.

That I simply can’t fix what’s not broken, I can only polish myself and shine!!

The Need to Forgive Synopsis

Sometimes forgiving is hard to do when you’re too stubborn to forget!

Bentley (Ben) Carter-Harrison survived a rough childhood by never letting his guard down, and never forgiving those who hurt him. So what is he supposed to do when his estranged father shows up out of nowhere asking for forgiveness? If you ask him, he’d say nothing. However, his down to earth husband, Ryder Harrison has a different point of view and thinks that maybe Ben is over reacting.

Not wanting to back down, Ben fights Ryder on rekindling his relationship with his father. When that doesn’t make him feel better, he starts fighting Ryder on everything else in their life. Things aren’t as easy as he thought it would be and it all ends up being too much for Ben. So, Ben does what he’s always done…he pushes Ryder away. Pushes him so hard in fact that Ryder turns to his long time crush and best friend Landon Pennington. 

With their relationship in jeopardy and Ben’s father back in the picture, both Ryder and Ben have a lot at stake. They either learn to Forgive or can forget about their happy ever after! 


Ben Inspiration in real life...

Is he not the cutest thing you have ever seen? He reminds me so much of Ben.

When I get stuck writing a part for Ben, when it comes to visuals that is, I go back to my album with this kids photos in it.

I want to personally thank him for all his help. He's amazingly beautiful and has helped me bring Ben to life on paper.

Thanks, sweetie!

Momma Monday Madness

Monday Momma Madness….

I think this momma is just going to go mad, instead of talking about it =)

No seriously…I couldn’t be happier right now. I started working a full time job yesterday. I was supposed to do more training but ended up working, which was really cool.

After being a stay at home mom for over 10 years, it was really hard to get back into the working environment again. Walking in as a manager no less. It was nerve wracking. Even though I was a substitute teacher for many years, I pretty much picked my hours. This is completely different.

As far as the girls are concerned, I honestly thought it would be a lot harder but it wasn’t. When I got home all the girls were in a good mood. Chores were done, and they were all outside playing. They were really excited to hear about my day and how it went.

I didn’t think I would take so much comfort in the support from my girls, but they really are a blessing. I just don’t know how I will manage all the stuff we have to get done, working full time, writing, editing, blogging, and all their extracurricular activities. It’s defiantly a hard pill to swallow, but I think I got this.

Meet Suzie

This is Suzie! She is our three year old English Bulldog. She just came to live with us, she might go back to live with the girls father. But, until then, I will be posting pictures of her often. Enjoy!

Suzie loves to take car rides, chase cars, and terrorize our kitty cat, Kasey. Suzie also thinks that she OWNS all the recliners in the house, not letting anyone else sit in them. =) 

NEXT BOOK IN FOR EDITS =)

It has FINALLY happened. Natalya and I just finished our second book!! It is called Silently Waiting, and will be released by the end of the year!! We will start edits on it soon.

Here is some information about it....

Shana “Shay” Dillon wasn’t the silent type by choice, in fact at one point in his life he loved to sing, Speech and Debate was his favorite subject in school, and creating street art was his life. Then a tragic car accident at the age of eighteen took not only his father from him, but his hearing as well. Slowly, he pieces his life back together by taking his love for art and putting it to paper; instead of displaying his art to people on the streets. Now he is just an artist, who works on getting the unwanted flashbacks out of his head. At the age of twenty-six he thought he had learned to live with all the physical disabilities and emotional turmoil possible for a man in his condition. Yet, he found he was seriously mistaken when he failed to anticipate falling in love. Now he needs to learn to balance not only his sheltered little world, but his ever growing connection to Police Officer Connor Jackson.

Connor Jackson comes from a long pedigree of Police Officers. His father, who is the newly elected Chief of Police, is breathing down his neck and making his life a living hell. Connor wants nothing more than to give up and leave, and just be true to himself. He struggles with the fact that no one in his family accepts that he’s gay. They sweep that piece of his life under the rug like a pesky dust bunny. On his twenty-fifth birthday he vowed to make this the year he’d find the man of his dreams. Shortly after the transfer to a smaller precinct, he finds an anxious and mistrustful artist on the beach. The artist is anything but average, yet Connor finds himself obsessing over him, and his love for art. Connor eventually unravels all Shays’ secrets, insecurities, and deep feelings while he slowly brings out the vibrant person that Shay has been hiding all these years.

Silence is golden…as long as you’re willing to wait. Silently waiting and watching life pass you by isn’t worth living for… but silently waiting for love is worth the wait!

Monday Momma Madness

I thought about this a lot…

 Every mother out there thinks they are super heroes of some sorts. They are right, you know! Mothers have some super ability that gives them the means to keep a family functional.

Think about this…

People claim that it’s all learned by trial and error. While this might be true, how do we start? Where do we start? How do we magically know what to do from the very beginning?

I don’t really know the answer to that, but I like to think that I learned everything that I know from my mother.

Let me back up...

I’m going to tell you a little bit about my mother and how I believe I inherited my super mom abilities. She is not only my mother, and best friend, she is my role model in life. My mom is young…oh let’s say 40 =) I don’t want to reveal too much too soon!

My mother was in an accident when she was young. Due to this accident she was bound to a wheelchair before her 16th birthday. Even though she was in a wheelchair, she never let it stop her. She finished school, got married, and has three children.

She chose to be a stay at home wife/mom early on in life. When I was younger I never saw her any different than the other mothers that I knew. The only difference was she couldn’t walk. My mother even learned to drive when I was two.

Back to the point I’m trying to make…

Now that I’m a mother of five girls, I look at my mother as my inspiration to keep going. She is my power drive. I struggle to maintain a well balanced home, take care of my girls, be a good spouse, balance finances, work full time as a writer, and finish my degree in English.

When I find myself at the end of my rope, positive thoughts about my mother are what drives me to keep going. Her ability to overcome so much in her life, and never let it affect us kids, is what gives me the courage to find new ways of doing things and new ideas to get everything done in a timely manner. 

With that being said…

I would love to share some stories, thoughts, and ideas with you along the way. Even some great tips on saving money, time management, and household tricks that my mother has taught me. Maybe we can even share, and bounce some ideas off each other.

I love to call my mom and tell her that I’ve learned a new trick and she should try it out. I don’t know…maybe it’s just a small of saying thanks and trying to offer her a lending hand in the process.

So let’s do this! Let’s get Monday Momma Madness rolling!!