Akosua Dardaine Edwards's Blog, page 217
December 8, 2014
Are you feeling the feelings?
It’s simple – without feeling your feelings – your life can’t and won’t improve.
Mastin Kipp
Feelings are a huge part of our lives, an extremely important part, without feelings we cannot move! I have been one who have ignored, denied and dismissed my feelings and what happens when I did that? I remained stuck! Feelings are teachers, they lead you to a lesson.
It can be really scary to feel the feelings but its important to go there and sit with it for a moment.
We do a whole range of things to hide from our feelings, lie, drink, do drugs, irresponsible sex, work, judge, justify, make excuses, overeat, exercise and the list goes on. Instead of sitting in the feelings and acknowledging them we run and do things that are not self honoring
According to Mastin Kipp "When love yourself enough to feel your true feelings – that is when transformation begins to take place – not before.
Your feelings are guides – they are sign posts – they are asking you to pay attention to them. They are yearning to be felt. And, the truth is, no matter how scared you are to feel your feelings, you don’t die.Your feelings will pass"
Get in touch with them, feel the feelings and take it from there!
Peace!
Feelings are a huge part of our lives, an extremely important part, without feelings we cannot move! I have been one who have ignored, denied and dismissed my feelings and what happens when I did that? I remained stuck! Feelings are teachers, they lead you to a lesson.
It can be really scary to feel the feelings but its important to go there and sit with it for a moment.
We do a whole range of things to hide from our feelings, lie, drink, do drugs, irresponsible sex, work, judge, justify, make excuses, overeat, exercise and the list goes on. Instead of sitting in the feelings and acknowledging them we run and do things that are not self honoring
According to Mastin Kipp "When love yourself enough to feel your true feelings – that is when transformation begins to take place – not before.
Your feelings are guides – they are sign posts – they are asking you to pay attention to them. They are yearning to be felt. And, the truth is, no matter how scared you are to feel your feelings, you don’t die.Your feelings will pass"
Get in touch with them, feel the feelings and take it from there!
Peace!
December 7, 2014
Hello from Houston
We want attention, affection, appreciation
Learn to give those things authentically to others Deepak Chopra
Hello from Houston! I'm here for the week, it's really nice to mix work with play, I get to see my family this week. My three favourite boys, six, five and four years old have been relentlessly by my side, I'm tired now! lol!
Collecting books, talking business and then back home!
Life is nice right now!
Learn to give those things authentically to others Deepak Chopra
Hello from Houston! I'm here for the week, it's really nice to mix work with play, I get to see my family this week. My three favourite boys, six, five and four years old have been relentlessly by my side, I'm tired now! lol!
Collecting books, talking business and then back home!
Life is nice right now!
December 5, 2014
What is your life revolving around?
We have to make a choice, whether you want to grow or transformWhen the transformation comes you are not telling the same story anymore, that story is now irrelevantWhen you transform the old stuff is not what your life revolves around anymore, there’s a revolution, a shift in the centre.What is your life revolving around?
Deborah L Johnson
I love the question "what is your life revolving around?" Simple yet impactful! I ask myself the question from time to time when it seems like the rails are coming off! Then I see where and what I am giving most of my time to! A Course in Miracles reminds me that we create idols to things and we begin to worship them when we are not paying attention or forgot who we are! We create idols! Worship people and things that are destructive! Interesting right?When you don't know who you are you create idols- things you give your time and mind to that are destructive! So who are you? who am I?Preparation for my new book is at pace! I have been given an opportunity to go away to finish write it, what is my life revolving around that I placed the completion of the book on a back burner?And just on point, the Universe pops up to answer me when I asked the question 'what is my life revolving around?' So I am making a new choice and putting it back on the front burner, to pay attention, to be aware to know who I am!Ask yourself the question and then listen for the response, it may come in a whisper so be sure to pay attention!Peace!Akosua
Deborah L Johnson
I love the question "what is your life revolving around?" Simple yet impactful! I ask myself the question from time to time when it seems like the rails are coming off! Then I see where and what I am giving most of my time to! A Course in Miracles reminds me that we create idols to things and we begin to worship them when we are not paying attention or forgot who we are! We create idols! Worship people and things that are destructive! Interesting right?When you don't know who you are you create idols- things you give your time and mind to that are destructive! So who are you? who am I?Preparation for my new book is at pace! I have been given an opportunity to go away to finish write it, what is my life revolving around that I placed the completion of the book on a back burner?And just on point, the Universe pops up to answer me when I asked the question 'what is my life revolving around?' So I am making a new choice and putting it back on the front burner, to pay attention, to be aware to know who I am!Ask yourself the question and then listen for the response, it may come in a whisper so be sure to pay attention!Peace!Akosua
December 4, 2014
Discipline means growing to love the word discipline.
Discipline means not just planting the seeds I want to grow, but watering and nurturing them daily.
Discipline means not allowing what I can’t control to affect my stewardship over the other areas I can control.
Discipline means giving up the idea of instant gratification and giving myself over to the pleasure of earning and anticipation.
Discipline means growing to love the word discipline.
Discipline means being a disciple to what matters most.
Tivi Jones
I was told yesterday, point blank, that I am holding on to a lot of resistance in making my goals and dreams a reality! It was a shock to them system and you know why it was a shock? Because it is true! Notice how you become defensive when people tell you the truth? You start making excuses, or you get upset and want to justify why you are still doing or not doing what you are supposed to be doing!
It was a wake up call for me, and I needed it! Stop the resistance, I don't need to be "right" all the time there is more times than not no right or wrong!
So I made up a lot of BS excuses and justifications for about 30 minutes until I was told, you know you are still in resistance right? You know you are talking rubbish right? You know you are shit scared of this right?
Yea I know!
Well own it! Own that! Own that you are scared and then move!!
How many times have I denied the truth because of fear? Many times, but I admit its getting better!
So yea, what about you? What are you resisting, denying, bull shitting and stalling on?
I am ready!!
Are you?
Peace!
I was told yesterday, point blank, that I am holding on to a lot of resistance in making my goals and dreams a reality! It was a shock to them system and you know why it was a shock? Because it is true! Notice how you become defensive when people tell you the truth? You start making excuses, or you get upset and want to justify why you are still doing or not doing what you are supposed to be doing!
It was a wake up call for me, and I needed it! Stop the resistance, I don't need to be "right" all the time there is more times than not no right or wrong!
So I made up a lot of BS excuses and justifications for about 30 minutes until I was told, you know you are still in resistance right? You know you are talking rubbish right? You know you are shit scared of this right?
Yea I know!
Well own it! Own that! Own that you are scared and then move!!
How many times have I denied the truth because of fear? Many times, but I admit its getting better!
So yea, what about you? What are you resisting, denying, bull shitting and stalling on?
I am ready!!
Are you?
Peace!
December 3, 2014
Lay down the excuses!
Seek not outside yourself. For it will fail ACIM
What did I learn today? Brutally honest -You can fool some people some time but you can never fool yourself! You can tell yourself almost anything to excuse away your fear. You might actually believe it for a while! But, there will come a time when the excuse will not be strong enough, or big enough to camouflage your fear. Eventually what you tell yourself will begin to sound so weak, so lame, so utterly ridiculous that you will have a hard time convincing yourself or anyone else that it is true. When that time comes, don’t be defensive. Be willing to face the thing you fear! When you defend yourself for not taking a particular action, you are denying the foundation upon which your peace of mind depends upon – Truth!
When you wait or prepare to the point of avoiding what you really want you say you really want to do, when you know you are afraid but refuse to admit it, there is no way you can have peace of mind, especially when you insist on defending the excuses.So, you may have a great excuse for remaining in a relationship, work environment, or living arrangement that is not fulfilling, that is not self honouring. Lay down the excuses, feel the fear, face it and move!
Peace!!
What did I learn today? Brutally honest -You can fool some people some time but you can never fool yourself! You can tell yourself almost anything to excuse away your fear. You might actually believe it for a while! But, there will come a time when the excuse will not be strong enough, or big enough to camouflage your fear. Eventually what you tell yourself will begin to sound so weak, so lame, so utterly ridiculous that you will have a hard time convincing yourself or anyone else that it is true. When that time comes, don’t be defensive. Be willing to face the thing you fear! When you defend yourself for not taking a particular action, you are denying the foundation upon which your peace of mind depends upon – Truth!
When you wait or prepare to the point of avoiding what you really want you say you really want to do, when you know you are afraid but refuse to admit it, there is no way you can have peace of mind, especially when you insist on defending the excuses.So, you may have a great excuse for remaining in a relationship, work environment, or living arrangement that is not fulfilling, that is not self honouring. Lay down the excuses, feel the fear, face it and move!
Peace!!
December 2, 2014
Make up a new story
Release all stories/let go of all excuses, be willing to do the thing that scares you - Iyanla
Don't we make up a lot of stories? Yea we do, we make them up, especially when we are in fear, listening to the ego and want to justify our position. Making up stories mean we are convinced that something or someone or we are either right, that "they" did that to us. Or perhaps, we have no other choice, that we are powerless or have you heard or said "if only they would change, or do what I want my life, our lives will be happy and simple"Sometimes the stories are simple, sometimes they are dramatic, sometimes they have elaborate characters and lines that send us into a frenzy, getting angry, depressed or smug as hellAll this to justify our position, to make ourselves feel safe and to more importantly to avoid what's staring us right in the face, to keep being in denying what is and to remain in a false comfort zone! As Byron Katie says " when you argue with reality you suffer"I find myself doing it, making up stories when I am in fear or not ready to face reality as it is but as I want it to be, and here is what I have learntIf I am making up stories, why not make up a positive and empowering one? Or even better, tell myself the truth, face the thing as it is then move!All the stories, usually not true, pushing me more in a cave of denial and not facing the thing as it is!Stop beating up yourself, tell the truth, and make a move! The stories are usually worse than the real thing! Release the monsters! Oops, there aren't any monsters, it's just a story I made up!!Peace!
November 30, 2014
Live a whole life
Work can be an important part of our lives, but we should never let it be how we define ourselves. Putting all your energy and resources into your work may feed your ego, but if you’re relationships are falling apart, your health neglected and your spiritual life ignored, you could end up sitting alone in your castle of glory.
Gail Kelly
Balance and release of ego, two of the things I give thanks in advance for, meaning that I believe with me putting in the action and work and letting go it is already done! My grandma always said, everything in moderation. Now I can fully relate to this!
What does your life revolve around? And when you pay attention to what you give the majority of your life to see what happens?
What you put your focus on grows, that goes for everything and focus can be like a laser beam, it cuts through the "thing" and that is why it is really important to balance, when you cut through you want a purpose. You just want to cut and cut and cut to your detriment!
Work and PlayUp and DownLeft and Write
See the pattern!Do something in balance this week!Peace!
Balance and release of ego, two of the things I give thanks in advance for, meaning that I believe with me putting in the action and work and letting go it is already done! My grandma always said, everything in moderation. Now I can fully relate to this!
What does your life revolve around? And when you pay attention to what you give the majority of your life to see what happens?
What you put your focus on grows, that goes for everything and focus can be like a laser beam, it cuts through the "thing" and that is why it is really important to balance, when you cut through you want a purpose. You just want to cut and cut and cut to your detriment!
Work and PlayUp and DownLeft and Write
See the pattern!Do something in balance this week!Peace!
November 29, 2014
Move!
You cannot learn about yourself if you are always staying within the safe confines and borders of the familiar
I got a late call to speak at an event today, this morning I was at our National Library in Port of Spain, There was a book club event where all the book clubs from all over the country gather at an annual event to celebrate the year. They asked me to come and be the feature speaker at this event!
I couldn't refuse I thought wow, how humbling! The word is spreading!
I got there early and sat down, watched the scenes and took it all in! People kept asking me what book club was I from, I said none! They looked confused!
The book club from my hometown was well represented, when the hostess finally arrived she introduced me and asked me what part of the country was I from, when I said San Fernando, the hooping and the hollering broke me into a huge grin! South South South, they kept shouting! I felt really good!
There is no substitute for action, none at all, we can talk all day long,dream all night long, wish all evening long, day dream all morning long but if there is no action forget it!
If you wait for perfect conditions you will never move
If you wait for perfect conditions you will never move
If you wait for perfect conditions you will never move
You got that?
Move! Catch that!
Peace!!
I got a late call to speak at an event today, this morning I was at our National Library in Port of Spain, There was a book club event where all the book clubs from all over the country gather at an annual event to celebrate the year. They asked me to come and be the feature speaker at this event!
I couldn't refuse I thought wow, how humbling! The word is spreading!
I got there early and sat down, watched the scenes and took it all in! People kept asking me what book club was I from, I said none! They looked confused!
The book club from my hometown was well represented, when the hostess finally arrived she introduced me and asked me what part of the country was I from, when I said San Fernando, the hooping and the hollering broke me into a huge grin! South South South, they kept shouting! I felt really good!
There is no substitute for action, none at all, we can talk all day long,dream all night long, wish all evening long, day dream all morning long but if there is no action forget it!
If you wait for perfect conditions you will never move
If you wait for perfect conditions you will never move
If you wait for perfect conditions you will never move
You got that?
Move! Catch that!
Peace!!
November 28, 2014
Peace begins with me
The body does not exist except as a learning device for the mind. ACIM
Peace is better than anything you can tempt me with!
Truth is, I'll take my excitement in peace packaging...thanks!
Indeed, in fact I'll experience my ups and downs via peace perspectives, if you don't mind...thanks!
That's right...Peace.
Oh...and lets not forget the calm
Yes
Calm
I deeply believe that the best way to face chaos is with calm
In fact, allow me to update that
I know that the only way to greet chaos is with calm
And I'm at peace with that fact.
Fact!
Thank you Flo for this message!
Peace!
November 27, 2014
The Healing Process
We are creatures of comfort, and we also don’t like to go against the belief systems of the tribe. Complacency, placing blame on others so we don’t have to accept responsibility for our own life, believing in a savior outside of ourselves because we do not see our selves as worthy or powerful, “blindly” choosing to accept the ideas of others without seeing how we feel in our own heart, the inability to speak up and tell others how we truly feel out of fear of confrontation, and the fear of being alone all contribute to the “following of the heard” mentality. Sa
brina Reber
Healing takes time
Healing takes support
Healing takes acceptance
Healing takes forgiveness
Healing takes surrender
Healing takes release of ego
Healing takes pain and discomfort
Healing takes movement
Healing takes truth
Learnt all of that yesterday at the Brasso Seco meeting held with the villagers!
I went there with no expectations and boy was I in a space of healing! It was super emotional, crying, laughing and truth telling!
The villagers have lived through a nightmare of someone coming into their place and running amok doing some heinous crimes the likes of which the entire country hasn't seen in a while but they came together in hope with the aim of moving forward to heal themselves and their community, I felt so humbled to be a part of that experience it really really made my day! We move forward together!
Oh, the radio interview was nice as well, the hostess was lovely and made me feel like we were chatting in her front porch!
Life is nice, God's grace is so ever present!
Peace!!!
Healing takes time
Healing takes support
Healing takes acceptance
Healing takes forgiveness
Healing takes surrender
Healing takes release of ego
Healing takes pain and discomfort
Healing takes movement
Healing takes truth
Learnt all of that yesterday at the Brasso Seco meeting held with the villagers!
I went there with no expectations and boy was I in a space of healing! It was super emotional, crying, laughing and truth telling!
The villagers have lived through a nightmare of someone coming into their place and running amok doing some heinous crimes the likes of which the entire country hasn't seen in a while but they came together in hope with the aim of moving forward to heal themselves and their community, I felt so humbled to be a part of that experience it really really made my day! We move forward together!
Oh, the radio interview was nice as well, the hostess was lovely and made me feel like we were chatting in her front porch!
Life is nice, God's grace is so ever present!
Peace!!!
