Akosua Dardaine Edwards's Blog, page 237

Be willing to piss someone off for your happiness

Choose to live from the centre of your being and become the director of your own life. Do not allow other people’s opinions, judgments, criticisms and beliefs deter you from living your own authentic, divinely aligned life. Be true to yourself and release all people, places and things that do not empower you. You are a divine spark, a piece of God, and no one but you and God knows what is best for you . Sabrina Reber
Many of us look outside of ourselves for most things, for the so called answers, for approval, for validation, for WHAT???? I’ve learnt that this whole search for approval and validation is a never ending spiral of people pleasing! And people pleasing is ova!!! According to Iyanla, the boss in my book, if you want to live an authentic life you must be willing to piss some people off, oh yea and they will be pissed off and many times with good intentions! Especially your family, but hey, are you living your life or are you living their lives?
So I admit, I am a recovering people pleaser! Let me also admit that living an authentic life and doing what your heart and intuition guides you to is one of the most freeing feelings ever, the only other thing that I’ve seen or felt compared to that freeness is a Jouvert morning coming down Mucurapo Road behind a truck with the sun coming up in the distance! Other than that nothing else!
So who’s life are you living, which people are you pleasing, who’s validation are you looking for and in the process making yourself utterly miserable? And who are you willing to piss off?
Peace!!!

What's your real intention?

This is how to avoid re-creating painful situations: Take the time to discover your real intention before you act. If it is to change someone or the world so that you will feel safe or better about yourself, don't act on it, because it is an intention of fear and can create only painful consequences. If your real intention is to create harmony instead of discord, cooperation instead of competition, sharing instead of hoarding, and reverence for life instead of exploitation, act on it, because it is an intention of love and can create only healthy and wholesome consequences.
When you do this, you are creating authentic power. Gary Zukav

So have you ever tried to "fix" someone? Like you just know what they are doing is not right? or even better they just should not be doing what the are doing? And of course you're so much more knowledgeable, you know better and it is your duty to fix it, fix them!Newsflash!!! Brutally honest newsflash! you cannot fix or control or change anyone! Ok so you saw the show Iyanla Fix my life right? I know she's a boss!!! real warrior but have you heard her definition of fix? and she says they do the work she is just a vessel! So what is really the intention behind wanting fix and control and wanting everything to be your way? Control! You want to feel in control AND its a way to avoid dealing with your own issues! but guess what? The Universe has a way of bringing those issues to you when you ignore it, through situations and other people! Yea its a tough pill to swallowSo, I learnt my lesson, I control nuthin and no one, nor do I get into the fixin! That's none of my business, my controlling days are over, I just livin my life! It actually feels pretty darn good!Peace!!!

Abundance Consciousness

Prosperity is the out-picturing of substance in our affairs. Everything in the Uni-verse is for us. Nothing is against us. Life is ever giving of Itself. We must receive, utilize and extend the gift. Success and prosperity are spiritual attributes belonging to all people, but not necessarily used by all.” 

- Ernest HolmesI love this Universe! I mean, it really really has my back, all the bloody time, so why I say this? I got so excited this morning, because it smacked me right up the head with its awesomeness! Ok I am home in Trinidad for carnival and truth be told, I love carnival, I love the energy, the atmosphere, the creativity, the freedom, its hard to beat! Been all over the world and there really is nothing to compare! And saying all that I have been a little subdued about it as many of these events cost a crapload of cash!  I mean yeah a party can set you back a cool 120usd easy peasy! So I have been saying over and over, I am not participating I am not going to the parties and taking it easy this year because I am starting over from scratch and in between gigs, cash flow hasn't been coming in since last year! And then I am reading his morning, I wrote down how I want my life to look in 2014 and I wrote abundance and prosperity- and at the side of that I wrote "to manifest abundance and prosperity read the Abundance Book by John Randolph Rice, and start acting abundant, a prosperity consciousness"
I pick up the book this morning and it said, watch what you say about what you cannot do because you do not have money. What? Watch the words and energy you put into the atmosphere about not having money. huh? The Universe is limitless and your thoughts and words create your reality!! well well well!! I have been creating with my thoughts and words this whole situation the whole bloody time!!!
So what else am I creating with my thoughts, words, deeds? I better pay attention!
Focus on what you WANT! not on what you don't wan, watch your words, the moaning and complaining multiplies more of what you don't want!

Peace!!!

A small exercise for you today

I know, you want everybody and everything else to change, your father, your mother,boss, friend,lover,landlord, neighbour, sister or Government official must change so that your life can be perfect. It doesn’t work that way. If you want change in your life then it is you that must do the changing, when you change, then all the people in your world will change in relation to you. ( Louise Hay , the queen of affirmations)
Be willing to do something for me today and let me know how it goes, take a moment and just be willing to not judge people and situations today! Just try it. I know, the ego screams at us, they should know better, why are they behaving like that?, why are they so this and why are they so that. Just try it! Its tough, yes! Because we have in our mind how we believe people and the world ought to be! But that’s your view and your view is definitely not the only view in the world! I am not saying to agree with everything, however acceptance is the first step in moving forward and that acceptance is without judgement! So try it, just for one day, leave the judgement and the shoulding and the ego at home! Brutally honest, you really are not superior to other people even if you drive a nicer car, have a so called better job, live in a so called better area, have a better looking partner or wear nicer clothes, all of those things are fleeting and says something about you but when they are all gone who are you?
I’m going to do it as well today because I need a reality check today as well!!
Let me know how it goes!
Peace!!!

Invest in yourself

What did I learn today?When we unequivocally know how worthy we are, the value we provide in the world is profound.And we get paid for it! Day 1 at the “office” what a beautiful place with beautiful people and beautiful lessons! Brasso Seco, in Super Island T&T and to top it off they made coconut bake and saltfish for me (bake is my favourite food ever!!!)

I am supposed to be doing a 8 day training workshop with rural communities within Trinidad and Tobago. The rural communities have invested in themselves and have a multitude of products available or sale or services available which they believe will enhance their communities. I am humbled to be a part of it!

So I will be in areas such as Speyside Tobago, Heights of Aripo, Along the North Coast and who knows where else! I'm pretty excited about it!!
New journey!!!
Peace!!



 

Longevity is a multitude of moments

And completion takes time it’s never one task or one outcome.it is a sequence a chain of events, so keep on keeping on .Longevity is a multitude of moments- Natalie Stewart
 
I do my first rural community training programme tomorrow in an area called Brasso Seco which is East Trinidad, I have never been there before but always an opportunity to see a new place and learn a new lesson! These rural communities are taking responsibility for their growth and development and its really inspiring to me to see that they are not depending on anyone to “take them forward” I think this makes a difference in being a victim and a victor! This will be my first of 4 communities that I will be visiting including in the sister isle Tobago!
 
Looking forward to the lessons!! Will let you know how it goes, I have to set off tomorrow very early!!
 Peace!!

I will know love when I realise I cannot hide what I think, what I feel or who I am

Love does not hide anyone! Love stands tall in the truth of what it is for everyone to see and receive it. Love does not tell half the story, some of the time. Nor does love avoid telling its story, just to save time and feelings. Love is respectful, honourable, noble and honest. Love is gentle, compassionate, willing to share and able to comfort. Love speaks boldly yet softly. It reaches far without losing ground. You know love is present when in the midst of the storm you can find something, some one thing, to laugh about, smile about and hold on to

Just for today, share the truth of your thoughts and feelings, share the truth about yourself
Adapted from Until Today by Iyanla (the boss)

Know who you are

It is not necessary for you to formulate a personal opinion about everybody and everything. Resist the temptation to express one especially in matters that do not concern you. There are at least two sides to every story and then there’s the truth! Your concern is the truth which is void of opinion. You don’t need to know everything, you simply also cannot!  Rev Deborah L Johnson
 I'm having a discussion with a friend this morning and I find myself wanting to press forward my point, my friend stood their ground and as I felt the annoyance level rising in me I remembered one of my lessons while I was in the motherland and pulled it out of the arsenal! I know who I am, focusing on me and accepting the point of view of all parties. accept then choose! its that simple!The moment you sense that someone is not in alignment with you, you start to draw battle lines. You start to try to figure what you need to do to dominate, manipulate, control, cajole, influence or coerce individuals or the other party into seeing things your way and to doing things in ways that would prove to be favourable to your own ego’s point of view. When you don’t know who you are you are afraid that you can lose in the world. When you don’t know who you are , you are concerned that some person, place or thing may do something that is going to make you less, or worse off. So you are constantly trying to create circumstances that make you feel safe. Know who you are, Know who you are , just know who you are! Focus your attention on the  truth and the depth of your own possibility!Peace!!

My journey is unpredictable

Deep within you is everything that is perfect, ready to radiate through you and out into the world ACIM
 
Good morning all, today I am sharing my morning “chat to myself” downloaded during my morning practice! And guess what it came right on time!
 
You want to be enlightened and want to stay the same at the same time. You want transformation but cling to your existing forms, you want transcendence and yet you refuse to get your feet out of the quicksand of your perceptions of yourself as victimized. You say you want to be free, yet you are busy trying to make peace with your old shackles, chains, limitations and boxes. The power surging within you is so potent that it frightens you.
You are signing up for a journey that, from a human standpoint, is unpredictable. You are ready to accept the truth that just because you are not in control does not mean that things are out of control.
You are being freed from the false notion that you are not enough. You are being freed from the false notion that other people, places and things are more valuable than you are. You are being freed from the notion that you have to play small or that you have to settle for whatever comes your way in life.  What you have to let go of will not feel like a loss, the time is now.
Peace!!

Affirm what is good

Beating yourself up on what you haven’t done or didn’t do has never made the new come into being! Can you have the courage right now to affirm the good, to affirm what is good and take it from there, Don’t be fooled when you think you are going backwards, you got to retro fit the foundations before you start building on it.
  You have no idea what is possible from where you are!- MOVE! Take a step. If you can clearly see how to fulfill your dream, dream a bigger dream, you’re playing way too small!
If that is the case that you can see it all and know it all, dream bigger, there is no room, there is no reason for the unexpected, for the miracles, for the people you haven’t met yet, for the faith, for the resources you don’t even know about or dream about, You will not know all this from where you are
We get  a sense that we are being called to do something that is bigger than we are and we cannot most times imagine how we are going to do it. That causes angst and hesitation but that is just the way it is.
Where you are going is not a place, not a specific location, not a geographical location, not a job. You are moving towards a state of awareness, a state of being which only gets revealed on the journey. The “what” you are to become is revealed on the journey.
Don’t get stuck on the “thing”, the relationship, the job, it’s what it represents. It’s the love, the abundance. Do you want more joy, more peace, do you want happiness?
What makes what you do great is not the big ole grand things before you, but the little things that you do with passion and commitment and mindfulness and the successive way that you show up every day. A lot of times we get afraid because we are pushed into something we don’t want. We resist it because we feel that we don’t want it. But one of two things can happen.
1.       When you get there you realize it is a portal to something else
2.       It has your name all over it, something inside you says “yeah, this is where Im supposed to be”
This is the journey