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February 9, 2015
Forgiving From Strength, Not Weakness
If you have no option but to turn the other cheek, you have no avenue to get revenge by retaliating in a way that harms the other person. In effect, you are being exploited and bullied in this situation, which is unfair. If on the other hand, you are have the resources at your disposal to deliver … Continue reading Forgiving From Strength, Not Weakness
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How To Forgive Someone When You “Can’t” Part 2
Step 3: Cancel their debts What you have done in the previous two steps is actually list all the debts they owe you. If you can then go through each item in the list, you can do a more comprehensive job of forgiving the person for all that they did to you. They are really … Continue reading How To Forgive Someone When You “Can’t” Part 2
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How To Forgive Someone When You “Can’t” Part 1
Forgiving someone isn’t as simple as saying “I forgive you”. We’ve all made that mistake though. We’ve all thought to ourselves, if I can say it, then I must mean it, right? Maybe some of the time… Here’s some ideas of what to do when just saying it isn’t enough. Most of the time, the … Continue reading How To Forgive Someone When You “Can’t” Part 1
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February 5, 2015
About My Latest Forgiveness Book
Are you struggling with anger/ anxiety /fear /stress? Chances are you have been dealing with one or more of these for quite a while, and have been looking for a solution for a while too – medication, doctors, wholistic medicine, lots of books and courses, perhaps even a psychologist or therapist. Perhaps you’ve tried so … Continue reading About My Latest Forgiveness Book
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January 29, 2015
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October 11, 2013
Leadership Lessons I Learned From Youtube
I love this video on Youtube on Starting a Movement. It’s so simple, and inspiring. And it really encapsulates my journey over the last year as I’ve been writing my book, “Cheaper Than Therapy”. So I’ve left the original commentary, and added my thoughts in Italics next to them… The video is attached, it’s really worth a watch.
A leader needs the guts to stand alone and look ridiculous. But what he’s doing is so simple, it’s almost instructional. This is key. You must be easy to follow!
I’ve certainly done a bit of standing alone, and perhaps some looking ridiculous too (just flick through my FB photos, and you’ll probably agree…) I find it easier if I picture an exact person who I’m writing to, whenever I sit down to write. In my mind’s eye, I’ve been writing my latest book to a girl in her mid twenties. She’s perhaps mixed race, had a kid in her teens, and isn’t exactly well off nor educated. So I’ve written it as entertaining, simple and easy to follow as possible, so she applies it, and then shares it.
Now comes the first follower with a crucial role: he publicly shows everyone how to follow. Notice the leader embraces him as an equal, so it’s not about the leader anymore – it’s about them, plural. Notice he’s calling to his friends to join in. It takes guts to be a first follower! You stand out and brave ridicule, yourself. Being a first follower is an under-appreciated form of leadership. The first follower transforms a lone nut into a leader. If the leader is the flint, the first follower is the spark that makes the fire.
I have a couple of followers now – people who have done the course, someone I’m training up to run it (love ya Rahil), a friend doing all of the video and editing, and various other supporters, pray-ers, and of course, my wonderful girlfriend . So I guess I’m past the one person mark in starting a movement! YEEEHAAA!
The 2nd follower is a turning point: it’s proof the first has done well. Now it’s not a lone nut, and it’s not two nuts. Three is a crowd and a crowd is news.
This is really the stage we’re in right now with launching the “Cheaper Than Therapy” movement. I’m still a bit nutty, just not alone 
Three is a crowd, but I won’t be holding my breath until we make headline news. It may be a few weeks just yet.
A movement must be public. Make sure outsiders see more than just the leader. Everyone needs to see the followers, because new followers emulate followers – not the leader. Now here come 2 more, then 3 more. Now we’ve got momentum. This is the tipping point! Now we’ve got a movement!
Ah, the “Tipping Point”. I do love Malcolm Gladwell’s book by the same name. It truly is brilliant. I don’t think we’re here yet. There are one or two people around the country running a course based on the book (I’ll shortly be releasing a free manual on the subject on this website). Once we start getting news that people are doing it in random places from other parts of the UK, we’ll be approaching the tipping point.
As more people jump in, it’s no longer risky. If they were on the fence before, there’s no reason not to join now. They won’t be ridiculed, they won’t stand out, and they will be part of the in-crowd, if they hurry. Over the next minute you’ll see the rest who prefer to be part of the crowd, because eventually they’d be ridiculed for not joining.
But the biggest lesson here – did you catch it?
Leadership is over-glorified. Yes it started with the shirtless guy, and he’ll get all the credit, but you saw what really happened: It was the first follower that transformed a lone nut into a leader. There is no movement without the first follower. We’re told we all need to be leaders, but that would be really ineffective. The best way to make a movement, if you really care, is to courageously follow and show others how to follow. When you find a lone nut doing something great, have the guts to be the first person to stand up and join in.
So here is the big lesson, and one which I hope you really take away from this article. I hope you choose to join the “lone nut” (me), as we try to make a difference in this world. It’s really easy. All you need is a book, and one other person keen to work through their emotional hurts. It goes on sale tonight for 99 cents (usually $6.99). I’d love it if you were to buy one for yourself, and gift it to some of your friends who might benefit from it – and join me in this crazy dance party of a journey of teaching the world how to forgive.
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Leadership Lessons From a Dancing Guy on Starting a Movement
I love this video on Youtube on Starting a Movement. It’s so simple, and inspiring. And it really encapsulates my journey over the last year as I’ve been writing my book, “Cheaper Than Therapy”. So I’ve left the original commentary, and added my thoughts in Italics next to them… The video is attached, it’s really worth a watch.
A leader needs the guts to stand alone and look ridiculous. But what he’s doing is so simple, it’s almost instructional. This is key. You must be easy to follow!
I’ve certainly done a bit of standing alone, and perhaps some looking ridiculous too (just flick through my FB photos, and you’ll probably agree…) I find it easier if I picture an exact person who I’m writing to, whenever I sit down to write. In my mind’s eye, I’ve been writing my latest book to a girl in her mid twenties. She’s perhaps mixed race, had a kid in her teens, and isn’t exactly well off nor educated. So I’ve written it as entertaining, simple and easy to follow as possible, so she applies it, and then shares it.
Now comes the first follower with a crucial role: he publicly shows everyone how to follow. Notice the leader embraces him as an equal, so it’s not about the leader anymore – it’s about them, plural. Notice he’s calling to his friends to join in. It takes guts to be a first follower! You stand out and brave ridicule, yourself. Being a first follower is an under-appreciated form of leadership. The first follower transforms a lone nut into a leader. If the leader is the flint, the first follower is the spark that makes the fire.
I have a couple of followers now – people who have done the course, someone I’m training up to run it (love ya Rahil), a friend doing all of the video and editing, and various other supporters, pray-ers, and of course, my wonderful girlfriend . So I guess I’m past the one person mark in starting a movement! YEEEHAAA!
The 2nd follower is a turning point: it’s proof the first has done well. Now it’s not a lone nut, and it’s not two nuts. Three is a crowd and a crowd is news.
This is really the stage we’re in right now with launching the “Cheaper Than Therapy” movement. I’m still a bit nutty, just not alone Three is a crowd, but I won’t be holding my breath until we make headline news. It may be a few weeks just yet.
A movement must be public. Make sure outsiders see more than just the leader. Everyone needs to see the followers, because new followers emulate followers – not the leader. Now here come 2 more, then 3 more. Now we’ve got momentum. This is the tipping point! Now we’ve got a movement!
Ah, the “Tipping Point”. I do love Malcolm Gladwell’s book by the same name. It truly is brilliant. I don’t think we’re here yet. There are one or two people around the country running a course based on the book (I’ll shortly be releasing a free manual on the subject on this website). Once we start getting news that people are doing it in random places from other parts of the UK, we’ll be approaching the tipping point.
As more people jump in, it’s no longer risky. If they were on the fence before, there’s no reason not to join now. They won’t be ridiculed, they won’t stand out, and they will be part of the in-crowd, if they hurry. Over the next minute you’ll see the rest who prefer to be part of the crowd, because eventually they’d be ridiculed for not joining.
But the biggest lesson here – did you catch it?
Leadership is over-glorified. Yes it started with the shirtless guy, and he’ll get all the credit, but you saw what really happened: It was the first follower that transformed a lone nut into a leader. There is no movement without the first follower. We’re told we all need to be leaders, but that would be really ineffective. The best way to make a movement, if you really care, is to courageously follow and show others how to follow. When you find a lone nut doing something great, have the guts to be the first person to stand up and join in.
So here is the big lesson, and one which I hope you really take away from this article. I hope you choose to join the “lone nut” (me), as we try to make a difference in this world. It’s really easy. All you need is a book, and one other person keen to work through their emotional hurts. It goes on sale tonight for 99 cents (usually $6.99). I’d love it if you were to buy one for yourself, and gift it to some of your friends who might benefit from it – and join me in this crazy dance party of a journey of teaching the world how to forgive.
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October 9, 2013
Cheaper Than Therapy Workshop Group Evening
Hi, here are the details of the new Cheaper Than Therapy, Workshop/ book group that I’m running in conjunction with my new book launch:
What Is It?
Essentially, the book group is a short course based on my new book “Cheaper Than Therapy”. It is run over a 6 week period, and will help you tackle questions like:
how do I forgive?
should I reconcile, and how do I do it?
how do I recognize what my problem is?
what if I don’t want to forgive, but know I need to?
How Much Is It?
The first week is free, then there’s a small charge of £5 for which you get a book and weekly food platters to keep you motivated. (we don’t make any money out of this).
Who Can Come Along?
Open to anyone, regardless of age, background, or belief. It is for people struggling with forgiving someone, or have issues they’re struggling to put their finger on, such as fear, anger, trust, stress, anxiety, insomnia. We don’t claim that it’s a miracle cure, but applying my process may help with the challenges you face.
When Is It?
The first evening is Monday 14th October (7 for 7.30pm), and then runs for the next 6 weeks thereafter. The last night will be the 25th of November.
Where Is It?
We’re running it at the prestigious Washington Mayfair Hotel, in the bar area on the Ground floor. The link is below and is less than a 5 minute walk from Green Park tube.
Google Map Link: https://maps.google.com/maps?q=Washin...
What Is An Evening Like?
Each Monday night session is broken up into 3 sections:
7 – 7.30: Arrive, platters of food are served.
7.30 – 8.15: Group discussions about the chapters that were read that week, and your thoughts and experiences with it.
8.15 – 9: Break off into pairs, talk through your experience of the exercises and chapters. Apply co-counselling techniques. Ideally, it is recommended that you bring a friend along who you trust, but we can find you a partner if you can’t find one.
9 – 9.30: Close.
I hope you join us. It’s very informal and relaxed, and quite a bit of fun really. I promise to do everything I can to make it an enjoyable experience for you. If you have any questions, feel free to give me a call on 07890776179, or email me at mykey at mykeyrobinson.com. Or we have a facebook group too.
It’d be great if you could grab a copy of the book this Saturday, as it’s on sale for the first week for 99 cents (75p).
Thanks again,
Mykey
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October 1, 2013
It’s All About The Debts: What They Owe Us Is The Key to Our Debt Ceiling…
It’s funny, how world affairs often tie in to what’s going on in our own lives. I’m two weeks away from publishing my new book on Amazon (12th of October for those interested), and suddenly the world is talking about the US, and raising the debt ceiling again.
I guess I shouldn’t be surprised, considering the fact that they’ve been doing it for a couple of years now, but this one looks like it could be pretty messy. If they ever get past the partial government shutdown, they’ve then got to talk about how they’re going to pay themselves…
My new book, “Cheaper Than Therapy“, talks alot about debt. Not so much about financial debts, but relational ones. It’s probably the main theme in the whole book. When I say to someone who hurt me “You owe me an apology”, I’m expressing this. Often that’s as close as we get to looking at the real heart of how to forgive. Most of the time, we think that as long as we have forgiven what they did to us, we’re in the clear. If we’re still angry, bitter, or afraid of them it’s irrelevant.
My book is about reframing the question, because when we ask the right questions, we can really get to the root of the issue. Just like the republicans are asking the wrong question (how can we print more money, versus how can balance the budget) we also unintentionally ask questions that don’t really get at the heart of the issue.
The obvious question we all ask is ”What did they do to me?”, when someone hurts us. This is what we focus on most of the time. Unfortunately, it’s the wrong question. When we’re only thinking about the actions they took that were hurtful to us or those we care about. But when you look at the actions they should have done (but didn’t), those that you expected/deserved/required/agreed to, you focus on your expectations, and which were left unmet.
Here is some feedback from someone who did my last Forgiveness book group (next one starts at the Washington Hotel in Mayfair on the 14th October if you’re interested, details here.
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