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March 15, 2024
Women Circling the Earth
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The Power of Apology
-Publishers Weekly
A finalist in the Books for a Better Life Awards competition!
Discover the healing power of apology and put its magic to work in your life
Do you have a difficult time apologizing or are you involved with someone who does?
Do you tend to overapologize and appear weak in others’ eyes?
Do you want to reconcile with someone but feel they owe you an apology first?
Do you need to apologize or make amends to someone but don’t know how to go about it?
In this inspiring book from internationally acclaimed therapist and self-improvement author Beverly Engel, you will learn why some people have difficulty apologizing while others tend to overapologize. You’ll learn how to give a meaningful apology, how to ask for one, and how to receive one. From making amends with those you have hurt to dealing with someone who refuses to apologize to teaching children responsibility and empathy, this life-changing book shows you how to bring a healing new element of renewal into every relationship in your life.
“Beverly Engel has eloquently explained the power of apology in a remarkably insightful and perceptive manner. No one has been better able to explain what an apology means and its role in reconciliation.”
-Rabbi Charles A. Klein, author of How to Forgive When You Can’t Forget: Healing Our Personal Relationships
“Readers of this wise and lucid guide to the neglected art of authentic apology will acquire a powerful tool to help repair relationships with others and with themselves.”
-Jeanne Safer, Ph.D., author of Forgiving and Not Forgiving: A New Approach to Resolving Intimate Betrayal
“An engaging and in-depth book on a subject that has rarely been addressed so intelligently and thoroughly. Ms. Engel offers the reader specific suggestions that can help you improve all your relationships.”
-Steven Farmer, M.F.T., author of Adult Children of Abusive Parents
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The Jekyll and Hyde Syndrome
Beverly Engel brings her expertise to this important examination of the Jekyll and Hyde Syndrome―the first book to address this abusive syndrome. She discusses the origins of the disorder, names its seven major manifestations, explains how to identify Jekyll and Hyde behavior in other people and in oneself, and outlines clear steps for how to heal Jekyll and Hyde tendencies for good.
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Encouragements for the Emotionally Abused Woman
ENCOURAGEMENTS FOR THE EMOTIONALL ABUSED WOMAN addresses these needs. Whether we are just beginning to recognize that we are in abusive relationships or whether we have made the decision to break free, this book is here, a consistent reminder of positive growth. Written as a companion to Beverly Engel’s landmark THE EMOTIONALLY ABUSED WOMAN, this volume of quotes, insights, feelings, and suggestions contains passages to be read and reread, turned to as a trusted friend, to help us grow stronger with each passing day. Any time, day or night, it is ready, on any page, to help, to heal, and to replenish the soul.
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Divorcing a Parent
“Why isn’t there a commandment to ‘honor thy children’ or at least one to ‘not abuse thy children’?” asks Beverly Engel. No one should have to tolerate an abusive or destructive relationship. However, countless adults continue to foster toxic relationships with their parents. Perhaps honoring our parents starts with honoring ourselves. While making peace with a parent may seem ideal, it is not always a viable option, and severing ties with a parent is sometimes a necessity. Engel, who had to divorce her mother for a number of years, recognizes that forgiveness is not always necessary or even possible.
This sensitive, emphatic, yet practical guide includes exercises to help you through this important turning point that can inspire positive and healthy changes in your life. With step-by-step instruction and real-life testimonials, Divorcing a Parent will show you how to anticipate and manage negative pressure from others, how to overcome your doubts and guilt, how to participate in family gatherings, and how to handle grandchildren. Engel even addresses how to manage the abuse of a deceased parent.
While utilizing an individualized approach, Engel guides you through the entire process to determine what is best for your wellbeing—from deciding if divorce is right for you to finalizing the separation. Above all, this book shows you how to love yourself and give yourself the gift of freedom!
Beverly Engel, is an internationally recognized psychotherapist and an acclaimed advocate for victims of sexual, physical, and emotional abuse. She is the author of 20 self-help books, including four best-selling books on emotional abuse. Several of her books have received awards and been translated into many languages. Engel is a licensed marriage and family therapist, and has practiced psychotherapy for 35 years. She frequently lends her expertise to national television talk shows and has appeared on Oprah, CNN, Starting Over, and others. Learn more at www.beverlyengel.com.
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Loving Him without Losing You
Are you a Disappearing Woman?
“Beverly Engel has identified a widespread problem and provided women with wise guidelines for bursting through it. She writes with compassion and insight. If you think you are a Disappearing Woman, you will drink in this book as if it were a health-giving elixir. It is!”-Susan Page, author of How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together and If I’m So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single?
“This remarkably helpful book offers new insights into why so many women surrender their individuality in relationships. Don’t wait until your hair is on fire to read it.”-Maxine Schnall, founder and Executive Director of Wives Self Help
“A book of depth and power. I highly recommend it not only to women who lose themselves in their relationships with men but to the parents of adolescent girls who need to be taught how to view themselves as valuable beings separate from their relationships with men and boys.”-Michael Gurian, author of The Good Son and A Fine Young Man
Do you frequently find yourself putting your lover’s needs ahead of your own? Do you tend to lose yourself in your romantic relationships? Have you ever neglected your career, your friends, or even your health while in the midst of a love affair?
Now, in this landmark book, Beverly Engel examines the intricate reasons why so many women submerge themselves in their relationships with men-and offers a straightforward, empowering program that you can use to free yourself from the powerful grip of this all-too-common problem and rediscover yourself as a Woman of Substance.
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The Right to Innocence
“A practical and powerful must-read book for all who have suffered childhood sexual abuse, their family members and loved ones, and for all mental health professionals.”
Harold H. Bloomfield, M.D.
Author of MAKING PEACE WITH YOUR PARENTS
As a trained therapist and sufferer of sexual abuse herself, Beverly Engel knows that there is probably no trauma a child can suffer that makes her or him feel more alone than sexual abuse. This helpful book offers hope for recovery with exercises, visualizations, and techniques that support you through a seven-step program, that will aid you in: facing the truth, releasing your anger, confronting those responsible with facts and feelings, forgiving yourself, and more healing advice and information.
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The Nice Girl Syndrome
How women can overcome the pressure to please others and feel free to be their true selves
Are you too nice for your own good? Do family members manipulate you? Do coworkers take advantage of you? If this sounds familiar, read The Nice Girl Syndrome. In this breakthrough guide, renowned author and therapist Beverly Engel, who has helped thousands of women recognize and leave emotionally abusive relationships, can show you how to take control of your life and take care of yourself.
Engel explains that women today simply cannot afford to be Nice Girls, because women who are too nice send the message that they are easy targets and are much more likely to be victimized emotionally, physically, and sexually. She identifies the seven different types of Nice Girls and helps you understand which type or types might apply to you. Engel helps you determine whether the Nice Girl Syndrome is keeping you in an abusive relationship or in manipulative situations and helps you change Nice Girl beliefs and behaviors that are holding you back.
Shows you how to confront the beliefs and behaviors that keep you stuck in a Nice Girl act as you replace them with healthier, more empowering onesIncludes inspiring stories of women Engel has worked with who have found the courage and strength to stop taking abuse and start standing up for themselves“This book will challenge, entertain, and empower its readers.”–Publishers Weekly (starred review)Written by renowned author and therapist Beverly Engel, who has helped thousands of women recognize and leave emotionally abusive relationshipsFilled with wise advice, powerful exercises, and practical prescriptions, The Nice Girl Syndrome shows you step by step how to take control of your life and be your own strong woman.
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March 12, 2024
Honor Your Anger
“A beacon of hope for women and men who fear that they will pass the abuse they have suffered on to their children, partners, or employees. Humane and compassionate but also clear and down to earth, this is a wonderful contribution to the literature on healing.”
–Lundy Bancroft, author of When Dad Hurts Mom and Why Does He Do That?
“In this remarkably powerful, wise, and compassionate book, Beverly Engel leads readers step by step through a program that will help survivors of emotional, physical, or sexual abuse in childhood to heal from their wounds so they don’t need to re-enact their abusive pasts. She offers expert advice and strategies to help parents and would-be parents avoid doing to their children what was done to them and helps both abusers and victims in emotionally and physically abusive relationships make vitally important changes in their relationships.”
–Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of Toxic Parents and Emotional Blackmail
If you were emotionally, physically, or sexually abused as a child or adolescent, or if you experienced neglect or abandonment, it isn’t a question of whether you will continue the cycle of abuse but rather a question of how–whether you will become an abuser or continue to be a victim. In this breakthrough book, Beverly Engel, a leading expert on emotional and sexual abuse, explains how to stop the cycle of abuse once and for all. Her step-by-step program provides the necessary skills for gaining control over emotions, changing negative attitudes, learning healthy ways of communicating, healing the damage from prior abuse, and seeking out support.
Throughout, Engel shares many dramatic personal stories including her own experiences with abusive behavior. Breaking the Cycle of Abuse gives you the power to shatter abusive patterns for good and offers a legacy of hope and healing for you and your family.
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Breaking the Cycle of Abuse
“A beacon of hope for women and men who fear that they will pass the abuse they have suffered on to their children, partners, or employees. Humane and compassionate but also clear and down to earth, this is a wonderful contribution to the literature on healing.”
–Lundy Bancroft, author of When Dad Hurts Mom and Why Does He Do That?
“In this remarkably powerful, wise, and compassionate book, Beverly Engel leads readers step by step through a program that will help survivors of emotional, physical, or sexual abuse in childhood to heal from their wounds so they don’t need to re-enact their abusive pasts. She offers expert advice and strategies to help parents and would-be parents avoid doing to their children what was done to them and helps both abusers and victims in emotionally and physically abusive relationships make vitally important changes in their relationships.”
–Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of Toxic Parents and Emotional Blackmail
If you were emotionally, physically, or sexually abused as a child or adolescent, or if you experienced neglect or abandonment, it isn’t a question of whether you will continue the cycle of abuse but rather a question of how–whether you will become an abuser or continue to be a victim. In this breakthrough book, Beverly Engel, a leading expert on emotional and sexual abuse, explains how to stop the cycle of abuse once and for all. Her step-by-step program provides the necessary skills for gaining control over emotions, changing negative attitudes, learning healthy ways of communicating, healing the damage from prior abuse, and seeking out support.
Throughout, Engel shares many dramatic personal stories including her own experiences with abusive behavior. Breaking the Cycle of Abuse gives you the power to shatter abusive patterns for good and offers a legacy of hope and healing for you and your family.
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