Stephanie Dolce's Blog, page 31
September 27, 2015
September 16, 2015
What guys don't understand is that we're not chess pieces...
September 7, 2015
Top 5 Online Dating Secrets
If it seems as if everyone you know is online dating, you're not alone. According to a study done by Pew Research Center, 11% of American adults—and 38% of those who are currently “single and looking” for a partner—have used online dating sites or mobile dating apps. The general public attitudes towards online dating have become much more positive in recent years, and now with social networking sites playing a prominent role when it comes to navigating and assisting romantic relationships, online dating usage is at an all-time high.
To gain a little insight into what makes people tick when it comes to online dating, here are five secrets to the phenomenon and how to better yourself online.
5. Your Profile Isn't What It Should Be
A professor of Women's Health and Clinical Epidemiology at the Queen May University of London School of Medicine and Dentistry, named Khalid Khan, poured through 86 studies to find out why he wasn't lucky in love and found out that his profile on dating sites was one of the main problems.
Users who chose screen names starting with letters toward the beginning of the alphabet got more clicks than those who used screen names that started with the last part of the alphabet. So, if your name started with the letters, A-M, you have a great shot at being noticed. Now to the profile picture. For women who wore red, they received more attention from men then if they wore any other color. Also, if your profile picture was a group shot with friends, you had a better chance for someone to click on your profile and look through it.
It's as easy as a click here and a click there to write up a very impressive dating profile. About 95% of what is written are exaggerated and everyone lies about salary, job, living conditions, hobbies, weight, body mass, and some even put a fake picture up, just to get people's attention.
4. Be Selective
You are completely wasting your time by posting to every free site then posting your profile on the sites that cost the most money. Think about it, when you post on free site, then the quality of the people you are choosing from are “low quality” people or people who are not putting relationships at a priority in their lives. You therefore are not ending up with a compatible mate. According to Dr. John G. Kappa, PhD whose book, Relationship Strategies: The E&P Attraction, we all have an equal and opposite compatible match. Everyone should be aware of characteristics that we are attracted to and also characteristics that we aren't attracted too. This is why sometimes we keep picking the completely “wrong” partner.
3. Trust Your Gut
Here is the complete truth: your intuition, your gut will NEVER be wrong. So if someone looks good on paper, but in person you aren't feeling it, the attraction is not there, and the conversation fizzled out, believe what your gut is telling you: this person is NOT the one. Move on and let it go. So many times we doubt ourselves and we talk ourselves into believing that something is good when it's far from being good for us. There is someone for everyone, that saying is true, but don't cut yourself short and lower your standards, values and compatibility just to end up in a relationship.
2. Market Yourself
If you want more dates, the simple thing to remember is that you are your own brand. Yes, even with online dating. Too many people focus on likes and dislikes, and overestimate the value of these. When it comes to sustaining a relationship, your love for hiking or street fairs, isn't going to matter. Instead, think about the qualities that matter to you and that should matter to your partner. You’re marketing yourself and you show that through highlighting your core characteristics. What will make you a great girlfriend or a great boyfriend? Why should someone date you over someone else? Those are the questions you should really be asking yourself.
1. When You Send a Message, Make it Personal
Too many times people respond to messages as if they are going on a job interview or they are just filled with hellos. If you get a lot of messages where the conversation isn't going anywhere, start with an open-ended question, or mention an interest or two, to get the conversation started. If you are a guy, don't just tell her that she is beautiful or if you are a woman, don't just tell him that you are into sports. Also, don't use messaging to bring up sex. If that is all you are looking for, then online dating isn't for you.
September 5, 2015
The Reality Of Love
Remember, stop making something it isn't. Love is something to play around with nor is it something to do just because everyone else is in a relationship.
#Single is good when u like yourself & don't count on anyone else for your happiness. Never settle for less than your worth. #DatingAdvice
September 4, 2015
... And So It Continues.... Online dating Disaster Profiles
Here's a profile I found on a dating site. People don't get it.
1) If you are happy with your life right now, why are you on here?
2) If you aren't desperate or looking for someone to complete you, again, you are on here for what then?
3) Credit score of 800? HIs butt looks good in jeans and he can look very GQ? Plus he mentions that he is great with kids. All a ploy to start pulling the heartstrings of a very desperate woman.
THE PROFILE:
Hey...welcome to my profile. Pretty happy with my life right now. Have a strong network of friends and family and interests to keep me busy...so I'm not here because I'm desperate or lonely looking for someone to "complete me". I'm also self sufficient and well organized so I'm not looking for a "mother figure" either. I'm just a hard working man who's butt looks great in jeans and I can look quite GQ when I throw on a three piece. My ability to make people laugh...especially when they needed it the most, has always been my greatest strength. I give a great massage, am a great conversationalist and a really good dancer. I also have a credit score close to 800. :) Not bad, huh? Oh...I can cook, juggle and play the guitar, too. Also great with kids. My nieces and nephews will attest to that. How bout them apples? You will find me to be very "down to earth" and a versatile playmate. Anyway, if you are seeking a man with very little baggage...then your search is over. :)
Again, Get yourself off the clearance rack called online dating. Falling in love, JUST HAPPENS. You can't force yourself to fall.
August 31, 2015
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August 29, 2015
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August 28, 2015
It's Not Just Ashley Madison That People Should Be Worried About...
I actually had an anonymous person send me comments about Ashley Madison. I also have found that if people think this is the only site where husbands cheat, they are gravely mistaken. 1 out of every 10 users on sites like Match, Eharmony, OKCupid, etc. are married. Plus there are suppose it, "escort" sites that are flat out prostitution rings.
If The FTC took an interest in regulating these sites, I don't think they would have found themselves in this situation, but all dating sites are not regulated by the government.
If they claim that their scientific algorithms work, why do you need to spend hundreds of dollars over 12 months to find someone with whom you should totally click with right away?
Advice: Get yourself off the clearance rack that is online dating. They call it falling in love because you JUST fall, you don't force yourself to TRIP.
August 24, 2015
Stop Judging a Book By It's Cover
We need to stop putting so much value on looks and more on a person's personality. Looks fade, personality doesn't. Just because a person "looks" attractive doesn't mean their insides are too. #NeverJudgeABookByItsCover
August 19, 2015
WISDOM WEDNESDAY:
The biggest thing humans waste is time...
The biggest thing humans waste is time. It seems we only appreciate it when we've realized we've run out of it.
Gratefulness is the key to a happy life that we hold in our hands, because if we are not grateful, then no matter how much we have we will never be happy.
Its so funny how friends forget us when they don't need favors. You may not realize it, but sometimes we forget how lucky we are to have certain people in our lives. That we don't manage to tell that person until it's too late. The person you took for granted today, may turn out to be the person you need tomorrow. Be careful how you treat people.
